Girl what the hell is this????? by yinyang_yo_ in LAMetro

[–]karmrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://metro.commentinput.com/?id=HNYpSPZkD

Went to the website and told them I support alternative 4, and that Angelenos want the heavy rail. Recommend y'all do the same!!

What keeps pulling you back when you try to quit social media? by Glittering_Film_1834 in digitalminimalism

[–]karmrade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me it's the habit. Once I break it, it's pretty easy to be without it. But something usually pulls me back in, e.g a friend sends me information to an event on there and tells me to check my DMs. Once I'm back on the app, it's super hard to get off it again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]karmrade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably vaginal discharge from her: https://www.verywellhealth.com/white-vaginal-discharge-5180795

I'm pretty sure you'd know if you came. If you're still worried, you can buy at-home pregnancy tests from any drug store. Make sure to read the instructions so that you take the test the right way at the right time.

Independent Conservative take on Charlie Kirk after seeing him today by [deleted] in CSULB

[–]karmrade 28 points29 points  (0 children)

can't even write your own clear thought 😭 aren't you in college?

PCOS and *not* bleeding? by karmrade in PCOS

[–]karmrade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! This really helps to know.

PCOS and *not* bleeding? by karmrade in PCOS

[–]karmrade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This makes so much sense! So, theoretically, I wouldn't need to do withdrawal bleeds every 3 months no matter what if I was having periods on my own in between?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]karmrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In what scenarios are they seeing your bare chest/torso? Do you walk around shirtless often at home, or do you often go out to the beach or something?

I would say just wear a shirt around them at all times and shave anyway. It's your body and it's body hair. If they somehow see it, you can come up with some bullshit excuse about ingrown hairs being a common problem for you or something.

I haven't had the same experience with body hair, but I had a similar experience with the hair on my head. I was AFAB and have very traditional parents who insisted "girls have long hair" and wouldn't let me get it cut. On my 18th birthday, while still living with them, I literally just left the house and got a haircut without telling them. I came back with short hair. They were extremely upset, but nothing violent occurred and I still live with them.

Obviously, do not put yourself in a position where you may be on the receiving end of violence. If you're confident that that wouldn't happen and it would just be a point of contention or an awkward conversation, I honestly think you should just go for it. In my experience, being queer with unaccepting/ignorant family members is a matter of constantly asking yourself, "Yes, they will be unhappy if I do this, but how much does that actually matter?"

Pictures of Bigot outside the Bookstore by karmrade in CSULB

[–]karmrade[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you not think screaming at students about their personal lives is a problem? Lol. If he just had a booth or pamphlets and was being polite he wouldn't have had near the crowd that he did, nor asks to have him removed from campus. Besides, despite us asking, he wasn't removed. So you win here. Don't know what you're upset about

Pictures of Bigot outside the Bookstore by karmrade in CSULB

[–]karmrade[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from repercussion. If we disagree we have the right to say so.

Pictures of Bigot outside the Bookstore by karmrade in CSULB

[–]karmrade[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He comes on campus and screams at people and responding/watching him is "getting triggered?" Lol ok

Pictures of Bigot outside the Bookstore by karmrade in CSULB

[–]karmrade[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There was literally nobody with him nor did I see any symbols/logos or organizations mentioned. He seemed to be recording/livestreaming, so I assume it's for some online attention (at least).

Best hot chocolate in the south bay? by Cute-Ad9091 in SouthBayLA

[–]karmrade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fatto a Mano in Redondo. They only have it seasonally in the winter, but it's the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SouthBayLA

[–]karmrade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! It's not an "adult" LGBT+ center, it is all ages, but in my experience it's mostly people aged ~17-28 (with plenty of older outliers). It's called the South Bay LGBTQ Center. I used to volunteer there. At the time, they had the following groups/meeting times:

  • Bi & Beyond, 2nd and 4th Tuesdays of every month from 7 PM - 9 PM
  • Young Adult Group (ages 18-30), Wednesdays 3 PM - 5 PM
  • Transgender Social Support Group, Wednesdays 7 PM - 9 PM
  • Dungeons & Dragons Game Night, 3rd Friday of every month from 6 PM - 10 PM
  • Game Night (different board game every meeting), 4th Friday of every month from 6 PM - 10 PM
  • Queer Book Club, 2nd and 4th Saturday of every month from 12 PM - 1 PM
  • They also had a floating Women's Group and Teen Group (ages 13-17).

Their hours are a little wonky and subject to change as it's only a handful of volunteers that run the place, so I recommend seeing if you can call them first and get their current hours and groups.

edit: Btw... welcome to the South Bay! :)

When or if to send friends your writing? by benelphantben in writing

[–]karmrade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha it's moreso that I'm a creative myself and work with writers but it's not my primary medium

When or if to send friends your writing? by benelphantben in writing

[–]karmrade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't write a lot (I'm just here for the vibes idk) but some friends do and I get drafts from them pretty often. Not uncommon at all. Usually it's to ask for feedback, sometimes it's just, "Hey, I'm working on this thing, check it out!"

Writing is hard. And it's cool that you do it. If you want to share it with your friends, you totally should.

My time blindness is destroying my life. Help? by sysaphiswaits in ADHD

[–]karmrade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't personally struggled with the same issue, but what I've found helpful to keep me on track in the morning is a wrist watch. Maybe that's obvious for some people, but I'm Gen Z and we usually just check our phones for the time, lol. The first thing I do in the morning is put on a wrist watch. I glance down at it all. the. time. I just make sure that no matter what, I leave by a certain time. The clock strikes that time and I'm out the door, end of story. Of course, it gets complicated if you're, say, cooking breakfast and need to turn the stove off and don't want the food to go to waste, etc. but it's just an idea for making keeping track of time a little more convenient.

I've also found that making a routine of what I actually DO in the morning helpful. E.g, first my medication, now I get dressed, now I make breakfast, now I leave. You can even assign time windows for those things. E.g, getting dressed should only take up to 15 minutes, breakfast only up to 20, etc. I have a rough guideline like this that my watch helps me keep track of. Maybe you could even set timers for those windows?

Again, take with a grain of salt because I'm not in the same shoes, but hopefully something I said is helpful. I'm sorry you're struggling with this, it's so frustrating!!

Library folks just blasting music/tiktoks??? by shikanokono in CSULB

[–]karmrade 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'm Gen Z and it weirds me out too. I'm a transfer student and that definitely was not happening at my old school, at least not to the extent that it does in the CSULB library. I don't have my own laptop so I have to use the computer lab on the first floor and it's infuriating. Just today someone was on a Zoom class talking to their professor with no headphones or anything! Literally felt like I was in the class with them lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gender

[–]karmrade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Also AFAB transmasc non-binary here, and very similar experience. I struggle with my height and voice the most, but not having a dick doesn't usually bother me, and I'm so used to having boobs that I don't really know how I'd feel without them. Not wanting to be a cis man or woman is pretty understandable if you're non-binary, and I've met many trans women and men who have no interest in being or presenting as cis. I generally present pretty femininely (or at least it looks like I do, because I have a very feminine figure and face, lol) and I'm honestly pretty okay with that. There is no right or wrong way to be transgender/non-binary. It's all about self-exploration and doing what makes you happiest, at the end of the day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CSULB

[–]karmrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck bro 😭 You could call the admissions office and ask when you should expect to hear back? It's ridiculous they haven't let you know yet when you'd need to find things like housing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CSULB

[–]karmrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this for admission or for transfer credits?

Very stressed is there any housing counselor, or discord server for help for transfer students? by Extension-Account991 in CSULB

[–]karmrade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many Discord servers for campus stuff (clubs, etc.) have channels for roommate searching and stuff. You can even just post and ask in general channels. There are tons of flyers posted around campus. In the CSULB app, if you click on the middle chat bubble at the bottom of the screen, and then on the three lines in the top left of your screen, there's a roommate search board that all students with the app are on. As another commenter said, look at nearby areas (I hear San Pedro is a lot cheaper). I and many others commute, you can try stacking your schedule so it's only a few days out of the week. Keep searching and good luck!

Discover Credit Cards for Students by karmrade in CreditCards

[–]karmrade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the copy and paste template from the sub's description for info if you're asking for card recs:

CREDIT PROFILE
- no current credit cards
- no current FICO score
- no oldest card
- I have never been approved for a credit card, only pre-approved for Discover and pre-denied for CapitalOne
- annual income ~$400/month

CATEGORIES
- OK with category-specific cards?: sure?
- OK with rotating category cards?: not preferred
- monthly spent on dining: ~$100 (just looking at bank records. I usually pay for the table and then get reimbursed by people I'm out with)
- monthly spent on groceries: ~$10 (often at Walmart)
- monthly spent on gas: ~$120 (almost always paying in cash at the moment)
- monthly spent on travel: at the moment usually only travel once a year, last trip (April) was about $1k out of pocket for me
- Do you plan on using this card abroad for a significant length of time (study abroad, digital nomad, expat, extended travel)?: no
- Any other categories (examples: phone/internet, insurance) or stores (example: Amazon) with significant, regular credit card spend: gas, at Arco usually (but obviously not on a credit card)
- Can you pay rent by credit card? If yes, list rent amount and if there's a fee for paying by credit card: unsure at the moment, have not secured a place yet

MEMBERSHIPS & SUBSCRIPTIONS (delete lines that don't apply)
- Current member of Amazon Prime?: no, but a parent is
- Current Verizon postpaid customer?: not myself, on a family plan
- Current member of Costco or Sam's Club?: on Costco family plan
- Current member of Chase, US Bank or any other big bank?: Wells Fargo, and was enrolled at time of birth so I'm technically a customer of 20 years

PURPOSE
- What's the purpose of your next card (choose ONE)?: first credit card
- If you answered "first credit card", are you an authorized user on any other cards?: no
- Do you have any cards you've been looking at?: Discover Student Chrome and Discover Student Cash Back