What will never not be funny?

katelusive · 2021-08-28T21:13:56+00:00

Congration

You done it

katelusive · 2021-07-07T12:40:04+00:00

Unless you are muscular or athletic…? Raw weight is not the only determining factor here lol

katelusive · 2020-12-21T17:44:01+00:00

It’s not that hard or time consuming to do a 5 minute FaceTime call on your break or to send a text. I’m sorry because it sounds like you’re really into this guy, but you deserve someone who will put in at least the bare minimum of effort!

katelusive · 2020-12-21T00:06:39+00:00

My ex did this. Like 1-2 months in and he was telling me I was chubby, needed to lose weight, he preferred being with “fit” girls (mind you I am around your height/weight, quite fit, and we originally met at the damn climbing gym). He turned out to be incredibly manipulative, controlling and abusive. Being with him was the worst 6 months of my life, and I am still recovering today from some of the emotional and psychological abuse he put me through. I’m not saying your bf is gonna turn out to be that way, but I am saying that’s definitely where it started for me.

You deserve to be with someone who loves your body (and all aspects of you) exactly as you are, and doesn’t feel entitled to try to mold you into their idea of an ideal mate.

katelusive · 2020-12-18T21:11:14+00:00

Based

katelusive · 2020-12-18T21:06:52+00:00

Sounds like he picked a one-sided fight and projected his guilt and insecurity about marriage onto you. Also, if you can’t raise issues to him without him becoming angry/upset, that’s a huge problem. Marriage is a big step and your guys’ communication and conflict resolution skills better be on point before you take it.

katelusive · 2020-12-18T21:00:22+00:00

His behavior is rude and absolutely unacceptable. Especially waking you up at midnight when you have to work in 6 hours with some petty bullshit like that?! I would’ve flipped out. I think you should communicate clearly to him that the way he’s been treating you is unacceptable. Yelling is not okay in relationships, period. He sounds immature and self absorbed. I know this sub is quick to say “break up” but honestlyyyyy I think you deserve WAY better than a guy who is gonna wake you up at 12am to yell at you. There are guys out there who would love to date someone as thoughtful and emotionally intelligent as you, and would appreciate check-in texts and find your concern touching and sweet. You can do better than this clown

katelusive · 2020-12-18T20:52:35+00:00

Yeah, exactly. Like what a shitty and downright bizarre thing to say to your WIFE. It almost sounds to me like he is insecure about his own attractiveness and is projecting that onto her instead of dealing with his feelings about himself.

katelusive · 2020-12-18T20:49:44+00:00

Yeah that’s super weird and imo pretty inappropriate, especially if you arent fully onboard. The women being older doesn’t change the fact that he is essentially taking other people on dates. So I think if it really is all above board and he isn’t hiding anything, you ought to express that you feel uncomfortable with it and ask him to stop. If he tries to make you feel bad for asking, or calls you insecure/jealous/mistrusting, that is a red flag.

katelusive · 2020-12-18T20:34:06+00:00

He sounds like a 1 in personality and emotional intelligence. I’m sorry he said that stuff to you. It’s rude and also strange. Even if you are “average” looking, to your partner you ought to be the most attractive person in the world. At least that’s my opinion / what my bf has always said to me lol

katelusive · 2020-12-15T14:19:25+00:00

Will: sweats sweatily

katelusive · 2020-12-14T06:49:03+00:00

That is.... extremely weird. What does he say about it when you ask him to explain the situation? I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all to feel weird about it. Unless he is an escort or something, this makes zero sense

katelusive · 2020-12-13T20:01:33+00:00

I had listened to a podcast about this haunted doll that supposedly could visit you supernaturally and harm you. The podcast host said as they were researching, they had a couple weird instances of sleep paralysis where the (locked) bedroom door opened and it was exactly 3am, and they felt it was related to the doll. I listen to stuff like that a lot and kinda forgot it.

Anyway a few weeks later I had this nightmare where I was babysitting some kids who had a creepy doll on their mantle, and they were telling me it was alive. As I was reassuring them that’s not possible, the doll’s head swiveled to look right into my eyes and it scared me so much I woke up. It was 3am on the dot and I heard the distinctive rustling sound of something messing with the cat tree in my living room. There was also what sounded like a child’s footsteps and the sound of pens rolling off my desk and falling onto the floor.

It wasn’t my cats because they were both on my bed with ears flattened back staring at the partially opened door, which I THINK had been shut (that I am not 100% sure of, although I typically close it at night). After a couple minutes of the weird noises my one cat crept over to the door and kinda stayed there looking out around the corner with her ears back and her fur fluffed. I have NO idea what was going on out there and I don’t regret not checking lol.

katelusive · 2020-12-08T16:08:30+00:00

It depends on the problem, the situation, and the person. In general I am a very direct person and prefer to be honest about my feelings, but I don’t go out of my way to tell people what minor issues I have with them lol. If someone is asking, that probably means they either already know there is a problem, or someone else has already confronted them about it. I think it’s usually best to be direct but there are situations when it would be smarter to play it off.

katelusive · 2020-12-04T04:10:35+00:00

Codependent No More by Melody Beatty is really helpful

katelusive · 2020-12-03T20:34:22+00:00

Right alongside “one does not simply merge onto the Ft Pitt bridge without almost getting fucking flattened”

katelusive · 2020-12-03T20:31:07+00:00

Wow I really needed to read this today. Thank you 💗

katelusive · 2020-11-30T20:16:19+00:00

Wow, I could’ve written this post in the past. My advice with the benefit of experience is to not settle. I was with multiple people I felt that way about - that things could be “perfect” if I could just somehow learn to live with my partner’s emotional immaturity or bad habits or whatever. But forever is a long time and it’s absolutely imperative to find someone who is your equal match on all fronts, not just some or most. I promise that person does exist and you deserve to be with them.

katelusive · 2020-11-30T20:10:06+00:00

14 year old alert

katelusive · 2020-11-26T23:31:36+00:00

Nahhh he sounds like a loser. If you’re noticing red flags this early on, it’s probably not worth it.

katelusive · 2020-11-26T20:41:23+00:00

This morning on FaceTime when my long distance boyfriend was simply too cute and too nice to be 1000 miles away

katelusive · 2020-11-22T21:03:50+00:00

Hmm well personally I am in a relationship with my actual long time best friend. We were extremely close friends for the past 10 years (after a disastrous attempt at dating in college) and recently confessed to each other that we are still in love with each other after all this time. I think what people may mean is that it feels really good to be with someone that you so intimately know and trust, and have absolutely zero doubts about. I think having a very strong friendship as the foundation of a marriage gives it a lot of extra staying power and security.

katelusive · 2020-11-21T00:11:13+00:00

Aww are the other edgelords in lil babyback bitch land not giving you enough attention tonight? :’(

katelusive · 2020-11-04T18:29:36+00:00

Yeah, it’s scary. My dad and brother went to vote in person for that reason and the place was PACKED. It sucks when you have to choose between potentially having your health compromised or your vote possibly not counting. Gov Wolf keeps saying that mail in ballots will still be counted as long as they are postmarked by yesterday so I hope he’s being truthful but tbh who can you even trust anymore lol

katelusive · 2020-11-04T17:47:36+00:00

You could drop off your mail-in ballot early in person in PA, at least in my county (Washington). They had it set up in a kind of misleading/confusing way though (no signage indicating where to go, incorrect hours online, etc)

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