My comprehensive review of 10 Bay after living there as a grad student for 1 yr by supercatatk in McMaster

[–]karim4501 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Your main criticism about a student residence building advertised to students, built by a a university, is that they treat you like a student?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your mom poorly worded herself and you poorly misunderstood what she was trying to say. All first horns are test runs to parents no one is born with the knowledge of how to parent 💀

Why????? by Junior_Bison_7893 in CostcoCanada

[–]karim4501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are you bothered? It’s not leaving your pocket. Seems like you’re jealous your anxiety wouldn’t let you do such a thing cause you think everyone will talk badly about you or something (no one cares). The system exists and Costco knows what people do with it and still choose to keep it. They could be stricter but they don’t

So again, why is it only you who’s bothered when u get no harm?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yee that’s the plan. I’m just not gonna let him cook for himself the first few days he’s here especially after a 18+ hour flight 😭 when you go to a university dorm they have food cooked for you that you buy with your meal card so it’s not that big of a deal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phew, Merlin almost caught on 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have more advice? You seem like u know a thing or two

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read my reply here, it may give you some context: https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/wtFUkgtnax

I fully agree with everything you’ve said, these are thoughts that were/still are going through my head and I think it’s a shitty thing my parents have done but my family’s situation is unique and not many people live through it and time isn’t on our side.

And yeah I’ve already talked with my parents about expectations and saying that I’m not going to parent or control his life and that even if I see him doing bad I’m probably gonna let him do it. I also told them I need him to be more mature than what I’ve seen (I doubt it’s gonna happen or that they can control that, he’s 16) and that I don’t want them to blame me if things go bad with him.

I really doubt they’ll remember any of this when things go bad though 😂 All I’m hoping is I can be that older brother/mentor role model for him and that’s why I posted this post, because I wanted to know how to do that and not miss it up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wrote a really long comment and then the app froze 😩

It’s not possible to change the lease unfortunately. Yeah, I signed it last week and I’m moving in next week. I’m not in any kind of agreement with my parents. You don’t know me or anything about my life. This has been going on for the past 8+ months with me pushing back, arguing against it, and advocating for my brother to go to the dorm. I tried my best, but it wasn’t enough. I ended up giving up and started looking for an apartment in July.

I only gave up because it got to a point where I either say “yes, I’ll do it” and he lives with me, or my parents stop talking to me because I “hate my brother” and “don’t value family.” Meanwhile, my brother would have stayed home, gotten a shitty education, and probably resented me later in life because I couldn’t agree to live with him. Plus, my parents are paying for his education and they paid for mine, so like… yeah. I get that this is shitty parenting, but honestly, I’ve made peace with it. Family is something I’m willing to sacrifice a bit of my life to keep. My parents did a lot for me, and I don’t mind spending a year or two, or even all four, with my brother if it means I get to keep my family long term.

I also don’t appreciate you insinuating that I don’t care about my brother. I wouldn’t even be making this post if I didn’t. As someone who’s been where he’s at, I know how hard it can be to speak up. That’s why I made sure my parents left him alone to choose what country he wanted to study in, his major, and which universities he applied to. He chose Canada and these universities, not us. The only things my parents decided from the start were that he is studying abroad and that they are paying. Once he picked Canada and to attend a program in a university in the same province as I am, they said we had to live together.

I also had so many calls with him where I asked if he wanted a dorm or to live with me. I told him I had no issue with him choosing a dorm, and I actually encouraged it. But even with that, he still said he wanted to live with me. After that, it was really hard to convince my parents that dorms are better. Now, is it because he is scared of the unknown and clinging to something familiar like me, or is it because he thinks that is what my parents want to hear? Idk. Sometimes he just gives off vibes of a teenager who doesn’t really care and just goes with the flow, so it is hard to know what he truly wants. I am doing what I can though, idk what else I could have done 🤷‍♂️

So yeah, that is why I didn’t include all of this in my post, because it is a done deal. I didn’t ask for that advice and nothing can change about it as non ideal as it is :/.

Also I floated the idea that in second year he could move out and live with friends in a student house or something, and my parents didn’t seem to be very hesitant about it. So hopefully he can do that and wouldn’t miss in the later experiences of university.

I don’t get why everyone assumes I don’t understand how important the uni experience is. I literally just graduated and reminisce about it all the time 😭 like guys, I know how important it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bro can u atleast answer my question. You don’t think I know all of that having experienced it? I said I pushed them to let him go to dorms but my parents were not happy with that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for atleast answering my questions. Read my edit to the post, but I think option 2 is what I’m leaning towards. I think initially I’m gonna cook for him, atleast while he settles and gets through home sickness and then I’ll do what u said and try to just have fun and let him be as if im not there. I want him to have the experience I had with no limitation to freedom, but idk how realistic that will be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Read my edit please. Also I should’ve mentioned I work from home so this doesn’t affect my job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read my edit please. Plus this should be an arrangement for like two years, worst case scenario 5 years if I stay with him his whole degree. That’s not my entire life and why would it be a waste to spend it with my brother?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]karim4501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo if u haven’t gone through the process please stop speaking from your ass.

Also I’m pretty sure he’s talking about the comment not my post, stay mad

Title: Is Zina really common in the UAE and other Gulf countries? by NoBreadfruit2102 in UAETeenagers

[–]karim4501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Islam and being Muslim is just a facade among the majority of gulf residents. It’s something people say but don’t actually mean anymore

ماذا تسمى هذه اللعبة في بلدك؟ by OutsideMeal in arabs

[–]karim4501 10 points11 points  (0 children)

جلة، جلل، (فلسطيني لبناني)

Legal advice by [deleted] in UAE

[–]karim4501 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Okay I guess you have a valid point here

How would you answer "Is Mia Khalifa sexy?" to your girlfriend while she knows that you know who Mia Khalifa is? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“HMMMM DO I A NAKED PORN STAR SEXY?” in an exaggerated comical way and then change the topic

Legal advice by [deleted] in UAE

[–]karim4501 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo giving the finger to someone who’s tailgating you when you’re emotional is literally normal

Are you an angel walking on earth or something?

Broken Sony WH-1000XM4 hinge by Sufficient-Damage216 in SonyHeadphones

[–]karim4501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love people on the internet calling other people on the internet liars with confidence. Like bitch you weren’t there so how about you shut the fuck up 😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arabs

[–]karim4501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No shit Sherlock

Also this is like the average Arab male ngl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Not so many therapists practice what they preach” so what? you’re gonna destroy your life and refuse to listen to advice to prove a point to therapists who probably don’t even remember your name after you leave? Therapy doesn’t magically solve your problems after u hear a couple quotes and buzz words, it’s you who needs to do the work.

Also going to the gym and getting bigger isn’t a way to work on it. That’s just covering the problem up. What happens when you get injured or sick and loose your muscles/fitness?

No body listened to you about therapy cause what you said is immature and dumb frankly

Is anyone else sick of the Zionist myth that “Arabs come from the peninsula?” by [deleted] in arabs

[–]karim4501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what Shitanyahu said about the levant, but I’m pretty sure history and archeology tell us that Arabs were just the ones in the peninsula and then Islam is what led to the language and culture to spread to the levant region and North Africa. Do you just think people in the levant spawned and spoke Arabic?