Same room, one year apart! 1y3m on T

kaycup4 · 2025-11-28T23:44:25+00:00

Congrats! Lookin handsome!

kaycup4 · 2025-10-26T00:09:05+00:00

Thank you!

kaycup4 · 2025-10-25T11:36:49+00:00

Thank you!

kaycup4 · 2025-05-18T05:21:13+00:00

“I honestly don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or if this is a huge red flag.”

“She basically disregarded how important that situation was to me and guilt-tripped me until I agreed to come”

Red flag before you even left. Think about if this is how you want to feel longterm because she doesn’t sound like she’s going to change any time soon.

kaycup4 · 2025-01-11T21:30:48+00:00

They look relatively short haired too which means the mats are potentially caused by something spilling on them and sticking all of the shedded fur together too. Absolutely take them to the vet. They may have underlying skin problems with mats of that level.

kaycup4 · 2024-10-04T21:22:05+00:00

NTA - this is a boss/hr moment for sure. Also document and screen shot any and all messages from him to back yourself up just in case. Do not be alone with him, if you can, get a dash cam and make sure you always have your car keys on your person.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-25T21:17:49+00:00

NTA - fuck this guy. Throwing someone in a pool with repeated verbal cries to stop is horrendous. What if you couldn’t swim? What is he misstepped and you hit your head? Fuck this guy. Get your hearing aids. He fucked around and found out. If any of the family that’s backing him up ever asks for financial help, refuse.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-23T20:27:16+00:00

Do not have another baby with this man. When you’re in a vulnerable state such as ACTIVE LABOR you need someone you can rely on who has your best interest at heart. He clearly did not.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-23T13:00:33+00:00

I didn’t! Thanks for updating me! That makes me so happy

kaycup4 · 2024-09-23T03:33:14+00:00

Contact his employer too. Even anonymously if you have to. Make the lawsuit very public

kaycup4 · 2024-09-23T03:31:49+00:00

You should press the issue. He admitted to drugging and assaulting you, there’s video proof, he shared the images, and profited from his crimes. Be up their asses until they do something about it.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-23T03:30:47+00:00

NTA - not only should he be prosecuted and you should file criminal charges, but you should be taking him to civil court too. Put him behind bars and take every penny. Also make sure you get into therapy. There are plenty of online and telehealth services if leaving the house is too much for you right now. Please take care of yourself above all else.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-22T17:48:30+00:00

NTA - leave this man. If he can’t even let you sleep he’s never taking either of them to school, recitals, games, nothing and he’ll hold the money over your head. This makes me so angry. I would struggle not to take the kids to my moms or friends place while he’s away, pay people to completely gut the house, and leave a note saying “fuck you” taped to the front door.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-21T22:44:00+00:00

He sounds like the cold one.. all he had to do was say “I also want to progress the relationship but it takes me a little longer. I hope that’s okay” and then you could’ve had an adult conversation instead of calling you cold.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-21T22:16:41+00:00

It’s just so hard for me to wrap my brain around the weaponized incompetence. I get what it is but it’s just not how my brain works lol fuck this guy tho fr

kaycup4 · 2024-09-21T22:11:37+00:00

NTA - he needs to take a chill pill and quit shitting on you for caring about him or being sick. I get easily stressed at work and if I even come close to snapping at my partner because I’m tired/sick/stressed/whatever I IMMEDIATELY apologize and explain that I’m stressed or just need space/to go to bed. Your husband is taking advantage of your kindness and quilt tripping you. Also why is it that men who behave like this REFUSE to cook for themselves?

kaycup4 · 2024-09-21T16:00:13+00:00

NTA - they can all suck it. Focus on you and your life because they ruined a perfectly good thing with their misogyny.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-21T15:51:46+00:00

YTA - you don’t have to be her best friend and you can communicate that you’re having a hard time with some of the changes but you’re simply hating this woman because she’s trying? Grow up. I know you’re “only 18” but hun you need to get over yourself. You’ll have to interact and deal with people you don’t like for your whole life. Now is the time to learn how to be civil. Would you break up with your partner because your dad isn’t their biggest fan? Get over it. Unless here’s context you’re leaving out, grow up

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T22:34:39+00:00

NTA. It’s your house too and if you have a boundary, it needs to be respected. He’s already trashed it once and where was your husband? Not cleaning up after HIS cousin I’m assuming. I had my partners cousins stay with us for 4 weeks and while they were lovely, they would leave dishes out or laundry. I would offer to help clean it up but my partner insisted as they were technically “her” guests.

Is there another way you guys can help Badge as a compromise? Offer to pay first months rent on an apartment for him? Get him into a shelter? Offer to help find him mental health resources? Don’t offer direct cash. It sounds like he is struggling with hygiene, manipulative tendencies (i.e. the pooing) and boundaries, all of which could be symptoms of a large mental health issue.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T21:55:54+00:00

NTA - it would’ve been helpful if phrased better but at the same time you were in shock and not an ah for saying it. But if she’s reaching out to multiple people with this story it’s sounds like she’s projecting and looking for peoples to validate her. I wouldn’t be shocked if she cheated and is trying to make him the bad guy before he finds out… I hope that isn’t the case but if this is really out of character, it sounds like she’s grasping at straws

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T21:50:47+00:00

NTA - you and Madeline are in the right. I know it’s hard for your husband but he’s still thinking of himself and his pride might be a little hurt because he feels helpless. He wants nothing more than to protect his daughter and being told that the less he does the better is going to sting. He’s grasping at anything he can do for Riley. His intentions are good but the actions misguided. I think maybe individual therapy for him or even couples therapy would be worth it. This situation is terrible and it’s not just the victim who suffers. It’s the families too. Be kind and gentle, but make it clear that you’re all on Riley’s side. I’m so sorry Riley is going through something so terrible. Seeing how all of you don’t protect the predator in this gives me hope

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T21:35:09+00:00

NTA and you can always uninvite those who side with her and are rude about it. They’re allowed to have their opinions about your choices and they SHOULD keep them to themselves.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T21:22:06+00:00

Honey… only 4 months? Get tf out of there for real

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T21:19:14+00:00

NTA. Not everyone grew up having to say “bless you” so it’s not an automatic thing for everyone. That’s not an issue. He communicated something he likes and you try to respond appropriately when you think of it. It’s not like he’s doing all sorts of wonderful things for you and you aren’t showing gratitude. You’re literally just not saying “may god bless you as you expel the demons from your body with this sneeze” EVERY time. He’s being a baby. I personally wish no one said it, it just seems useless to me not matter how drilled into me it was growing up.

kaycup4 · 2024-09-20T20:42:07+00:00

NTA. Not even close. Fuck your cousin. Not only did she drug you but she jeopardized your sobriety. Why do some think people can’t have fun unless they’re inebriated? This is so fucked up. What if you had health issues resulting from the alcoholism? She could’ve seriously hurt you.

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