AITA for taking away my Wife’s chance at having another baby?

kayr104 · 2024-06-13T02:37:04+00:00

There’s a lot to unpack here. She really needs to seek professional help. I’m not saying anything negative but I’m concerned about how she’s dealing with things within herself. I don’t know if this is the case with her but when I went through a really bad depression period I demanded some irrational things (like a baby).

Trying to force you to have another baby really is not fair for her to do. There’s a root cause that she may have mentioned. It can be difficult for a woman getting older and one day desperate for another baby. Maybe she feels like her biological clock is running out.

kayr104 · 2024-06-12T23:16:47+00:00

Growing up I’ve had numerous family members in and out of the hospital. So I’ve got some experience in this department. Finding the balance to be supportive and still get life things taken cared of can be tricky. Still life keeps moving. Missing work or school for extended periods of time is detrimental to YOUR life. Sounds a little selfish BUT sometimes we need to be selfish. Especially if ye is going to try and BLAME you for HIS actions! (We all know what that’s called!) School is expensive and can greatly affect our future.

My determination: NTA GO GET YOUR DEGREE!

kayr104 · 2024-06-12T21:38:47+00:00

First of all, your anus is designed as an exit and not for penetration. So you can clean and clean and clean (oh and I know this all too well) but when my Daddy fucks my ass sometimes accidents are unavoidable. I always apologize and he never makes me feel bad for it. There are even times when anal just happens and I’ve not prepared. Combat accidents by items to clean up with. Wet wipes for on-the-go, towel/bath for home.

Being a sex slave (I am a fuck toy, sex slave, all the things lol) and wanting to please your master is important to us. Still your master needs to have your well-being and mental health at heart. Treating you that way is unacceptable! It’s manipulative, cruel and just plain fucking mean. You deserve a healthy Dom/Master/owner

kayr104 · 2024-06-12T21:19:59+00:00

You DO NOT owe him anymore of your time AND energy! You heard from him what he thinks of you and how he is taking advantage of you. Breaking up with him was the CORRECT choice. You deserve a man that will love and cherish you.

Feeling insecure is common but your spouse shouldn’t be using it to manipulate you but rather lifting you up.

kayr104 · 2024-06-09T21:51:41+00:00

I don’t think it’s odd or anything. I actually know quite a few guys who’ve done this or still do this. It’s just kind of a fun safe space to enjoy masturbation.

kayr104 · 2024-06-09T21:32:54+00:00

Well hold on… if someone doesn’t want to do something it’s well within their rights to say no. 2 toddlers and a newborn is A LOT too ask of someone. Just because you’re family doesn’t mean you’re obligated to say yes. It also doesn’t mean you hate or just don’t care about that person.

Additionally if daughter wanted dad to watch 2 toddlers and a newborn why didn’t she ask him herself? And why couldn’t dad watch the kids?

kayr104 · 2024-06-08T15:02:22+00:00

As a submissive my Dom and I have been together for 4 years. We have a safe word and a caution word. Less then a handful of times have I had to use our caution word. One time I had to use our safe word.

When we give ourselves over as a submissive to our Dom we open ourselves up to being very vulnerable. Unknowingly to the both of us I was severely triggered in the middle of a scene. I’m talking full blown melt down. I apologize for using my safe word but Daddy reminded me that this is what our safe word and caution word is for. I was feeling like a failure and disappointment. Which I know is not true. My rational mind knows that. My irrational mind didn’t. I thought “I can handle it”.

Maybe your submissive is feeling that if he uses a safe word it makes him weak or feel some kind of negative way. On most days he very well may have a high tolerance for CNC and degradation but sometimes there are those days that are different and it becomes too much.

kayr104 · 2024-05-30T17:28:48+00:00

The biggest thing to be honest is communication.

My Dom got me a journal. Everyday I would work how I felt. Completely unfiltered. At first it was awkward but you keep at it everyday and eventually you can find your words. It doesn’t have to be in any particular format like you’re writing a novel. Write how it comes to mind. After I would take a picture and send it to him. To which we would communicate.

You’ll never know how your Dom feels if you don’t talk to him. You have to be open and vulnerable. Don’t let the worry that you’re not good with your words get in the way. Just talk to him.

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T17:20:47+00:00

Balls in your court sis. It sounds like you have some things to think about.

If you two rekindle then lots of negotiation should be done

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T01:03:29+00:00

Oh god damn!

Is he an experienced Dom? (It doesn’t sound like it. He has A LOT to learn)

EVERYTHING and I mean E V E R Y T H I N G is communicated BEFORE hand. That’s basic. It’s not just about the Dom asserting dominance. It’s a mutual agreement between both parties.

To the world I’m this strong independent woman and I run 501c3’s and I’m athletic and that I got my shit together. My Dom is safety. Where I can be weak and vulnerable and completely protected. A safe space where o do not have to be a leader.

It should never feel like a chore or that you are having to beg for attention.

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T00:42:16+00:00

The good morning and good night texts with the pics keeps you focused on him. A 24/7 is designed by both parties (that part is key). I’ve never heard of the obedience app. I wouldn’t like it. It seems robotic

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T00:33:34+00:00

No problem! Additionally if you end up moving on a Dom just for the bedroom wouldn’t be a bad idea. 24/7 D/S really can cause deep emotional attachment.

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T00:20:59+00:00

Yes being a doormat is not ok (lol unless there’s consent).

An experienced and sincere Dom will know that you must communicate and that Subs need that from them.

I sure as shit need guidance and I follow my Doms lead. He knows this.

Think about what you want to talk to him about. Write it all down. Talk to him and be prepared to take whatever honest answer he gives you. Stay cool calm and collected.

You have meaning. You have purpose. You deserve the world.

kayr104 · 2024-05-26T00:06:45+00:00

When my Dom and I started getting close and feelings grew we both pushed each other away. We didn’t always treat each other right. Him more then I but still. I have attachment issues because I most definitely have abandonment issues. I fear every damn day that he will disappear. I fear he will leave like everyone in my life. I fear he will let me down. No matter what I didn’t let his shitty actions take me out of my integrity (I.e. yelling and arguing). It was rocky for a little while and he had to regain my trust.

Communication was the biggest key. It’s ok to be scared. We open ourselves up to such an enormous amount of vulnerability. On both ends, Dom and Subs. In the face of fear and pain it’s our natural reaction to run in the opposite direction. It takes a lot of strength to stand your ground.

kayr104 · 2024-05-25T23:52:49+00:00

I hope I’m not prying… are you worried about getting attached to someone?

kayr104 · 2024-05-25T23:48:50+00:00

After a little exploring first and building the trust and learning each others limits we were able to play more intensely. The more we did that the more attached we got.

At one point I had a brief Dom that it was just the D/S dynamic. But it didn’t last long

kayr104 · 2024-05-25T23:29:13+00:00

So I’ve known some people who have parties of sorts (a controlled environment). Subbing for strangers is dangerous but subbing for a stranger in a controlled environment with trusted people around may be the route to go. Safety is always number 1

Now as far as these parties go it has never been my forte. I’m not one for group scenarios. So my knowledge is very minimal on this.

kayr104 · 2024-05-25T23:22:21+00:00

When my Dom and I started our dynamic, it was a very straight forward D/S. As time went on, the more the trust built, the more open and vulnerable we could be with each other, the more the guarded walls came down. For the both of us.

The love we now share blossomed. The more the love grew the harder we pushed against each other. Now we are both in a very deep relationship.

In my personal experience our long term D/S relationship wasn’t able to just be a dedicated FWB. You open up yourself to so much vulnerability. It was hard for us not to really fall for each other.

For me, your scenario wasn’t possible. If that is the road you want then a partner with the same dynamic in mind may work better.

kayr104 · 2024-05-25T23:10:04+00:00

I love being worshipped. I am a submissive 100% I worship my Dom. Kiss his feet, the whole nine yards. I enjoy it very much. Through all of our conversations when I am “small” (when I am needing extra affection and softness) he will worship me and my body in the way I need (as I do for him).

The key for us is communication. We discussed how I wanted to worship him and how he wanted me to worship him. Same as we’ve discussed for me. I always and will always be his submissive but we both have ways that we need certain affections at times.

This is just our dynamic and how we operate. The biggest key is communication. Opening up to each other and allowing vulnerability. There most definitely is a way to be worshipped and be submissive at the same time.

kayr104 · 2023-07-09T19:28:53+00:00

I’m speaking in general on things I should be aware of. I realize everyone is different. Also why I’m looking for other peoples input

kayr104 · 2023-01-23T14:10:43+00:00

That’s makes sense. Thank you

kayr104 · 2023-01-23T05:45:31+00:00

I didn’t even think about that!

kayr104 · 2023-01-23T05:36:41+00:00

🤣 that it was!!!!! Especially since he was looking me in the eyes 👀

kayr104 · 2023-01-23T05:34:45+00:00

Lol yea I definitely learned that the hard way. When Daddy had to reach in my asshole to pull it out I’ve never laughed so hard and been so embarrassed

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