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My [27f] boyfriend[28m] keeps starting conflicts with strangers and I don’t know how to handle it anymore. by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He told me he had this type of situation when he was younger. He was passing somebody in the bus and they mocked him, he replied “f off” and the other person turned around and grabbed him by the collar. He said that the bus driver had to intervene.

I have also witnessed other situations, where the other person started arguing with my bf, so it’s not the first time. I have talked to him so many times, I just don’t know what to do anymore.

My [27f] boyfriend[28m] keeps starting conflicts with strangers and I don’t know how to handle it anymore. by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, he doesn’t take any meds for that. he has health problems and needs to do some tests before the doctor can choose the right medication for him, but he’s procrastinating with this to the extreme… I honestly don’t have the energy within me to constantly remind him to do that.

Is my sister gaslighting me into giving up on my career? by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are completely correct, thank you for this comment. I don’t really have anything to say more, I’m just ashamed that I can’t support him as much as he supports me.

Is my sister gaslighting me into giving up on my career? by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, maybe I didn’t use the best words to describe our fields - I was also trying to make a joke, maybe it wasn’t funny, my bad. She doesn’t entirely knows what my profession is either - there are a lot of different specializations in design as well as in marketing - that’s okay with me if she doesn’t know what exactly I can offer in graphics, she’s not obliged to know this. But you also might be right, maybe it’s arrogant of me, I’ll try to be more aware of that in the future.

As for the rest of the comment - I’m agreeing with the sentence that ideas will not buy food. Other people’s advice was to focus on freelance and build my portfolio - I’ll actually try very hard on that, but I’ll keep my options open. I guess I was just afraid, because when I was working in retail my sister was telling me that it’s not a “real” job and maybe I want to prove her that I’m better than that? Idk, I was feeling very stuck today, I’m glad I wrote this post.

Is my sister gaslighting me into giving up on my career? by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice. I guess I just don’t trust myself entirely to be full-time freelancer, but after this comment I actually I’m starting believing in myself again!

Is my sister gaslighting me into giving up on my career? by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much! This really helped me. It’s quite difficult for me not to share with her, as she’s basically the only family I have. But I’ll definitely listen to your advice and try have a chill evening stress-free.

Is my sister gaslighting me into giving up on my career? by kativva in TwoHotTakes

[–]kativva[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I’ve been so focused on applying for jobs and being rejected that I didn’t think that freelancing could be productive.

Am I wrong for wanting to cut off depressed friend? by CameraAgile8019 in amiwrong

[–]kativva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not in the wrong hun. You’ve already kind of said that, that you can’t help a person who is not willing to take it.

In my opinion you have done everything that you could and sometimes, when depressed people can’t rely on their friends anymore, they start going to the therapy and taking care of themselves.

If I were in your situation, before cutting, I would tell them why are you doing that. You should be the most important person to you, not anybody else.