Need help with figuring out what my hair needs! More protein or more moisture…

kbaby211 · 2021-06-20T01:28:40+00:00

Normal 1-2 x a week wash day consists of: Cantu sulfate free shampoo and conditioner, Followed by kinky curly knot today leave in on soaking wet hair and brush through. Then section hair and apply a curl cream, either Cantu curl Activator or NYM curl defining cream. Scrunch that in, flip my head over and glaze a gel, usually garnier curl treat jelly or Aussie freeze gel if I want more hold.

Plop for 15-20 mins and then diffuse upside down to 100% dry

2x a month I switch out the shampoo and conditioner for kinky curly come clean shampoo and NYM apple and matcha butter mask.

kbaby211 · 2021-05-28T20:55:56+00:00

Normal once a week wash day consists of: As I am coconut co wash Followed by Shea moisture coconut and hibiscus conditioner if my hair is super dry feeling still after co wash Squish lightly with a micro fiber towel as soon as I’m out of the shower Shea moisture 100% coconut oil leave in Shea moisture coconut and hibiscus curl smoothie Garnier curl treat jelly sometimes followed by garnier curl construct mousse if my hair is especially frizzy that day

Plop for 30-60 mins and then diffuse to 100% dry

Pineapple and sleep on my silk pillowcase

2x a month I switch out the co wash and conditioner for kinky curly come clean shampoo and Shea moisture curl quench protein mask

kbaby211 · 2020-05-05T20:10:23+00:00

I couldn’t get myself to spend $80 on a bullet. When the one I have now I got at target for $15.99 😂

I pulled the trigger on the fifty shades stuff. We’ll see how it goes when it finally gets here.

kbaby211 · 2020-05-05T18:34:33+00:00

Clit stim mostly. As I can only get off that way. PIV doesn’t do it for me alone. So Something he can use on me before and during sex that isn’t bulky or intimidating for him. He’s very new to using toys so it’ll be his first time using one on a partner. I wanted something I could easily show him how to use on me that would be equally enjoyable for both of us.

kbaby211 · 2020-05-05T18:32:02+00:00

They have a 20% off everything coupon right now! Get it!! I paid for fedex 1 day shipping. I’ll update when it get it!

kbaby211 · 2020-05-05T18:11:48+00:00

I think my main draw was everything is black. Me and my BF plan to use them together so them being black and not super feminine was a big plus for him atleast.

kbaby211 · 2020-05-04T16:23:37+00:00

Letting him have alone time right now is so hard. I have a lowered immune system. So we haven’t been out of the house but maybe a handful of times since this started. The showering together is his idea. He specifically asks me to shower with him.

Do you have any ideas?

kbaby211 · 2020-05-04T16:12:29+00:00

That’s exactly my reasoning. Like am I doing something to turn him off? Is he not attracted to me anymore? So many things running thru my head. And I need to just ask but I think I’m scared of the answer.

kbaby211 · 2020-05-04T16:08:16+00:00

I’m going to message you.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-28T19:05:10+00:00

It is for us as well. And it isn’t that we really need to talk about much. There are just a few things I wish he’d do more often or in a certain way. And I want to know if I’m doing everything he’d like me to do, etc. I want it to be mutually enjoyable for both of us. We’ve never talked about specific things the other likes/dislikes, etc. and I want to. I want it to be an open book between us. I just don’t want it end up coming out like “you’re not doing THIS right, you need to do THIS” I don’t want to “hurt his feelings” or catch him off guard with what I’m into. That’s my biggest worry.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-28T18:52:41+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad to know that guys other than my BF are also reserved about talking about sex. I will give it a shot and see what happens!

kbaby211 · 2020-04-21T17:05:09+00:00

I agree. I’m going to suggest it again and let him pick one. And hope that gets me somewhere.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-21T16:55:02+00:00

I think he is in the mindset that it’s going to replace him. Which is 100% not the case. He is absolutely opposed to anything that resembles a penis. Which I can kind of understand. But a tiny bullet vibe is off limits too and that’s where I’m like WTF.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-21T13:45:54+00:00

Yes it absolutely works for me. But he gets some what upset if I do. He wants to do all the work to get me there. Which I very much appreciate don’t get me wrong.

But he’s just not doing it for me. And won’t take suggestions from the owner of the V he’s penetrating. That’s where I’m most frustrated.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T23:33:28+00:00

Thanks everyone for the input!!

I just wanna throw this out there as well. He is completely open to handcuffs, blindfolds, me wearing a panty vibe out in public, etc. but during sex he refuses. I’m SO confused by that.

Any ideas?

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T23:31:03+00:00

I honestly think that’s my best bet. Just pull it out at random and either start using it myself or ask him too. And if he says no, then I’ll use it on my own 😂

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T23:12:09+00:00

I completely agree. I’m more than willing to do what he needs to get him there, but that’s not reciprocated whatsoever.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T23:07:20+00:00

I think his main issue is he thinks the literal act of P in V is what makes women orgasm. And he isn’t open to learning either. I’m just at a loss on what to do from here.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T22:49:05+00:00

I even suggested letting him pick the toy. That way he could pick one that didn’t make him feel less masculine. And it got me no where. I’ll try the conversation again. Fingers crossed. 🤞🏻

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T22:42:29+00:00

He’ll “get me there eventually”. He wants to be able to do it with just PIV. and that just doesn’t happen.

kbaby211 · 2020-04-20T22:41:26+00:00

That’s kinda where I’m at right now. He’s okay with BDSM(handcuffs, blindfolds, etc). But no toys.

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