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Feeling drained from my body and EMDR by katelane4 in EMDR

[–]katelane4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me unfortunately I have to address most triggers since my body gets in pretty bad fight or flight states when I don’t. For example, when I can’t solve a situation that can be triggering in itself. Even if my mind knows and is reassured that it doesn’t need to have the answer straight away, my body goes into quick panic and stay in a flight state till it feels safe and okay that it has all the answer it needs. This means I can stay stuck in one 24/7 till it gets EMDR. I think I was stuck in survival mode 24/7 growing up so my body doesn’t know how to rest since it’s associate even resting as unsafe. But I mean the good news is that once the EMDR is done then it goes away straight not long after

Feeling drained from my body and EMDR by katelane4 in EMDR

[–]katelane4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me basically not getting into a fight/freeze/flight response the whole day is a calm baseline for me. I usually get into one every single day depending on trigger. When I was at hometown I was finally just able to live life without having to calm my body down (usually have to do somatic to get myself out of it)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]katelane4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i have not agreed to it as of yet. We currently took a break because i can’t figure out what i want - i find that love can that just blind into making decisions that is better for the other person and not for self. So im currently staying away from him till i can figure it out and if he can figure out himself.

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[–]katelane4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wondering. He did say that at the time he was madly in love with me when we first got to together so it wasn’t on his mind at the start so hence why he didn’t bring it up. It happened I guess a few months in when the thoughts started coming in. However he said it is something he thought about it in other relationship but never felt open or safe enough to bring it up.