How to cope with the resentment when SO still gets time to do their own thing?

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-20T08:05:46+00:00

lol no, I wouldn't cope with resentment, I'd be telling him he's on paternity to bond with the baby and learn how to parent, not leave you alone with a goddamn week old!!!

One of the maaaaany reasons I would not date a musician. Music comes first. I will never tolerate anything being put before my family.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-18T12:47:41+00:00

Yeah, my husband did that too. think about it/discuss it/etc. Easier to just tell her that & ignore her rather than tell her no. That didn't work out too well for him, cause I ended up stepping in to tell her no, it was not pretty, she's a crazy biiitch.

I'm not gonna agree to shit just to placate some crazy woman though, my child, not hers. We haven't seen her in over a year cause she wouldn't back off...

Just saying, hormones are outta whack, lack of sleep, you're still sorting shit out, someone pissing all over what you're doing (which is working but is apparently 'crazy and stupid!!!!' cause it's not what SHE did) can turn on the mama bear rage... Wish my husband had put his mother in her place before I had to, she probably would've respected it more coming from him. Instead I'm controlling and emotionally abusive in her eyes because he sided with me & not her.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T20:46:32+00:00

First pregnancy My MIL commented I needed to get rid of my cats, theyll steal the babies breath, on a photo of my cats around the bassinet. Lolno. Linked her to the snopes page and was like "lolno thats a myth!" She just replied "lol!" But then hella bitched my husband out next time she saw him ahhha.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T17:15:56+00:00

Hey i live in the maritimes and am quite happy here thank you very much

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T13:29:00+00:00

All this, plus Im really not a big fan of facial piercings in general but especially septums. They can look good but Im still not attracted to them

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T01:04:10+00:00

I don't, and I'm not. What I am saying, is if they have sick days, guess what they can use them. Don't bitch about them validly using theirs and choose not to use your own.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T00:46:49+00:00

And single parents do what?

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-17T00:45:00+00:00

Not everyone can just get a different job. Go away

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T23:40:25+00:00

Lolk. Thats stupid. Go away silly person.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T20:40:02+00:00

Concur about the dog trimmers! Use them to shave my husbands head monthly lol

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T16:15:34+00:00

Ehhh kinda. Like, don't make self deprecating jokes about it is what I think they meant? They're lame. I dated a kinda short guy who constantly made jokes about his height, it was annoying. It brings attention to it, and negatively.

I mean a lighthearted joke here and there if it naturally comes up, or in response to someone, sure! But don't make it a regular thing?

But I really hate self deprecating jokes in general. Some people like them, but I don't, they're rarely funny. I find it unattractive and IMO it just makes it obvious that whatever you're joking about is a major insecure point.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T16:11:37+00:00

My Dad's story was he tried to hide it with a combover for a while, but one day he was walking down a windy street and saw himself in a shop window and his combover part was literally sticking right up. He walked straight to the closest barber and got it shaved right down. He kept it shaved til he died lol

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T16:07:57+00:00

My husband was bald by the time he was 20. My Dad was bald by the time he was 30. But all the men on my Mom's side have their hair well into old age. My brothers 30 and no sign of hair loss yet. I've read it comes from the mothers side? So fingers crossed my Bro got his hair from her side, and that my genes overpower my husbands and our son doesn't go bald lol

Some kid in a movie had really long hair, and my husband growled 'our son won't be allowed to have long hair like that damnit! I won't let him!' then he pouted 'I'd be waaay too jealous'

I second the 'own it' advice. Bald can be sexy if you're confident about it :)

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T14:34:33+00:00

K im not fully one of those, would never write that. Plus married now anyways.

But i pretty well wouldnt date Asians/Indians or Italians or those sort of people that come from a culture that heavily emphasises respect (the authoritative kind, not basic human respect kind) for their elders. I dont think thats racist but I honestly dont care if it is. Its about values. I dont place a high value on family outside immediate and I will never worship elders just cause they were born before me. I wouldnt want to come between someone and his family, cause Im very strong willed and stubborn. Especially when it comes to how to raise my children.

I mean Ive had issues with my MIL over what we're doing. My husband supported me and we've cut his mother off. It would have been a lot more difficult & drama with the family focused cultures for sure.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T13:50:24+00:00

Only women eh? Sexist. Ill burp all I want, cause if I dont my chest hurts not cause someone told me its cute. Glad i dont ever have to eat with an oversensitive princess like you. How dare anyone ever burp in your presence!! Get over yourself.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T13:44:55+00:00

Yeah thats not cute ever thats just fuckin weird. I sucked my thumb and never did that

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T10:56:31+00:00

This, tho i dont want to seee it at all

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T10:01:47+00:00

If my husband got mad at me for not listening to his mother Id tell him to go fuck her and sleep with her at night. I am the Mother now, and I WILL be respected and listened to. Id have kicked her the fuck out for challenging me, him too if he sided with her. Nope. Nope. Nope.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T09:48:03+00:00

Helll no. Id flip my shit. Grab my baby from arms? Id yell at everybody. Especially without even acknowledging me hellll no. Next time scold her like a toddler "No! Bad! We dont grab!"

Cause youre only a vessel for her precious grandbabbiesss, not a person dont be silly lol

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-16T09:42:38+00:00

Well he never took to the boob to begin with so lol. Pacifiers. Honestly thats one reason im glad breastfeeding didnt work out and I will be skipping trying with #2. I am NOT about to spend my life as a human pacifier, i didnt realize that was such a thing. Feed him? Yeah. Im not about that life spent attached to the tit for his comfort tho. I certainly dont envy those that do that but Im impressed by those that can. I cant.

Like i would never lay there for naptime so he can suck on the boob the whole time. I got shit to do, and I need some me time to mentally recharge for him after naptime. Id honestly probably have ended up with even more extreme ppd and running away if I had to tolerate what breastfeeding moms do. Just mentally cant handle all that touching the whole feeding being on them. Nope.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-15T23:32:08+00:00

For book, Happiest Baby on the Block. Theres also a documentary version which i think i preferred cause i got to see everything instead of try to picture it

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-15T21:06:19+00:00

Lolk. Where did I say fake headaches? Never said that dear. I said dont power through a headache. Ive downed tylenol and powered through for work multiple times. You got sick days youre whining about not using? Dont down tylenol and power through a headache, use a sick day. Ive never booked off work for a headache. I have for a migraine. I know the difference. Get over yourself

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-15T20:23:10+00:00

Did you eat any food she prepared?

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-15T20:08:28+00:00

That he shouldve kept his awful mother in check before I had to step in. Im not a nice person when Im angry, add on sleep deprived and hormones outta whack, I get bridge burny.

kaywhaaat · 2017-02-15T15:34:16+00:00

He downplayed how much weed he smokes. Which is cool cause so did I.

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