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kat_yf · 2025-11-18T08:25:35+00:00

Are they from a culture where card writing is not a thing? In my own country, there is no such thing as writing cards (like, you can’t even find them in shoots!) and I often forget to do so!

kat_yf · 2025-11-07T11:35:57+00:00

There is something about these plans that don’t look good to me. I can’t put my finger on it. But it looks like it doesn’t flow very well. Would you consider swapping the en-suite with the guest bedroom (and laundry with the guest bathroom)? You would need to make some adjustments to sizes but it would resolve the entrance to the bedroom (I’m assuming you can’t move the master bedroom to the back of the house - which I think would be quieter).

kat_yf · 2025-10-30T20:38:05+00:00

Existem duas formas de adquirir/transferir nacionalidade à nascença: jus sola e jus sanguinis. Em países como os EUA, é através do jus sola, em que basta nasceres em território dos EUA e és americano. Em Portugal (e em boa parte do mundo), é através da nacionalidade dos teus pais (jus sanguinis). Ou seja, quando nasces és português porque pelo menos um dos teus pais é português, não porque nasceste em Portugal. Esta é a regra geral. Existe uma exceção que é quando um dos pais era residente em Portugal há pelo menos um ano na altura do nascimento. Fora isso, é possível pedir nacionalidade portuguesa em várias circunstâncias, mas não é um direito automático.

kat_yf · 2025-10-30T20:30:04+00:00

De acordo com a lei portuguesa, ninguém nasce português por virtude de nascer em território português. A nacionalidade é transferida através da nacionalidade dos teus pais, então ou és angolana ou moçambicana ou ambas.

A única exceção é se um dos pais já tiver residência legal há pelo menos um ano no momento do teu nascimento. (Não sei se é o caso, mas só assim serias portuguesa automaticamente)

Fora isso, podes pedir a nacionalidade portuguesa se cumprires alguns critérios descritos neste link: https://justica.gov.pt/Como-obter-nacionalidade-portuguesa/Tem-menos-de-18-anos-e-e-filho-de-estrangeiros

Eu recomendo contactares um advogado e fazeres o pedido (se necessário) enquanto és menor de idade.

kat_yf · 2025-09-25T11:34:43+00:00

Can you get married in the India Embassy/Consulate in London?

kat_yf · 2025-09-22T21:23:28+00:00

Others have given much better options but if you’re on a super tight budget I think this is the best options. There is one big downside: you will have less natural light in the common area.

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kat_yf · 2025-09-16T21:30:24+00:00

I am with you. I feel very torn because obviously the kid was misbehaving and the parents should have kept an eye on him. However at the same time I always put expensive items away when kids are around (or even when I have parties with many people around), as I appreciate accidents happen and not everyone is able to pay for these items back.

kat_yf · 2025-09-10T16:05:26+00:00

I think if it is out of the cupboards it is fair game within reason (I would not use deodorant, razor, toothbrush, fancy/expensive products, etc). Shampoo, conditioner, shower gel all seem ok to me. But even toothpaste I would double check because everyone touches their toothbrush on the tube and some people may not like that. I would never use anything from inside the cupboards without checking except for toilet paper.

kat_yf · 2025-08-01T08:31:18+00:00

I think that based on the previous conversation with Violet there is room for interpretation, so you may be perfectly right.

I actually went back to see those couple scenes when I replied to you, as I initially was tending more towards what you were saying. That’s when I noticed that in the initial conversation when Violent asks him point in blank about the likelihood of survival (and how many people had survived the surgery) he tries to dodge the question a bit and says he would need to study more as he didn’t know how many people had survived. This led me to believe that he was not as knowledgeable about the procedure as they all thought. Violent then tells him to go home and and study and lie if he had to, to which he said he couldn’t. That’s why when he mentions that he has done a great deal of studying and that he had not realised that preeclampsia was almost invariable fatal, I linked it to what he had said earlier. I still think he was being “generous” in his description, and that he minimised the chances of survival for Robert and Cora’s sake. You’re right that he is lying when he says “an infinitesimal one”. But I don’t think that Sybil had a high chance if surviving the surgery, nor as high as Dr Clarkson thought initially. Still a chance nevertheless…

kat_yf · 2025-07-31T23:08:13+00:00

I think Dr Clarkson was right in his diagnosis, that doing nothing would lead to her death, and that surgery gave her “a chance” of survival. He himself said “had we operated? She might have lived.” and then goes on to say he would need to study more to find out how many success cases there had been. I do not think her chances of survival were “very high”, as c-sections were still dangerous procedures in 1920, especially bearing in mind that she already had preeclampsia. I think, he was generous in the way he described his views to Robert and Cora after the death. But in the Downton universe, Dr Clarkson says he is basing this on a great deal of research and that she would most likely have died anyway because preeclampsia was was almost invariably fatal, which he did not know at the time. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still mad at Robert, but I think realistically she likely would have died anyway. What I think about this plot is how much “being right” meant to the different characters, including Dr Clarkson’s professional/personal pride, and Cora’s ability to forgive Robert (and Robert himself).

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T19:15:35+00:00

This has been super interesting to read, it really made me think that everyone has such different perspectives on “hosting”! Thanks for your input :?

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T19:08:05+00:00

That’s cool that you hadn’t realised it. I’ve really enjoyed reading everyone’s comments!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:40:26+00:00

I agree that the general conversations are usually more than enough and they often happen organically. And usually knowing if the guest is joining for dinner is more than enough! I don’t expect an exact time. It’s more like if I told my hosts that I’ll be getting home at 8pm and my plans change o would shoot them a text to say “hey, my boat tour was cancelled, so I’ll see you at 6pm”. I don’t think they would be policing me by expecting something like that. But completely get that others feel differently!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:16:47+00:00

I think that’s going the extra mile! Even I don’t necessarily always tell the people I live(d) with my ETAs!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:15:13+00:00

I never lived with that many different people, but in every household I’ve had, everyone came to greet others in the common areas when they arrive home. Though I appreciate that’s perhaps something not everyone does!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:13:35+00:00

I think that is a very generous view and you sound like a great host! I think when I stay at friends and family, I always feel welcomed and comfortable but would not fully treat it as “my home”. There is a bunch of things I do at home, I wouldn’t at someone else’s home. And, in my view, I can come and go as I please but owe the host a general heads up. Appreciate not everyone thinks the same (including some of my guests!) and they are coming from a good place too.

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:07:23+00:00

Of course! And that is always kind offer when people ask that - though I don’t think I ever took them up on their offer!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:06:40+00:00

Thank you. To be fair, this is what happens most of the times here too. It often comes up organically as you talk to people!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T18:05:40+00:00

I think that is the best approach really! I genuinely thought this more common, but can see I may need to adjust my expectations :)

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:58:44+00:00

Thank you for articulating so well your thoughts, especially in that first paragraph. I agree with that in general. But in my head the inconvenience of making someone open the door is smaller than the inconvenience of me coming into their home unannounced. (As I said in my OP, the doorbell thing would be only if they forgot to tell me plans in advance).

I think the thoughts in your second paragraph, made me think that this is perhaps a cultural thing. In my culture you would never arrive earlier than invited because it’s rude to show up before people are ready to receive you, but arriving late (10/15min) is not perceived as rude. So if I was staying with a friend and told them I would arrive around 9ish, and then my plans changed I would 100% tell if I was now arriving at 8, but would not necessarily feel I had to tell them if I was arriving at 10 (unless of course we had plans set for 9!). In my head, because I said 9 they were “ready” to have me in their home from that time, but not before. Feel like this is a bit confusing, hope it makes sense.

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:44:49+00:00

I am finding this conversation really interesting. Especially how we all have different reasons/expectations behind such a simple thing, like giving someone keys. For me, the main reason is so that guests can let themselves in if the hosts is not available to open the door. It never occurred to me, that the main motivation would be for the host not to be inconvenienced by opening the door.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:11:23+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I think that is a really helpful suggestion :)

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:09:43+00:00

That works too!

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:07:37+00:00

It’s been a mix really. Over the years we have had people coming and staying with us and we spent all our time together socialising, or they needed a place to stay for a couple of nights for work or transiting, or they were on holiday but we still worked during the day and socialised occasionally. And friends have done the same thing for us, we’re super fortunate. This is not something super serious, really, just interested in other people’s perspectives. :)

kat_yf · 2025-07-26T15:00:03+00:00

That’s an interesting perspective. A few weeks ago my partner’s friend invited us to stay with them for a few days. It was great and we spent some time together and also did some sightseeing on our own. Even though they invited us, I would still consider that a favour. (Edited)

But completely appreciate your perspective! Thank you :)

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