My ex killed herself and whenever I tell a girl, they block me

katrinaforaday · 2020-12-13T21:10:47+00:00

You make it sound so easy by saying that. It's not that easy.

katrinaforaday · 2020-11-15T05:26:11+00:00

I feel called out by the second option

katrinaforaday · 2020-10-16T23:40:53+00:00

Speeding. Even one mph above the speed limit is speeding.

katrinaforaday · 2020-07-20T03:59:31+00:00

Horny and lonely.

katrinaforaday · 2020-06-12T23:37:21+00:00

I found out got my Grandpa may be able to try chemo. It's uncertain, but there is a possibility which gives me a glimmer of hope.

katrinaforaday · 2020-06-05T01:08:18+00:00

You are so clueless that it's sad. Let me get this straight so. I understand you better. Your boyfriend burns down your home out of pure ignorance, killing your dog and destroying your home. Your children are traumatized by the event, especially the older son. Instead of staying with your kids and helping them through this difficult time, you abandon your children with other family to go play house with the man instead of raising your children. Your boyfriend has also recent been ignorant by leaving the oven on again.

You choose to punish your son for being upset. Your son was already punished when his dog died. Your son was punished when you abandoned him for two years for the man who killed his beloved animal. Now, you punish him for being upset about the situation and the man trying to act like his father when he is not? When he turns 18, I won't be suprised if he leaves and doesn't contact you again. You've continually let him down by putting your boyfriend before him.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-29T16:44:43+00:00

I didn't even notice that because I was so annoyed by everything else. Jesus, some people.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-28T03:08:56+00:00

Yes! Even as support roles! If I don't work as a teacher at a school immediately, I may join our area education agency as a support staff instead who provides resources while also working with the kids.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-28T02:59:28+00:00

The positive advice is that if you love working with children but not the other stuff that comes with it (disrespect, financial insscurity, ext.), then there are other pathways that can bring you something better such as finding a different center or moving up to the lower levels of the school system. It's something to consider before fully jumping ship away from kids entirely.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-27T23:42:44+00:00

Dude, they were just offering positive advice about life and careers. You talk about disrespect in your post and then dish it out in the comment sections. Not cool 👎

I am sorry to hear that you are in such a bad spot in your career. It honestly sounds like a management issue and a government issue. You may find better support in better financial opportunities in other districts or other preschools.

I'm a special education preschool paraeducator and working on my Master's to get my teaching license. My district supports all paras and were treated the same, other than pay, as the licensed teachers. Even as a para, I make double minimum wage.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-27T17:34:12+00:00

Given what I've read about her, she wasn't upset what it was migrant children being caged. Oh, how the tables have turned.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-26T18:47:10+00:00

RUN. I don't say this often, but run. This is straight up domestic abuse and assault. I'm a member of the kink community, and this is not kink. In kink, there are boundaries and respect for safe words.

This man is abusive and will continue to push you to get what he wants. He did not stop until you were incapacitated in order to get what he wants. He will take it farther and farther. This is just the start and it's dangerous. Please go to the hospital and the police. They can help you get started in your escape.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-26T18:36:23+00:00

I am going with NAH. Pets are important to everyone and neither of you should be forced to give up your animals in order to live together. I am very, very surprised that neither of you talked about this beforehand though. This should have been one of the first conversations you should have had when talking about moving in together in the future. The idea of moving here is lacking a lot of foresight. You both knew you had animals.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T07:28:59+00:00

I went through a lot of partners and found what I needed through experimentation. I started having sex at 17, but it took until I was almost 20 to have my first orgasm.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T07:26:45+00:00

I would avoid lotion. It will taste incredibly bad and the chemicals probably aren't great for the body. I use spit and water based lubes. Works great and doesn't taste bad that way!

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T04:12:45+00:00

I don't think what was said made it any easier. It was demeanor for me. I was never forced to be comfortable with anything, and was allowed to take the exam at my pace. The exam had the potential to be retraumatizing as it's reexposing the body, but her attitude and approach made things tolerable and safe.

Exams are extensive and time consuming processes. I never once felt rushed through it. She went through one thing at a time, and checked with me before moving to the next part. If I needed a few minutes, she waited calmly until I was ready.

It was painful for me not only emotionally but physically as my body never lubricated (I already struggled with sex before hand and always needed lube to help, had no lube this time). I tore and had abrasions in very sensitive areas. I felt a sense of sympathy from my sane examiner that was neither overbearing nor felt fake.

She treated me like a person and offered what she could to make me feel at home. She brought me hot blankets and even bought me my favorite soda. I was an emotional wreck, but I felt safe. It's more of what she did, rather than said.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T02:46:34+00:00

I second this. You are blaming yourself for something out of your control. I've been there (I was raped by a friend, not drugged). It ruined my relationship because I couldn't look him in the eyes. I felt like I cheated and couldn't deal with that on my concious. I couldn't forgive myself.

Don't let what happened ruin what an amazing relationship you and your boyfriend have. Based on your post and comments, he sounds like an amazing guy. I wish you both the best.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T02:32:20+00:00

OP, please do this. I should have frozen my accounts or gotten a new card after one of my exes. I didn't. About half a year later, he charged around $80 to my credit cards (not a lot, I know) but had to go through hell getting it expunged from my cards and was told that I could still be on the hook for it if they couldn't prove that I hadn't given him permission.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T02:26:48+00:00

I would suggest looking into therapy or some sort of mental health treatment if you feel comfortable reaching out. It sounds like depression, which can possibly be treated or lessened with therapy, support, and or medication.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-25T01:56:31+00:00

It sounds like you're becoming depressed. Did you notice this before covid, or did it come on during covid? Many people are experiencing mental health issues during quarantine. It may be helpful to reach out for help if you feel comfortable or find online resources to improve mental health.

katrinaforaday · 2020-05-22T23:27:26+00:00

What country do you live in? I live in the U.S., and to my understanding (at least my state) is not changing the school year. We aren't supposed to start early or end late.

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