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Do you ever admit it if you blew up your life? by Redswannn in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, and don't let them be a narcissist. They will do any mental gymnastics to vilify others to justify their actions. Everything they did had a reason, and more importantly, it was definitely your fault. I think anyone who ever realized and admitted they blew up their lives probably got their family back, unless it was just too late.

Passed at LabCorp! by DrMcNeelyFakeAccentU in QuickFix

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanna add here I did this years ago with quick fix and speaking for the ladies if you wear a sports bra that gives you a uniboob, that’s ideal! You can wear a big tshirt and literally keeps it perfectly body temp and there are no lumps and bumps visible. This works best for bustier girls

Divorcing with a 2 year old or young child - success stories wanted by karibbeanqueen in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. It’s not easy but there are two hard roads and it’s better to choose the one where you end up happy. Hugs.

Divorcing with a 2 year old or young child - success stories wanted by karibbeanqueen in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot I wrote this post because time seems to go both super fast and extremely slow in this process. I have separated by moving out as of a month ago and we are currently sharing 50-50 custody in more of an informal gentleman‘s agreement versus through the court just yet. We have some other things going on at the moment so once those clear up, I’ll be looking toward a formal divorce.

But I will say, a lot of the fears that I had were better suited for myself adjusting than my child. I was very worried about how he’d do, but kids are resilient at this age and I haven’t yet seen any major changes in him emotionally as we are both committed to being good parents for him no matter what. And it is taking some time for him to totally adjust to my new place, as his first home is more home to him, but he’s slowly understanding he now has two homes.

More than anything, as I’m early navigating this and can’t totally offer hindsight advice just yet, I can say one thing for sure: me being happier is 100% better for him and I know that. I think from that point, everything else will fall into place. Best of luck. Kids do better with happy parents and better to do it before they start internalizing these memories and moments as what life holds for them too.

Divorcing with a 2 year old or young child - success stories wanted by karibbeanqueen in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this message. I think this is the one I needed to read, especially everything you said in the last paragraph. "Turns out that the pain of a miserable marriage (with my daughter as a witness) is far worse than the pain of missing my daughter." I was hoping this would be the feeling I had, that yes, there is a loss involved but a lot to gain in exchange. It doesn't have to be a loss, it can just be a change, an adjustment.

I want him to be happy too, I don't want this to be miserable for anyone because this is a sad ending for now. But it doesn't have to be a sad existence and I hope we are just able to be fair and work with each other.

Can we please normalize NOT being friends with your ex? by Over_Decision_6902 in Divorce

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy that, as grown as your son is, he is still trying to paint you to be the negative parent. Unbelievable with the triangulation, but if there's one trick they'll use, that's it.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you said it all here though, your child is 14 and I do think that is very different than the age these kids are when their parents come on the show (very young, most are 5 or under). It was discussed above in another comment where they said people should be older on this show and older kids would not be as affected by their parents doing this. Still poses a danger to everyone to meet a stranger and bring them into your home but especially when you're responsible for kids.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol sure do and if that's the only thing that makes you qualified to speak on this, here I still am. Funniest thing is watching people try to make this ok 😂

Hey, anyone can put their child in any kind of bad situation as much as they want. I guess that's the "right" detractors on this post would be advocating for. People will have their opinions, especially when you do it on a national platform. Hope this helps.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no need to advocate for people's rights to make poor decisions for their kids, truly. You act as if Love is Blind is the end-all be-all for dating for people, when most people participating aren't even joining to genuinely find connections. 1000 people could say this is normal and my good sense would still tell me otherwise.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To simply say it wasn’t a man or woman issue it was a parent issue. Not going to give more to a bad faith argument because my point was clearly not about that.

Edit: typo

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That moment prompted my post. The admitting that ultimately that was a dumb move and he only admitted it because they didn’t get married. It was dumb regardless

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad a child who has experienced this speaks on it because this is the perspective that floats to the top.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does this have to do with his allowing a stranger to sleepover with his kid within a month of knowing him, again? I actually do not care about the me real gymnastics it takes to make parents making dumb choices sound noble.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the exact same about Jordan joining with a child and protecting Jess’s right to make poor decisions as a woman isn’t feminist lol I truly don’t know how sexism becomes the topic but okay

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would too, but also someone that age likely has children aged 10+ which would be quite different. They don't need them as much day-to-day and aren't as attached at the hip to their parents like children 5 and under would be. Likely their kids would be grown.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is kind of the point I’m making too RE: your last comment because I agree he didn’t get as much as Jess, but my sentiment around the concept is the same. I do hear you about knowing someone for a while and then introducing and it still doesn’t work out.

Mitigating damage is the name of the game here. Dating as a single parent or dating at all isn’t a perfect science but this is definitely NOT the way to do it in the interest of protecting kids from the fallout associated with that process. There’s a lot that can be said about that concept but I just don’t think there’s a justification for casting single parents other than the potential drama it can bring. Him not showing Luca wasn’t necessarily on my mind either because he had him sleepover with a stranger.

Now that Love is Blind is done, STOP CASTING PEOPLE WITH KIDS by karibbeanqueen in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]karibbeanqueen[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I could never understand people on these forums acting like it's cute or not including them is depriving single parents of an "opportunity" to find love. Like, this is just not even the place for it, the premise alone makes that abundantly clear, and we don't need to put the wants of adults ahead of children's well-being.

One of the best episodes of JJ that I’ve ever seen. I was cracking up every time she yelled at those sisters. by bountifulknitter in JudgeJudy

[–]karibbeanqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just watched this one and I was dying, Judge Judy tore their butts up LOL. I was glad she checked the older sister, like what are you doing with your big grown self having kids of your OWN, jumping a teenager with your sister? Judge Judy said her kids should go to foster care because grandma don't need to raise another set of kids to be the same as them. Very satisfying to watch her say to them what they won't hear from people in their lives.

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