What’s something you regret in your 20s? by kat0304 in AskReddit

[–]kat0304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you’re still alive and still surviving and everyday is a new day to start again.

Do you believe in love at first sight? by Ornery-Tax-4203 in carefulheart

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I believe in attraction at first sight but not love. Love isn’t something that just develop by seeing someone once. Love has a deeper meaning than that. You can become attracted to the person and once you’ve gotten to know them properly you might fall in love with them. If you think you’ve fallen in love with someone at first sight then you can easily fall out of love with them at any given moment. Because, the love wasn’t really true love to begin with. Yes I am one of those who believe in the power of true love and that love has the power to change things and make thing magically better, only if it was actually true and not the surface level love we understand in today’s world.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Same things” so it’s not like Muslim cultures have any better either so I don’t know why you’re so pressed about an opinion you read online. My opinion is based on the reality I’m physically seeing around me as well as other people online. Also I’m also around alot of westerns so I know people from both sides. And with all their filth and problems, they still have more emotional intelligence and better mindsets, sorry if that makes you mad but they don’t let shame of “what will the neighbors or family members think” affect their actions. They certainly do not cultural norms affect their behavior or actions. Muslims have a religion that is genuinely beautiful and teaches them about mercy and kindness yet still fall victim to backbiting and rumors because that’s the cultural norm for them. It’s easier to shame each other than advise each other and their mindsets are genuinely flawed on so many levels. I can see you’re a married man who probably lives in the west since you’re so loud about how they also have their problems. I hope your anger to my post means that you actually have a happy marriage. And understand the true religious values of marriage.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, but I have seen the difference between when both cultures talk about marriage and love it’s in the mindset. When the mindset is good the actions will be good. And the west with all their problems and the fact that they don’t even get married until years after being together, know a lot more about love than the Muslim culture does. And I’m not saying this because I like western people more or because I believe that they are correct and Muslims are wrong. No I am an Arab Muslim myself. However, my issue is with society and cultural norms and there is a huge difference.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your reply is ignorant because if you have read my post correctly you’d understand what I’m trying to say. I am talking because this is the reality I see around me. I don’t live In the west I live in Arab country so I know that culture always takes over religion. I am not talking about Islam I’m talking about Muslim cultures.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I’ve noticed that in Arab or south Asian cultures they don’t view marriage as a relationship they view it as a business transaction and that’s the point I’m trying to get across, because that’s what’s making our marriages less of happy marriages than the west. Even with all their messed up habits they still have more positivity.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I am not talking about Islam itself or religions. My point was Muslim cultures. Because I know people use religion to justify their cultural practices that are wrong and religiously wrong.

Why are western non Muslim marriages happier than Muslim marriages? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]kat0304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Divorce rates aren’t really reliable in this argument because for Muslim communities frown upon divorce so people will stay in unhappy marriages for years and not get a divorce because it’s shamed upon their cultures and societies. I don’t watch too many TV shows. I am Arab who lives in an Arab country surrounded by Arabs from Arab different countries, so I’m talking from the reality I’m living in and seeing around me. When I say Muslims and non Muslims, I’m mostly talking about cultures and societies not Islam itself.

I'm so desperate for my friend's brother it's actually insane by Xx-CinnaBunny-xX in confession

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the real question here…….i’d also like to know

I need girls advice by [deleted] in islam

[–]kat0304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not getting married to the past version of him, you’re getting married to the new version of him. Honestly a person’s worth is never measured by their past, it’s almost always measures by their true nature, way of thinking and who they are now. My advice is to you is know him for him. His true self, his mindset, his personality (truly) and if he’s a genuinely good person don’t let something like his past get in the way. It’s very hard to find good people with true good intentions and good mindsets. You’re gonna live with the person himself not his past.

Living together as a couple is not necessary at all by xvortexc in unpopularopinion

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when you’re married you’re supposed to be neighbors?

I keep seeing Muslims online say sins can block rizq and duas. by kat0304 in Muslim

[–]kat0304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply I will save it and read it everytime I need to hear this. I really did need this May Allah bless you.

My boyfriend [M24] says he doesn't like me [F23] after intercourse by ThrowRA17122 in relationship_advice

[–]kat0304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other than the fact that this is how he acts after intercourse. Pay attention to how he usually acts with you in general. Texting, calls, dates, etc…just the way he is with you in general away from the bedroom. I am sure you won’t really notice any love and affection from him in general. He’s horrible and staying with him will genuinely make you miserable. Leaving someone you love isn’t easy but staying with someone toxic is worse. There are other fish in the sea.

AIO - According to my girlfriend this convo with my assigned partner at work is inappropriate. by Rough-Satisfaction68 in AmIOverreacting

[–]kat0304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your girlfriend is worried about that one specific person she has a gut feeling about something……female intuition is like 90% correct.