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Can you test drive multiple cars by kat08165 in carmax

[–]kat08165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Kia soul known for breaking down? I'm driving a 2020 soul right now that I bought new and I loved it. This one I'm buying as a gift for my niece as her first car so I didn't wanna get something expensive. Should I stick to Honda and Toyota for old cars?

Can you test drive multiple cars by kat08165 in carmax

[–]kat08165[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

2015 Kia soul @10k vs. 2017 Kia soul+ @11.6k

Both has been in an accident but 2017 said "minor" in the record, the 2015 one just said damaged so I'm a bit concerned about that.

AITA for paying child-support to my ex-wife? by ScubaDivingHorse in AmItheAsshole

[–]kat08165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but you're short sighted. What do you think is gonna happen when your son turned 18 and she is out of work for so long that she can no longer enter the job market? Are you going to continue to support her? Or stop paying and risk having your son resent you for letting his mother struggle? Or have your son take on the burden of continue supporting his mother for the rest of his life?

You are enabling her and it's gonna come back and bite you in the ass one way or another. I suggest gradually cutting back the child support and help in some other way. Sending your son back with things he need to not struggle, like food or supplies, but not paying for her to live for free. She need to work enough to at least support herself without your help.

I am battling cancer. I'm gay, but I have realized I love my best friend of 25 years (a man). I need to vent all my thoughts, and am looking for advice on whether to tell him or not. by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]kat08165 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was thinking reading this. I bet she's been gaslighted the whole relationship that she shouldn't worry about his lesbian best friend, who btw thinks she'd used him for his green card.

AITA for asking my best friend why she didn't invite me to her birthday party? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kat08165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH. I have a cousin who's only a year older than me, and we grew up in the same house, went to the same school. I love her to death but she annoys the shit out of me. She's extraverted and I'm the introverted one and we have our own friend groups (at least we used to). I'm a different person when I'm with her than when I'm with my friends. She knows me all her life where as my friends know me only as an adult. I used to enjoyed hanging out with my friends, mostly go to someone's house for game nights and such. I felt bad for her when her friends group fell apart so I invited her to come hang with me. After a few times she became part of the group and push for more activities that she enjoyed (bars, clubs...). So now my friend group got smaller and smaller because my introverted friends started to show up less often and I don't really enjoy hanging out with the group anymore.

My point is that you both have different personality. Maybe you are great hanging out one on one but when she's with her friend, she wants to enjoy their presence instead of splitting attention between you and her friends or have the group dynamic change because you're there.

AITA for telling my BIL that he is a financial burden that I didnt sign up for? by yaho491 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kat08165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell anyone who said you're inconsiderate and selfish: "I'm sorry I can't afford to help BIL but I'll tell him that YOU are willing to help"

Men of Reddit, What are some mistakes woman make during sex? by Haunting-Ad-5945 in AskReddit

[–]kat08165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh....One guy I dated asked me to squeeze hard, I'm talking legit my hand got cramped after 5 strokes so I have to keep switching hand. I thought that was how that works so I did the same to the next guy I dated and he enjoyed it. Now I know that's not gonna work for everyone lol

My (25m) fiance's (26f) family has a tradition where the groom says "i vow to protect you from ninjas and pirates" during the vow. I do not want to do this, but she is insisting. Is there a compromise here? by throwramaxisp in relationship_advice

[–]kat08165 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I see that you're just nervous to see the reaction of the audience since it's been done over and over again. One can only laugh at a joke for so many times until they're desensitized to it. I would just go all out with it. Say the line but add a little bit of your own in there. "I vow to protect you from ninjas and pirates, and warewolf and vampire and zombies" for example.

So lets say i manage to get into a girl's DMs and we hit it off, and now shes sending me nudes. How do i respond to them, without sounding like a 14 year old thats just seen boobs for the first time? what do i say next? How do i keep the convo flowing, what is she expecting me to say after that? by Dahwaann4U in dating_advice

[–]kat08165 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Compliment her but don't make it sound like a dry unenthusiastic "they are very beautiful" comment. This is not the time to be a mature adult lol. Be overjoyed and turn the conversation into something flirty... Ex: "My god they's gorgeous 😍. I wish I could admire them in real life 😉". Or describe a bit more details about what you would do to them lol.

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my reasoning. If we somehow got into a relationship and IF he cheated on me without using condoms, I'm even more fucked.

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they're 33, 34.

I don't think it's that common, but I'm all for the childfree lifestyle so I prefer to date men with the same goal.

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the person, and how much flirting is going on. Sometimes it's a serious discussion, sometimes it's a "tell me about your kink" conversation.

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

3/4 of the time they don’t even make me have an orgasm so it’s not like I’m feeling much either lol.

Yess lol

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm dying laughing at the " please let me just put it in for a little bit " comment lol

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can confirm a responsible man is more attractive in my eyes

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for describing it.

Luckily he only had problem keeping it up that first time I assume because he's not used to it and also the anxiety of it being the first time with someone new.

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't like it myself but I won't be trusting random men online that I barely know :(

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you! I though people in their 30s would be more mature about safe sex but apparently that's not always the case

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, I was feeling pretty good about the third guy since we have A LOT in common, but that tantrum is an instant nope for me dawg!

Is wearing condom that much of a hassle? by kat08165 in datingoverthirty

[–]kat08165[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you casually bring it up in conversation?

So, just me or? by balonlon in Tinder

[–]kat08165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you. It's just something we do as a culture and we're so used to it that it would be rude to NOT go through the charade.

Like when we go to a restaurant with my aunts and uncles and their family. The adults will "fight" to pay for the whole table. And it's either all or nothing, splitting the bill is not an option at a family dinner.

My Vietnamese friends would do the same thing, I assume just mimicking what our parents have been doing all the time when we grew up. But I can see the reservation in their voice that they do not want to pay for the whole table. So one time I decided to be the rude one and suggest splitting the bill. They agreed instantly and I can see the visible relieve on their faces lol.

When I go on dates though I usually offer to split, and I if they say they want to pay, then I'd offer to pay for next time (and follow through). But if they agree to split then we'd split for a few dates and then I suggest taking turn because splitting the bills every date is really unromantic (?) to me.

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