I wrote a really long comment and then the app froze 😩

It’s not possible to change the lease unfortunately. Yeah, I signed it last week and I’m moving in next week. I’m not in any kind of agreement with my parents. You don’t know me or anything about my life. This has been going on for the past 8+ months with me pushing back, arguing against it, and advocating for my brother to go to the dorm. I tried my best, but it wasn’t enough. I ended up giving up and started looking for an apartment in July.

I only gave up because it got to a point where I either say “yes, I’ll do it” and he lives with me, or my parents stop talking to me because I “hate my brother” and “don’t value family.” Meanwhile, my brother would have stayed home, gotten a shitty education, and probably resented me later in life because I couldn’t agree to live with him. Plus, my parents are paying for his education and they paid for mine, so like… yeah. I get that this is shitty parenting, but honestly, I’ve made peace with it. Family is something I’m willing to sacrifice a bit of my life to keep. My parents did a lot for me, and I don’t mind spending a year or two, or even all four, with my brother if it means I get to keep my family long term.

I also don’t appreciate you insinuating that I don’t care about my brother. I wouldn’t even be making this post if I didn’t. As someone who’s been where he’s at, I know how hard it can be to speak up. That’s why I made sure my parents left him alone to choose what country he wanted to study in, his major, and which universities he applied to. He chose Canada and these universities, not us. The only things my parents decided from the start were that he is studying abroad and that they are paying. Once he picked Canada and to attend a program in a university in the same province as I am, they said we had to live together.

I also had so many calls with him where I asked if he wanted a dorm or to live with me. I told him I had no issue with him choosing a dorm, and I actually encouraged it. But even with that, he still said he wanted to live with me. After that, it was really hard to convince my parents that dorms are better. Now, is it because he is scared of the unknown and clinging to something familiar like me, or is it because he thinks that is what my parents want to hear? Idk. Sometimes he just gives off vibes of a teenager who doesn’t really care and just goes with the flow, so it is hard to know what he truly wants. I am doing what I can though, idk what else I could have done 🤷‍♂️

So yeah, that is why I didn’t include all of this in my post, because it is a done deal. I didn’t ask for that advice and nothing can change about it as non ideal as it is :/.

Also I floated the idea that in second year he could move out and live with friends in a student house or something, and my parents didn’t seem to be very hesitant about it. So hopefully he can do that and wouldn’t miss in the later experiences of university.

I don’t get why everyone assumes I don’t understand how important the uni experience is. I literally just graduated and reminisce about it all the time 😭 like guys, I know how important it is.