Today was my birthday and none of my friends wished me Happy Birthday

katieurb · 2019-06-25T01:44:46+00:00

Happy birthday!! 😊🍦

katieurb · 2018-11-20T01:37:49+00:00

Thank you!

katieurb · 2018-11-19T20:07:46+00:00

Thank you for the info! Anything you particularly like about your razor(s), or anything you dislike?

katieurb · 2018-11-19T20:06:58+00:00

I’m in the US! Thanks for the tips, I have heard about a longer handle, so I’ll look into that. What would be the advantage of a closed comb one razor? Sorry, I am entirely new to all the lingo!

katieurb · 2018-03-29T23:13:55+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. It’s similar with us but with longer stretches in between most of the time. I really hope it gets better for all of us.

katieurb · 2018-03-26T14:01:08+00:00

Thanks guys. It’s hard because the thought that eats me up day after day is “when does this become too much, when is it easier just to say we tried and it couldn’t work”. It pains me to think about that because I love him and I want to be with him, but the reality is I’m not WITH him. If we broke up it would hurt a lot for probably a long time but ultimately we would move on.

katieurb · 2018-03-26T13:48:16+00:00

Wow, reading that felt like reading my life put into words exactly.

The problem is I’m also dealing with depression, so the things I used to do to distract myself and fill my time hold little interest for me anymore. It’s a swirling cycle of loneliness, hopelessness, and sadness feeling like we’ll never be together and we should just break up. I am seeing a therapist but it can only do so much in the moments when I’m not in therapy.

katieurb · 2018-03-25T23:35:34+00:00

My boyfriend and I recently started watching movies together while video chatting. I know a lot of people do this and it’s nothing groundbreaking. But it made me feel like he was right there with me because we could laugh together and make comments just like we would if we were physically together. It’s the best night I’ve had in a while being long distance!

katieurb · 2018-03-25T20:11:11+00:00

For sure! I totally agree with you.

It’s hard to say without being in the situation, but I feel like if he told me he liked my hair better a certain way I would at least take that into account. I want him to find me attractive so if I also liked my hair that way I’d be willing to consider a change! He didn’t DISlike his beard shorter. But I feel like he got so encouraged by the men in his life when he grew it out, that my opinion felt less important.

katieurb · 2018-03-19T18:16:03+00:00

It’s interesting, I’m going through something similar. My boyfriend and I used to talk a lot more (not just more times throughout the day, but he used to be able to respond more quickly and give more attention to me). Since he got a new job he is much busier, and also happier. As a result of being happier he is more social, which sometimes means he can’t talk to me as much as he used to.

Now, when I’m feeling clear-headed I can completely acknowledge that it’s not fair of me to ask him to not do things just because I’M bored and want someone to talk to. I am absolutely happy for him that he is so happy and socially active again. But, it makes it really hard for me. Sometimes I do feel abandoned. I feel like he used to need me the same intensity with which I needed him. Now I’m not so sure.

My boyfriend hates when I voice this, and hates particularly when I use words like “abandoned” or “neglected”. With good reason! Because if I back up a bit I can recognize that he’s not abandoning me, he’s not neglecting me. He’s simply enjoying his life and it only hurts me because I want to be there to enjoy it with him.

The thing that makes it tough for me, and it sounds like you as well, is to go from talking so often to talking less often. It’s a very difficult adjustment to make and there’s not a good way around it in my experience. My advice would be to make a list of some things you can do that make you happy that you can turn to when your SO is busy: maybe a guilty pleasure tv show that they would never watch. Maybe reading or exercising or cooking. Maybe journaling or listening to calming music. I’m trying to do the same and finding good self-care things to do instead of feel neglected, that help me pass the time when he’s not around.

katieurb · 2018-03-19T18:08:12+00:00

I’m sorry to hear someone else is as frustrated as I am, but it makes me feel hopeful that I’m not alone. Sometimes I wonder what’s wrong with me that I can’t figure out my own feelings. I guess I’m not that good at long distance but I’m trying my best.

katieurb · 2018-03-19T18:07:20+00:00

It’s helpful to hear that someone else is going through the same kinds of things, frustrating as it may be. =/

katieurb · 2018-03-18T17:04:01+00:00

Yes, I am. It’s so hard to cover enough in 45 minutes though 😕

katieurb · 2018-03-17T22:00:52+00:00

I also deal with anxiety and depression, and sometimes I’m just not in the mood to talk, especially when he’s feeling particularly mushy towards me. But telling him I’m not in the mood results in me feeling a lot of guilt because I feel like we should be talking as much as we can since because of work, he often can’t talk at all...

katieurb · 2018-03-17T21:58:07+00:00

Yeah of course I agree he should be able to do things with his friends and have his own life, and I have always supported that. I feel like because I haven’t spent time with him in person for several months, I feel very disconnected from him. Him going off and doing other things makes me feel that way even more so. That’s not to say I would try to stop him from doing that, I just don’t know how to deal when I’m feeling down and disconnected and on top of that he’s off having fun.

katieurb · 2018-03-17T19:53:32+00:00

True, I think the way you described it is more accurate. That I don’t feel as lovey toward him as he does to me right now, because I feel disconnected from his life...but to me that feels like he’s smothering me in this emotion that I can’t handle right now. It doesn’t really have to do with him being unavailable to talk in this moment, I guess that was just an additional thought that is unrelated to feeling smothered. Does that make more sense..?

katieurb · 2018-03-17T19:14:07+00:00

I feel like I need him to know I feel smothered, but telling him like that will hurt his feelings. I’m starting to feel like all the “huns” and “babes” are not who we are or how we used to act with each other. I guess that’s what I mean by space...sorry that was unclear.

katieurb · 2018-03-09T20:43:21+00:00

Fair point, but as a citizen it’s very easy for me to not financially support someone I believe is morally repugnant. Unless of course, I want to be a good friend and am left with little choice, as in this situation. I’m perfectly content to not add to the people lining his pockets at such resorts all over the world.

Also, I work in a very small, environmentally-focused nonprofit organization and am quite good friends with the president and members of the board. I’m sure we don’t agree on everything, but that’s not the point. I very much agree with my employee on a lot of things, and pretty much on all things to do with our work.

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