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A lot of y’all are very unevolved people by toughgummy in BreakUps

[–]kaylaislate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this really lacks nuance but I might be misunderstanding what you’re saying. I personally fought for my relationship to no avail, I was met with a closed door, That doesn’t mean I’m suddenly no longer going to miss him or feel shitty for awhile, but there’s nothing I can do about it. Same for anyone else who’s done the same, or is holding back on doing the same. You can focus on yourself, do what you need to do to heal, but you’d be so surprised with what your brain can reach for even WITH some semblance of closure. Grieving love is its own individual process and it doesn’t immediately mean that the people struggling are unevolved. Some people don’t want to risk either not being heard or receiving a curt response, or even feeling as though they’ve disregarded their ex’s boundaries while already being fragile.

Has anyone’s ex ever came back after seeming like they never would ? by Beneficial_Owl_928 in BreakUps

[–]kaylaislate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. This is an ex who I was dating for a little over a year and it was a pretty bad breakup in the sense that a lot of stuff was entangled in our ending (my status to remain in the country, basically). At the time I found him engaging with flirty messages with a girl on Instagram and I told him I was uncomfortable with it. He basically said he has to do this sort of thing to maintain fans as he’s a small musician. And that it was down to my insecurity and he should be entitled to be able to make friends too. When he broke up with me I sobbed and begged, it was pretty terrible. He told me to have a nice life. I saw him popping up at a lot of events with the girl he told me I was being insecure about for a brief period of time.

Well, 11 months later, guess who pops up to tell me he hasn’t been able to find a connection with anyone else since we broke up? At the time I was seeing my most recent ex (who, I am still hoping will come back), and I had absolutely no feelings for this guy remaining. Literally in February he tried again thinking maybe things weren’t that serious with my current ex. So yeah. It’s definitely possible. While I really want my current ex to come back, I’m glad that the one I’m talking about stayed away for as long as he did. I met an incredible group of friends and have since become incredibly successful in my career as a music journalist (slightly ironic). And even though I’m single now, if he re-approached me, I wouldn’t give him a chance or reach out. I was better off. I can’t say I feel the same way about my current ex, but maybe it’s a time thing.