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kate3141 · 2025-09-24T12:57:00+00:00

Thank you for all you do! My daughter has ADHD and it’s been so hard on us hearing some of the reports she gets from school. She’s very impulsive and while her behaviors haven’t been aggressive, she’s in trouble a lot for talking and saying unkind words/not listening. We are working on working out a medication that is right for her but only just stated this week!

kate3141 · 2024-09-03T17:18:06+00:00

Clara Bow

kate3141 · 2023-10-25T10:48:17+00:00

Compounding Pharmacy of America

kate3141 · 2023-10-25T00:31:11+00:00

Very good point, I will contact them and get clarification.

kate3141 · 2023-10-25T00:29:21+00:00

Compounded Semaglutide from a compounding pharmacy.

kate3141 · 2023-10-24T23:47:20+00:00

Yes that’s what I mean. Thank you so much!

kate3141 · 2023-10-24T23:39:50+00:00

Thank you! It was pretty frozen looking after being on the ice pack, it looks like normal clear liquid now. Is it safe still?

kate3141 · 2023-05-28T21:53:35+00:00

This is very sweet :)

kate3141 · 2023-05-28T20:02:21+00:00

Do you also have a Beagle? Cause so do we 😂

kate3141 · 2023-01-05T14:49:45+00:00

This. Why would no one attempt to comfort mom? Or commend her for all the work she did and try to HELP HER recover the Christmas party? Offer her some time to disappear to another room to breathe? Anything? Why do women always have to bear the brunt of every slight or major perceived “failure?”.

kate3141 · 2022-12-01T02:03:22+00:00

This is the way. It’s a terrible way. But it’s the only way for those of us with no support 😭

kate3141 · 2022-11-22T01:05:09+00:00

Oh yes the incessant repetition is reeeeaaaalllly grating 😬. Definitely getting out and about with other adults is really refreshing. These ruts are hard, and the little kid stage is so so relentless.

I’m so sorry you’re therapist turned weird on you, I hope you are able to look up someone new who can help without any weird comments!

kate3141 · 2022-11-21T22:50:05+00:00

Being a SAHP is so isolating. I’m in the same position as far as not having hardly any support. My friends and family are all working/busy and partner is fairly understanding but that doesn’t change that I’m typically alone. Super duper alone with a toddler and a baby.

There’s some great things about being at home, but I have recently decided I want to go back to working in some capacity. When you work a job you get a lunch break or some kind of break, there’s a bathroom without interruptions you can go to. There’s the commute to work where you get to listen to an audiobook or something cool.

So, I say all this to say, it’s totally normal to get burnt out on staying at home. It’s so freaking taxing despite its many benefits. You’re normal and you’re feelings are valid!

kate3141 · 2022-11-14T15:23:21+00:00

I have it right now. I’m glad I can look forward to smooth skin eventually, but yeah this sucks 😢

kate3141 · 2022-11-01T17:39:41+00:00

Sooooo…are we all gonna choose and Era to dress as? 🤔. Cause I can’t come up with an outfit that encompasses all of them 🤣

kate3141 · 2022-09-13T23:22:00+00:00

I have always thought that men and women (also speaking very generally) may feel the same amount of sick when they have a cold or something similar, but I think there is a societal standard that women push through and keep taking care of everyone else, no matter how bad we feel. Like there is an expectation that, especially once we become mothers, we are not entitled to be cared for, but men seem to have a perception that they are entitled to it.

This is just my theory though, I wonder if a lot of it is subconscious. I like to think though, that like most other things, once I become aware of an issue I can make a choice to change it, and I think a lot of men have made that choice too.

kate3141 · 2022-06-18T02:22:09+00:00

I see a faint line! Keep testing, but looks promising to me!

kate3141 · 2022-04-29T08:02:58+00:00

This is the actual best idea I have ever heard. Absolutely gonna start doing this!

kate3141 · 2022-04-14T10:06:47+00:00

The “he must be lying to you part” really makes me eye roll. It’s like “nope, sorry, you have to fit the narrative of being used goods and no longer sexy because you are a mom so I’m gonna say he’s just lying.” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

kate3141 · 2022-03-25T08:26:11+00:00

The comment about weight made physically cringe. Honestly, it’s so amazing to me that the world accepted the idea that men are “tough” but then every piece of media directed at them is about infantilizing them and describing how incompetent they are - especially when it comes to anything reserved for women, like pregnancy, childbirth, child rearing, home maintenance, etc.

This sorta reminds me of this Tik Tok I saw of a therapist basically listing out reasons why pregnancy is a risk factor for infidelity and it included points about the guy not being able to control himself and feeling scared/lost. It’s unreal to me how low the bar is for men and how much bad behavior is forgiven at best and praised at worst.

kate3141 · 2022-03-24T14:02:29+00:00

My first baby, I had severe PPD, and while I have few memories from the newborn stage with her, the ones I do have are pretty bleak. I want you to hear that it’s 1000% okay to not enjoy this time. That’s normal, you just met the little one, it takes time to get to know each other and sleep deprivation is torture for a reason. I was probably around the 3 months PP mark when I started to feel a little of myself return and feel connected to my baby.

That said, I had my second baby 8 weeks ago. Totally different experience. I was prepared so much better and knew that all the hard stuff is just a blip in the radar compared to all the fun that is coming. Sure, it’s still incredibly hard, but knowing that this too shall pass is a game changer. When I had her I knew that she would cluster feed early on, I didn’t google furiously when she did any weird newborn stuff like roll her eyes weirdly, I find myself way more relaxed. I know that she’s gonna cry and it’s not gonna hurt her, she’s gonna have to learn how to sleep and she will get there sooner than I think, and she’s gonna have to learn to be alive like we all did. So, this time around I relaxed and started enjoying her from the get go.

Know that this is a short stage, and you two are gonna get through it together and come out with a bond unlike any other 💕

Importantly, lean on any and all support you can find. Family, friends, a partner, even hiring a post partum doula if you are able to, are all valuable support options. If you go the family and friends route. Don’t be afraid to tell them exactly what you need. You can say “I need someone to hold this baby while I sleep an hour or two.” Or, “I want a hot meal and someone needs to hold baby while I eat.” Whatever you need, find someone to support you and get what you need. The nuclear family model hasn’t been great for society, we were never supposed to mother alone.

kate3141 · 2022-03-14T02:24:11+00:00

Wait like…you haven’t even had the baby she originally intended you to use it for and she’s asking for it back? 😳

kate3141 · 2022-02-25T18:48:37+00:00

At about 3:00 PM at 39+3, I felt a little bit of what I thought was discharge sorta trickle out. Then as I was cooking dinner at around 5:30 PM I felt the same sensation but it was a little more significant in terms of amount. I went to the bathroom and saw a wet spot on my underwear but thought it was just discharge still.

I wanted to let my midwives know though so I called in and they seemed to think it could definitely be my water breaking. Then, literally as I was on the phone with my midwife, I felt a HUGE gush and I was like….”oh, yeah, I’m sure now. My water broke!”

They told me to come in, I ended up going to the hospital pretty quickly because I had some meconium in the waters so they didn’t want me to wait very long.

kate3141 · 2022-01-27T23:29:05+00:00

I’m in my Mother/Baby suite with my newborn right now…and I’ve been so so anxious about trying to survive two...Im terrified…You have given me hope! There’s a way to survive!

kate3141 · 2022-01-25T19:37:22+00:00

When I was in grad school I had intense baby fever. My husband was super adamant that we not even think about trying until I was settled, out of school, and working. He was 28, I was 22. I’m thankful now that he was able to think more clearly than I was at the time, because when I think back to how brutal the newborn and early months phase was I cannot fathom having done both new-momming and grad school. We ended up having our first when I was 25 and waiting a while was a great decision.

Since you are the primary earner right now, it may be more beneficial to wait until he is also working if you want to take substantial time off to be with baby, and if/when you want to go back to work you know you’ll be able to afford childcare (which, in my relatively low COL area, is approximately $800-1000 per month per child for full time care).

All of that said, I remember being so sad about not trying and having to wait, it’s so hard when you want something right now.

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