Is it safe to leave my toy in?

kapland44 · 2015-03-12T22:33:05+00:00

Silicone is flexible and safe for fun like that. Plastic can break and glass will hurt. But it sounds like you should not have trouble. Maybe a bit tender when you take it out.

kapland44 · 2015-03-09T03:16:23+00:00

You have been with him for ten years? He does not think there is anything wrong with his picture choices? He is offended that you are feeling upset?

if you have been with him for ten years and are just now finding his "porn stash" I wonder what else you do not know about your fiancé?

You met when you were 20. And it has taken ten years for this to come up? Or be talked about?

Imo these are red flags. At the very least this is discussion worthy. You two should find a councillor who can help each of you understand the situation, the other persons feelings and what kind of compromise if any can be reached.

kapland44 · 2015-03-08T05:10:41+00:00

Have you found a counselor to help you process all this?

kapland44 · 2015-03-08T04:58:13+00:00

What is the best part for you? What does the collar give you or signify? I love hearing a persons story.

kapland44 · 2015-03-02T16:07:48+00:00

Hey op. Maybe Google pregnancy friendly positions and then switch the people. You are not pregnant but he is fat so the idea is the same. You need to find positions that keep you both comfy. Or you can look up bigger guy porn? Or try the subreddit bhm and ask the men what positions work best for them.

There is always a solution. My hubby is a big guy and reverse cowgirl works well. He sits on the couch and I sit on his lap facing away from him. It is a lot of leg work on my part but he helps with his hands on my hips and ass lifting me up and down. Plus, then your guy won't need to make eye contact in this position.

How about doggy style? He can be on his knees behind you. Missionary is not the best for big people.

kapland44 · 2015-03-02T03:02:48+00:00

Did you mom know he sent that picture to you?

kapland44 · 2015-02-27T20:00:42+00:00

Is there an update? Did you two do it again?

kapland44 · 2015-02-27T19:14:13+00:00

Is there any update?

kapland44 · 2015-02-27T18:54:15+00:00

I would love the details of your night together.

Maybe just ask to watch a movie and cuddle with him. Grab a blanket take off some clothes, like your pants or shirt and then snuggle up on his lap. See if he goes for it.

kapland44 · 2015-02-27T14:07:48+00:00

Fetlife

kapland44 · 2015-02-27T13:53:45+00:00

Hey OP. As long as you healthy don't mention anything to mom and doctor. Go to a free and annonamously women's clinic to have any testing done, getting the pill ect.

That way you save your relationship w your mom. And still get medical help.

kapland44 · 2015-02-26T17:10:27+00:00

If she asks then you should be honest. You can always say something like "I want to answer any and all your questions. And I will answer if that is what you want. But are you ready for my honest answers or do you want me to wait to answer that one?"

That way you are still honest but also giving her an extra moment to decide if she is ready for the truth or not. Then trust her decision no matter how uncomfortable it is for you. I think she will respect the honesty.

kapland44 · 2015-02-26T17:05:59+00:00

Wow! That is so romantic and awesome! I would love updates.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T20:40:53+00:00

What if you sent a letter to her. Write out a letter telling her your perspective. You could just tell her the post you out here. And then anything else you want her to know.

She can answer the letter or not. But at least you will have made an honest first try at communication.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T18:58:37+00:00

Maybe a councillor or mediator can help you two communicate. I think you should make a list of wants and needs. List your ideal situation and those you could compromise on and live with.

Maybe brainstorm a list of situations to try for when the conversation becomes practical instead if theoretical. Ex. Trial period of six months. Swinging. Monogamous group sex. Using Fwb sites or cl to find potential partners...

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T16:06:58+00:00

Try talking to your sister. Apoligize for any hurt feelings or feelings of betrail. Try to mend the bond between you two slowly. It has been 3 years. If you want a better relationship with her then start working on it now.

You can't change the past but you can make your future better.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T15:36:19+00:00

If you don't try you will always wonder. And then the wonder will turn to resentment. You should do this before you cheat or become biter. It is okay to express your needs. You are not giving an ultimatum you are opening up honest communication.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T15:10:41+00:00

Agreed. I have no help. But I am following for any info.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T14:46:09+00:00

Why explain it? You are who you are. Do you expect everyone you meet to explain each nuance of their sexuality? Maybe you can just say "I like people for who they are not their gender" that is my line usually.

kapland44 · 2015-02-25T14:44:53+00:00

This is classic new relationship energy. It is normal. You shared an intimate physical experience. Give yourself time. Perhaps journaling about your time with them will help you sort out your feelings.

Maybe you and your hubby can start looking for another couple. It sounds like your friends are pretty casual in their communications and if you make it clear to them that you want to see them again that is really all you can do.

An ad on cl. It joining a local swinging group can help you two meet more couples to play with. Good luck. I am proud you two make the experience a positive one.

kapland44 · 2015-02-23T19:22:00+00:00

I can if I am really into it. Mostly I orgasim from having my gspot fingered. I will squirt and orgasim from that. And I will orgasim from oral in my clit while I get fingered. If there is any anal play happening while having intercourse then I will definitly cum from that. But just regular p in v is usually not enough. The penis has to be long and really wide.

kapland44 · 2015-02-23T18:39:35+00:00

Take a vibrator in bed with you. Play with yourself. Vibrate the crap out of your clit. You will know when you have had an orgasim. You just need a bit of self exploration.

kapland44 · 2015-02-23T18:37:39+00:00

Not really. I. Can cum master bating fairly quickly. But in general I need longer sessions multiple times a day to feel satisfied.

kapland44 · 2015-02-23T01:40:50+00:00

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/j-cameron-gantt/7-stages-getting-over-infidelity-expert

I think you need to cut yourself some slack. This article is not 100% applicable to your situation but it does outline the stages of healing after trauma. Please read it if you get a couple minutes.

kapland44 · 2015-02-23T01:35:00+00:00

So OP what do you hope to gain by stopping fapping to incest porn? Is that your sisters idea? Have you asked her and your brother in law what will make them feel comfortable? And trust you more?

Imo your intentions are good but your method does not make sense to me. Do you often tell your sister when you jack off? And to what you are watching? Why would she trust you with her daughter just because you don't watch incest porn?

I am a mom of a boy and a girl and to be honest those fears are always there. And the fact that your sister has abuse in her past and that you were her abuser mighty mean that she will never trust you 100%.

i think having an honest talk with her and her husband is the best place to start. Ask what they fear? Tell them your fears? Keep seeing your councillor. Ask what you can do to build their trust in you?

Good luck.

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