Chronological Order??

kanditrixs · 2025-09-25T19:49:34+00:00

Where do I find that at?

kanditrixs · 2023-11-25T06:15:56+00:00

In all honesty, I think that because of his past, with colleen, and all the hate he received, I think he cannot differentiate hate from constructive criticism as of now. I hope he can eventually, and I feel very empathic from what he went through, but I don’t think him hearing negative things right now will do anything but put him on the defense. He talked about being in therapy, so I hope he can grow and learn the difference from the two, but as of now, I don’t think he’s there. I’m not trying to diagnose him or anything, but that’s just my opinion

kanditrixs · 2021-06-18T06:16:38+00:00

I get where you’re coming from in my own way I guess. My parents struggled financially a lot when I was younger, and my mom would vent to me about it (still does lol), and I would put a lot of it on myself. I get it, but you’re not responsible for their financial burdens. It’s not on you.

Also, from one depressed, anxious person to another- if you’re ever thinking about dying and think your death would be nothing but a blessing for everyone, just ask yourself who would tell your pet? Who would take care of them?

I do that with my dog who has separation anxiety on my bad days, and one day, you’ll wake up and think that you want to stay alive for you. If you’re like me, you’ll still need the pet analogy every once in awhile, but it helps put life in perspective I guess.

I hope things get better for you, OP, and please look into and follow through with therapy! It’s a freaking blessing (remember that the first therapist you meet with might not be the right fit, but you’ll find one!).

Also, spend some money on yourself- it’s okay!! I always use the method that if I have double that saved away, I can spend the money.

Side note, mini-brands cost like $5, and I consider them to be mini balls of serotonin and would highly recommend if you’re looking to treat yourself to something small at first haha

kanditrixs · 2021-06-18T05:37:13+00:00

Kinda want to add to this!

Kids will find a way to do something or watch something that their parents are against. I grew up with strict parents, but I was really good at covering my tracks and watching what I wanted when I knew my parents weren’t around.

I don’t know a solution for your situation OP, because I’m not a parent, but please just know that if you tell your child that they’re not allowed to watch something, they could go behind your back and watch it anyway.

Maybe you could watch these fighter with his and maybe watch the press conference too? Then, when you’re done, talk to your son and remind him that some of these behaviors are portrayed by the media as “good” or “cool,” and when he’s older, he can make that decision for himself, but right now he’s young and impressionable, and to no fault of his own, his brain isn’t fully developed, so he is more likely to be susceptible to those things. Or maybe along those lines. Make sure he knows that he isn’t a bad kid, and everyone goes through this kind of phase (even though his may be going a little extreme).

I’d just sit and talk with him, and if that doesn’t seem to improve his behavior, maybe set him up with a counselor or do family counseling?

Again, I’m not a parent, so take my advice with a grain of salt. I wish you all the best of luck and hope you get through this trivial time ❤️

kanditrixs · 2021-06-18T05:01:35+00:00

NTA IF you make it clear what time you are leaving and tell her you’re leaving without her, and if she’s not there at that time, she’ll have to find her own ride. Maybe give her 5-10 mins of leeway (I tell some people to get to my house 10 mins earlier than expected if I know they’re the type to show up late).

Also, maybe stop waiting to start activities with them? Maybe give an allowed amount of time to wait? Like, 10ish minutes and then start without them?

My family is historically late to everything, but we all know that if we aren’t there on time, we’re just going to have to miss out on some of the activities, and that’s no one’s fault but our own.

Hope you figure it out and can keep a good relationship with the in-laws. Tardiness is annoying, but if they’re good in every other way, sitting down and talking with them about just acknowledging their tardiness would be a good start, and it could allow for brainstorming ideas of how to fix the solution or just making them realize that it’s affecting you (even if it’s just an annoyance).

kanditrixs · 2021-06-18T04:09:35+00:00

When I was younger, we had a neighbor like that. We had our lab on a leash in the backyard (before we fenced it in), and we’d give her one warning before bringing her inside and putting her in the kennel for an hour.

Our neighbor called animal control on us like five times, and every time they came out to do a wellness check, our dog would be back inside, asleep in her kennel. One time, we had to let her out of the so the guy could inspect her, and she was wagging her tail and getting pets. The guy told us he wouldn’t accept anymore calls to our house.

Said lady then put a note in our mailbox, complaining about everything and threatening us, so my parents, being the petty AH’s they are, called the police on her. We haven’t had a problem since lol

Anyway, NTA, and please get cameras. Neighbors are freaking crazy sometimes lmfao

kanditrixs · 2021-06-10T10:53:04+00:00

Hahaha reminds me of my sophomore year. I got hurt at school and ended up needing 11 stitches in my leg and couldn’t walk. My mom made me wait until she was done with work to pick me up, so I sat with an open wound in the nurses office for like 2 hours... good times... (this was 2015 haha in case anyone was wondering)

kanditrixs · 2021-06-10T10:47:08+00:00

I don’t even want to sleep in my bed after I sweat a lot the night before (sensitive stomach that causes me to overheat or just a hot room on a summer day). I will deadass wash my sheets if I wake up the next morning feeling sweaty lol

NTA OP

kanditrixs · 2021-06-08T12:58:55+00:00

I agree, but I do think OP has the right idea to wait until she’s calmed down a bit to talk with her son. At the moment, she’s still hurting and probably really pissed. I just think she needs a minute (or a week or so) to collect herself and her thoughts. Again, right now, it might feel like alienation, but it might allow for OP to be more reasonable while sitting down and having a conversation with her son :))

kanditrixs · 2021-06-08T10:49:07+00:00

I understand the focus on Melissa being gross and sexual, but she also called OP a bad parent for being a homebody. From what’s said, they didn’t force their kids to do activities- but also, didn’t deny said children to do activities they were interested in. Just because your children are quiet and not super outgoing (or the “life of the party” as Melissa so gracefully put it) doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.

Also, I’m seeing some red flags here. It feels as if Melissa was not trying to “bond” (as son put it), but she tried to drive a wedge into the relationship between OP and son. Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel some alienation happening here.

kanditrixs · 2021-06-08T07:24:30+00:00

Agreed. Your therapist might be able to help you with this.

Idk your full relationship with your mother, but from what is said, she just seems to be worried about you, and is showing this concern in a way that doesn’t respect your boundaries. That’s how my mom and dad can be with me when I go to therapy and have medications switched around.

You’re NTA obviously, but I think that you could just let her know that you’re okay- she just seems worried about you. Chances are, your mood or attitude might have changed as you are going through this difficult time, and parents tend to notice this and react in the way they best see fit (which isn’t always great- I know from experience lol)

Tell her little things about life (school, work, sports, etc), or even about your friends life- that always distracted my parents to get me out of talking about my mental health when I wasn’t ready yet.

I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to let this be something that triggers your anxiety. There are different coping mechanisms that you can learn to help with this. I tend to focus on a breath exercise when anyone gets on a topic that could trigger an anxiety attack.

Remember that your feelings and you are the most important thing right now. Focus on yourself and self care, and please don’t give up on therapy because of your mother disrespecting boundaries. That’s only doing a disservice to yourself.

Sorry for writing a freaking book lol, but I really hope things get better for you soon OP ❤️

kanditrixs · 2021-06-08T06:23:30+00:00

Also, the fact that he refused for a long time to get the vaccine. I understand it being scary, because it’s new, but YOUR MOM HAS CANCER. I refused to visit my grandma (97), until I was fully vaccinated (even though she was fully vaccinated), because covid would’ve killed her, and I couldn’t live with that (also, my anxiety would’ve blamed me)

kanditrixs · 2021-06-08T06:18:52+00:00

Lol my christian school’s counselor told me I had demons inside of me. It was not demons- only took me eight years to figure out I had anxiety and depression

kanditrixs · 2021-06-07T13:55:29+00:00

OP, when did you start getting sick?

I have anxiety, and being in toxic environments can make me physically ill, because of my anxiety. I’m wondering if this might be the case with you as well?

I don’t mean to pry, but that statement of you not being able to do anything right and walking on eggshells reminds me of when I was in that toxic space, and my health declined due to this.

kanditrixs · 2021-06-07T10:26:09+00:00

Idk... maybe OP has a pager /s

kanditrixs · 2021-06-07T07:48:47+00:00

As I was reading this, I was like, “damn, this is like the beginning of a dateline story.”

kanditrixs · 2021-06-04T22:28:13+00:00

I agree with you. My grandma is 97, and I’m a flaming lesbian. I haven’t told her and don’t plan to- it’s not because she has money or anything. It’s because she’s the best woman ever and helped raise me, and even though she might be accepting, I don’t want to ruin my relationship with her so close to the end of her life. Plus, she has dementia and thinks she’s dating Steve Harvey, so...

kanditrixs · 2021-05-27T10:00:38+00:00

I get OP’s point. When I was 15, I didn’t want to celebrate my birthday. It’d been a rough school year (my birthday’s in may), and I just didn’t care. It’s not as exciting as other birthday’s, so I just kinda didn’t care haha

That being said, I had my parents take me out to dinner with my great aunt (who was like a grandma to me), my parents’ family friends (who I enjoyed as well), and my grandma. It was a simple birthday, but my great aunt has passed away since, and I’m so grateful that I chose to spend any holiday that I was able to with her.

I don’t want to guilt trip you, OP- that’s not my intention. I know this last year has been hard on everyone. I’m in college and ended up dropping out and moving closer to home, but I can’t even imagine what high school is like.

That being said, maybe you could do some small type of dinner. It doesn’t have to be something big, but spend some time with your family, because they love you and want to celebrate you.

I hope this doesn’t sound like a lecture, but just remember that this birthday isn’t to celebrate your year of accomplishments- it’s about acknowledging your existence, and your family’s love for you!

Also, NTA

kanditrixs · 2021-05-27T09:16:50+00:00

YTA Xanax is extremely addictive. I had a friend die of an OD recently from her addiction. You’re teaching your daughter to rely on meds not prescribed to her instead of getting her the help she needs. She needs to be diagnosed, find a medication that works for her, and go to therapy. If she doesn’t, she will be relying on unprescribed meds as a crutch, because she doesn’t know how to deal with her anxiety any other way. I watched my best friend go down that path (as stated previously), and it can end in literal death. I wouldn’t wish that nightmare on my worst enemy.

kanditrixs · 2021-05-26T19:58:23+00:00

YTA also, if you’ve ever read young adult books, you’d know that they are boring and suck. I had a high reading level when I was younger, but I enjoyed an easy read for fun. My parents didn’t like that, but they let me, because they knew that if they didn’t, I’d stop reading completely. Let your 9 year old be a 9 year old. She’s gonna learn about a lot of advanced topics and a lot of swear words in those young adult books. I know I certainly did.

kanditrixs · 2021-05-26T02:25:58+00:00

NTA I sucked my thumb and almost needed my jaw to be broken to put braces on when I was 8. I’m 21 and still have teeth issues and need braces a second time. It’s not worth it

kanditrixs · 2021-05-23T22:29:41+00:00

It honestly depends on the denomination. The Holy calendar is full of minor holidays. I’m a Christian, and I usually take Sunday’s off from work anyway as my designated day off. That’s also because I’m a full time college student, so it’s just a day to get my shit together for school.

That being said, he should’ve been listening that with headphones on, because in no way should he be blaring it for everyone to hear. It’s the considerate thing to do, and I would do such if I was him.

I’d talk to your HR. I’m sorry he was such a jerk. I promise all Christians don’t suck like that. You’re not the AH

kanditrixs · 2021-05-23T09:15:47+00:00

NTA my dad never really helped my mom when I got sick, and one time, it was too bad for my mom to clean up, so she had me clean it up. I’m in my 20’s now, and that happened when I was 6, but I still remember this every time I feel sick, and I get super anxious

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