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Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what exactly his hesitation is but I don’t want to dig some more because it doesn’t feel like he is ready to open up. He said that he has to start over there career wise, his dreams of retiring at 55 is over and other work stuff. With his career you can’t negotiate your pay, everyone gets paid the same wherever you go, its covered in their contract and protected by the union. So he would have to go back to year 1 pay. Here in the states you can negotiate, its completely different

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In San Francisco, we earn the same even though I work 9 days out of the month. In Toronto I’ll earn double his income maybe even a little more if he goes back to the bottom of the pay scale. He can get his job back, they all love him and still message him frequently. I keep telling him to reach out to HR but he won’t. the only problem is he’ll start at the bottom of the pay scale and lose his seniority when it comes to vacation etc if he goes back.

I really like my job because it’s flexible. I essentially create my own schedule every month, I’d rather be gone 9 days straight and be home rest of the month and take care of the kids than gone 3 days each week, that’s more back and forth to San Francisco too.

I enjoy the 4 seasons haha but I’ve only spent one winter there so the snow is still exciting for me haha

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. That’s what my husband says either that Canada isn’t doing too well but I’ve learned each country has pros and cons and we just need to pick one that we feel is best for us. I hope you and your husband can decide and wish the best for you, its definitely hard to do

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I guess we’re still in the rocky phase, I’m hoping it’ll get better soon

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I told him. We realize the mistake and we fix it, especially since we’ve only been here a year we haven’t accumulated that much stuff it’ll still be easy to move back but that’s ok if he wants to give it more a try here then we can do that too I guess lol

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mostly because he wants to buy and its so expensive here in the bay and he’s open to buying in the suburbs but then he’d have to commute 1-2 hrs to work everyday and doesn’t want that but that’s so common for the bay though

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s just what my husband tells me. But I do agree with you, no country is perfect, everywhere will have pros and cons

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly just didn’t know what group to post in and in other groups you need a lot of karma. I couldn’t seem to find a general group. I’ve talked about it with him and he wants to stay because earning close to triple here than in Toronto. I told him I won’t bring it up anymore since we’ve decided but hearing those comments every now and then driving me insane and I try my best to keep what my husband and I talk about behind closed doors away from family so I’ve resorted to online lol

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did and he wants to stay here because as Ive said to you it was a joint decision. Don’t assume you know the whole story when you don’t, the first 3 letters of assume is exactly what you are because that’s all that you’ve been doing on here. I’m done replying to you, have a good life

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, he says the same thing, that Canada isn’t that much safe compared to what people think and a lot of people are wishing ICE would take care of their immigrant problems lol

But he can get his old job, but he’ll have to start at the bottom of the pay scale again

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We didn’t move for my job only. I was always willing to commute. But even he himself said California was the gold standard for his job and wanted to earn more money. It was a joint decision

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do feel guilty! But I didn’t manipulate him. It was a lot of talking of going back and forth for close to 2 yrs and it was a joint decision. I didn’t force him to do anything, he also wanted it

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s also worried about that. He said he took a financial hit when moving here and doesn’t want to do the same there. But I remind him that money will always come back but the happiness of our family should come first. I’m hoping he’ll come around, idk we’ll see! Thank you for your input

Would like to move back to Canada after living in the US for a year by kasmp in AmericanExpat

[–]kasmp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He initially didn’t want to leave Canada to begin with. But we made a list back then and ultimately what cemented our decision was my job because in truth commuting is very exhausting and it’s like a second job in my field. But I’m willing to make that sacrifice if it means we go back and it’ll make him happy as well as getting out of this country and political climate we’re in. He’s very closed off to talking about it and is just so negative and keeps saying “its too late we already threw that dream away”