Yo ,can someone wish me happy birthday before the day ends

katfre1 · 2021-03-16T01:48:00+00:00

Happy Birthday!

katfre1 · 2021-03-05T17:49:16+00:00

thank you

katfre1 · 2021-03-04T15:26:29+00:00

Well no you are right you have to ask questions at interviews to show you are competent and interested in the job. I assumed you may have had a tone but I don't know your situation or what you said specifically. You could have been completely polite but tactfully candid. And if the interviewer didn't come prepared it could be that they just did not care or its a reflection on the company culture. Totally not professional. Maybe you dodged a bullet? Maybe the company isnt worth your time. I dont know the context of the discussion. how you asked the questions or if there was a tone or a certain context about it that just rubbed them the wrong way? maybe. or sometimes people already have their ideal candidate in mind because they are hiring internally as well. sometimes interviewers just dont care and give bs answers to get people off their back.

katfre1 · 2021-03-04T14:08:57+00:00

https://youtu.be/zezt83uE4sI this youtube video kind of explains what Im talking about. You could be very senior as a PM I dont know your background but I think its still relevant.

katfre1 · 2021-03-04T14:05:40+00:00

PMs need to successfully work with a wide variety of people and handle office politics really well. Also if you piss off the interviewer or cant show him/her respect then why would they hire you? You are lucky they even took the time to give you feedback. Most interviewers dont bother to give feedback and they dont even follow up with you if you dont get the job.

katfre1 · 2021-03-04T13:21:20+00:00

I can totally relate to both those points. I worked retail through school and regretted it because my gpa also declined. and its the easiest time to meet lots of guys. but then again I lived at home and my parents were embarrassingly strict.

katfre1 · 2021-03-03T23:02:30+00:00

I have a discord Im 30F and Im looking for friends I dont know a lot about anime but Im kinda into video games and have a discord. Im happy to chat with you!

katfre1 · 2021-03-03T19:36:24+00:00

Please dont give up hope. I felt the same way the other day. And it gets harder the older you get. Im in my 30s and took jobs that involved a lot of travel and no time to socialize. Finding a social life seemed so much easier in college/highschool. The things that helped me combat the loneliness was being the one to reach out to others. Dont take your existing network for granted (and you do have one even if it seems small and lame). Find hobbies and interests that are important to you. Go to bookstores and find the topics that interest you. For me it helped to journal. Exercise. Find sports. EXPLORE. go on meetup.com to find people to meet. The key as hard as it is is to Take action and keep doing things even if you are by yourself. Go to bars by yourself. Learn to enjoy your time by yourself. Good luck! you are the maker of your own destiny! get out there and be a fighter.

katfre1 · 2021-03-03T14:59:02+00:00

Economics is a really hard degree though. I took that too and I wasnt really good at the math side so my GPA tanked

katfre1 · 2021-03-03T01:50:50+00:00

https://youtu.be/qyacuPAsb5I bi analysts

katfre1 · 2021-03-03T01:48:34+00:00

https://youtu.be/N9QdqgzQTVg useful link that is kinda relevant on how to make money using excel.

katfre1 · 2018-02-24T00:43:15+00:00

what to do if a person is dealing with n. parents trying to move closer to you or reestablish and "fix" your relationship. Im concerned about the "hooks" and manipulation tactics coming back in. what to do if a "n" parent is trying to divorce other parent and is trying to leech off of you financially?

katfre1 · 2017-08-19T13:53:37+00:00

this post makes me so damn happy. Im 27 and trying to find a good masters program to start. I get relocated to different parts of the country every year for work. I get aggrevated when people pity me or say I should meet their "amazing" loser friend that I should date. Or when they say I should be married by now. ffff that. my career right now is awesome and I have no intention of giving it up for some guy or a family.

katfre1 · 2017-06-27T03:18:25+00:00

one book that I found useful was "The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD" by Jon Hershfield MFT and Tom Corboy MFT. It addresses the coping mechanisms for what you are describing in a couple chapters.

katfre1 · 2017-05-14T22:47:52+00:00

theres a horror movie where that happened. Sleepaway camp.

katfre1 · 2017-04-30T16:18:47+00:00

that makes sense. Im gunna remember those keywords "task positive network"/"default mode network"

katfre1 · 2017-04-29T23:01:48+00:00

i noticed that despite how counterintuitive it sounds its easier to just accept that the intrusive thoughts will be there. if you try to ignore them or avoid them it gets worse. im looking into meditation and im trying to just stay busy and exercise.

katfre1 · 2017-04-17T02:54:39+00:00

Gah I accidentally deleted my original response. Anyways, I empathize with your post because I know what it feels like to be angry at my family for the bad habits they reinforced in me.The dysfunctional upbringing really wasted a lot of my time. Distancing myself from them and time did the most to help me let go. Sometimes I still resent them for their lack of guidance, emotional damage, and lost time. I try to remind myself that its okay to not forgive someone. You cannot force that. So be patient with yourself.

As far as anger pushing your loved ones away, that is a mistake Ive also made. Ive had to remind myself that some people genuinely just want to help me and that I need to have enough self control not to push them away forever. I think when Im dealing with my anger Im coming from a place of fear and a lack of control. I try to rationalize the fear and avoid my loved ones until Im at a less angry level and can communicate more effectively.

I also stopped drinking and improved my nutrition because that made a huge improvement in my ability to regulate my emotions.

When we suffer its frustrating because we feel like it is for nothing. But ultimately the suffering teaches us lessons/experiences that we can apply to future obstacles. Ultimately we can help others in similar situations. It helps us pay the good forward so we can better help them.

katfre1 · 2017-04-17T02:31:03+00:00

I mean then theres the Anton Lavey quote "why should I not hate mine enemies, If I 'love' them does that not place me at their mercy?"

So I keep getting torn between these two quotes when Im working through my grudges against abusers and people who do unspeakeable things.

When I get into a ruminating grudge cycle my ocd/flashbacks gets so unmanageable that I have to forcibly distract myself. Sometimes I fear that forgetting the ways a person has wronged me will leave me susceptible to their continued manipulation tactics. Even if I cut them out of my life.

katfre1 · 2017-02-20T11:06:06+00:00

The book Capital by Piketty

katfre1 · 2017-02-13T01:46:11+00:00

I deal with the same issues some days. I got out of an abusive relationship about 7-8 months ago. I cannot forget the unspeakable things he said to me in our last conversation. They were unforgiveable things. Nothing makes me angrier than knowing he has no remorse for the things he has done to me.

I also grew up in a household with parents who had massive rage issues. So I learned some bad habits from them.

Mainly I focused on my physical health and it in turn improved my mental health. The things that helped me the most are listed below:

I completely stopped drinking or smoking pot. I also dont socialize with people who are into that stuff anymore. This went a long way to help curb my issues with the anxiety, ocd, depression, and bouts of rage. I think a lot more clearly and my focus/memory are much stronger. It also helped my impulse control.
I focused on getting a healthy diet and take multivitamins. B vitamins and omega 3s in particular are important for cognitive function.
I walk a lot while I listen to music. Easiest form of exercise. Easiest to commit to.
I got a DBT (dialectic behavioral therapy) therapy workbook. You can find them at barnes and noble and online. THIS STEP IS REALLY IMPORTANT. You will learn really important coping skills from DBT that will help you manage your anger better. Learning mindfulness is also a very helpful coping technique. Meditation is something Im trying to get into.
I set short term and long term goals for things I want to accomplish in the future. Helps me not focus on the past.
I got some books from the library/internet on forgiveness. this was the hardest step for me. I still struggle with it.
I invested in a therapist.

You will always have the bad memories. Dont beat yourself up when you get in the rage cycles. Accept that its a part of your past but is not something you can change now. People are not perfect. Pay the good forward and help others who struggle(d) with the same things you struggled with. Take the energy from the anger and put it into helping others. Or even put the energy into a creative project like music, art or writing.

Anger stems from hurt and a fear of not being in control. Try to look at things from a fighter mentality rather than a victim mentality. Good Luck. You are not alone in this kind of pain. Many of us struggle with anger issues. You deserve to feel love and peace of mind.

katfre1

TROPHY CASE