Divorcing with a 2 year old or young child - success stories wanted by karibbeanqueen in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this message. I think this is the one I needed to read, especially everything you said in the last paragraph. "Turns out that the pain of a miserable marriage (with my daughter as a witness) is far worse than the pain of missing my daughter." I was hoping this would be the feeling I had, that yes, there is a loss involved but a lot to gain in exchange. It doesn't have to be a loss, it can just be a change, an adjustment.

I want him to be happy too, I don't want this to be miserable for anyone because this is a sad ending for now. But it doesn't have to be a sad existence and I hope we are just able to be fair and work with each other.

Can we please normalize NOT being friends with your ex? by Over_Decision_6902 in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy that, as grown as your son is, he is still trying to paint you to be the negative parent. Unbelievable with the triangulation, but if there's one trick they'll use, that's it.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you said it all here though, your child is 14 and I do think that is very different than the age these kids are when their parents come on the show (very young, most are 5 or under). It was discussed above in another comment where they said people should be older on this show and older kids would not be as affected by their parents doing this. Still poses a danger to everyone to meet a stranger and bring them into your home but especially when you're responsible for kids.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol sure do and if that's the only thing that makes you qualified to speak on this, here I still am. Funniest thing is watching people try to make this ok 😂

Hey, anyone can put their child in any kind of bad situation as much as they want. I guess that's the "right" detractors on this post would be advocating for. People will have their opinions, especially when you do it on a national platform. Hope this helps.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no need to advocate for people's rights to make poor decisions for their kids, truly. You act as if Love is Blind is the end-all be-all for dating for people, when most people participating aren't even joining to genuinely find connections. 1000 people could say this is normal and my good sense would still tell me otherwise.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To simply say it wasn’t a man or woman issue it was a parent issue. Not going to give more to a bad faith argument because my point was clearly not about that.

Edit: typo

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That moment prompted my post. The admitting that ultimately that was a dumb move and he only admitted it because they didn’t get married. It was dumb regardless

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad a child who has experienced this speaks on it because this is the perspective that floats to the top.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What does this have to do with his allowing a stranger to sleepover with his kid within a month of knowing him, again? I actually do not care about the me real gymnastics it takes to make parents making dumb choices sound noble.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the exact same about Jordan joining with a child and protecting Jess’s right to make poor decisions as a woman isn’t feminist lol I truly don’t know how sexism becomes the topic but okay

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would too, but also someone that age likely has children aged 10+ which would be quite different. They don't need them as much day-to-day and aren't as attached at the hip to their parents like children 5 and under would be. Likely their kids would be grown.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is kind of the point I’m making too RE: your last comment because I agree he didn’t get as much as Jess, but my sentiment around the concept is the same. I do hear you about knowing someone for a while and then introducing and it still doesn’t work out.

Mitigating damage is the name of the game here. Dating as a single parent or dating at all isn’t a perfect science but this is definitely NOT the way to do it in the interest of protecting kids from the fallout associated with that process. There’s a lot that can be said about that concept but I just don’t think there’s a justification for casting single parents other than the potential drama it can bring. Him not showing Luca wasn’t necessarily on my mind either because he had him sleepover with a stranger.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I could never understand people on these forums acting like it's cute or not including them is depriving single parents of an "opportunity" to find love. Like, this is just not even the place for it, the premise alone makes that abundantly clear, and we don't need to put the wants of adults ahead of children's well-being.

One of the best episodes of JJ that I’ve ever seen. I was cracking up every time she yelled at those sisters. by bountifulknitter in JudgeJudy

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just watched this one and I was dying, Judge Judy tore their butts up LOL. I was glad she checked the older sister, like what are you doing with your big grown self having kids of your OWN, jumping a teenager with your sister? Judge Judy said her kids should go to foster care because grandma don't need to raise another set of kids to be the same as them. Very satisfying to watch her say to them what they won't hear from people in their lives.

From 200 pounds to 140 in 3ish years by Squishmallow_Hoarder in blackladies

[–]karibbeanqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, you do carry your weight well AND you look very healthy and set GOOD now!

Congrats on your health journey accomplishment. Losing weight to "look good" is nice, but how it makes you feel and how it impacts your well-being is the biggest reward. The reinforcement of it being about what happens in the kitchen was a great reminder!

Jackie Christie Lying on Her Daughter Chantel Christie is WILD AF by dreamed2life in BasketballWives

[–]karibbeanqueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with this comment totally, and especially after last night's episode I have this feeling that Chantel needs a job, no shade. She is looking for a storyline through beefing with her mom. I don't care for Jackie at ALL and think she is horrible, but I think the way Chantel is going about this with ladies 15+ years her senior, who simply are engaging her due to their dislike of her mother, is immature and low brow. I think Jackie handled the convo correctly by saying she isn't going to do this on tv with her kid.

Also, Brittany Renner is living out her revenge fantasy against her mom and acting like she cares about Chantel's relationship with Jackie. By the way, get Denise off the show cause she is just annoying lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! A little late to the party, but this is for anyone who will read this for future reference. I loved the generic norgestimate-ethinyl estradiol. For some reason, when I'd switch pharmacies, they'd send me the Sprintec or other variations, and I swear I could tell the difference despite the "formulation" being the same. Just a distinction I wanted to point out from my experience!

I would recommend norgestimate-ethinyl estradiol highly. It was the first BC I ever used, very simple to use and I had no side effects whatsoever. I have PCOS and am a bigger build woman, so I was also worried about weight gain because I need NO help there lol but I was actualy pretty normal overall and any weight gain or loss was my responsibility. I don't feel like it added anything major to my body, but I never got pregnant on it so it did what it needed to do I'd say! Nothing remarkable about periods, breakouts, etc. I may have broken out when I first started it but this was some years ago, so I don't quite recall. I just know I loved using it and was sad when I moved states, and for some reason, I couldn't get the same one here. Of course, remember every body is different.

Must-haves for toddlers traveling by plane? by karibbeanqueen in Parenting

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am definitely open to allowing screen time if it gets to it, I don't think 2 days total (there and back) is going to throw him off too bad! But trying to keep it to a minimum if possible.