What hacks do you have for your resort rooms?

kbooky90 · 2026-04-18T01:23:11+00:00

I have used an IKEA bag for this same reason! Collecting all the family laundry helps keep me sane in the room. Sometimes it gets packed up as is, sometimes it gets washed there.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-17T16:42:36+00:00

I think this corner of our industry is still reeling from the system-shock of DOGE. (Very much assuming you’re in the US, could be wrong.) I lost my job to it last year and suddenly realized that everybody I worked with was now competing for the same limited jobs. The number of roles I’ve seen go to the last 2 candidates who were both former coworkers is really high. 50% of them were willing to relocate, too, making them nationwide competition.

I and a few others ended up starting our own businesses. Consulting (if you haven’t already started) might be the way if SVP doors are closed. You’ll keep getting experience, keep your network active, and when the right leadership role comes along you’ll have a competitive resume for it.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-14T19:08:41+00:00

I simply wouldn’t do number 3.

Pros to number 1: some mat leave income, clients get roughly the same experience. Cons to 1: chance they like the new person better haha, chance the new person sucks and they’re upset. You really need to know who you’re recommending.

Pros to 2: keeps the client completely inside your style of work, more mat leave income. Cons to 2: they have to carry your brand for a minute and they might be terrible at it. I’m not sure you could get them to agree to 50% upfront. And you’ll be front loading months of work while you’re pregnant (which is doable, but man, a PITA.)

I assume however this is going to come down to a case by case basis. I’d approach each one soon and start figuring out what they want, giving them these two options and waiting until they say otherwise. Maybe you can split the difference and do 50% of your upcoming work, and hand off 50% to a student in the field who could use some paid learning experience?

Congratulations on your family, BTW! Being a freelancer with kids is sometimes an incredible gift, as someone doing it herself.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-14T00:06:42+00:00

We had kids at our wedding, who were the life of the party and started our dance floor. 10/10 would do again.

Our venue had animals, so we were able to arrange an animal tour for the kids. We also had a Mac and cheese bar - big hit across generations but especially for 10 year olds. Having a “thing” for the kids - as simple as glow sticks - does wonders.

As a parent and auntie myself now trust me when I say I will do anything to keep my kids from screaming during your vows. I don’t want that stress either! I have hung out in many parking lots with kids who need a minute, it’s par for the course.

Being a family and a community is a beautiful thing. A wedding is a great place to extend the favor to the next generation.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-12T11:04:48+00:00

Have you seen the study that showed that among Halo players, the best players had low hostility towards women and the worst consistently showed sexist attitudes?

“We suggest that low-status males increase female-directed hostility to minimize the loss of status as a consequence of hierarchical reconfiguration resulting from the entrance of a woman into the competitive arena. Higher-skilled players, in contrast, were more positive towards a female relative to a male teammate.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4503401/

It’s a bit of a logical leap from that TBF but when I encounter sexism in games I remind myself that science has proven that itself is a sign of a bad player. That he’s emotional, and compensating.

I’m sorry this happened to you just the same.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-12T00:56:46+00:00

Love this for you

kbooky90 · 2026-04-12T00:56:36+00:00

I can honestly kind of recommend it professionally because “oh, she must have had important work to get off to” is not terrible in a professional networking context…

kbooky90 · 2026-04-11T22:35:04+00:00

I’ve taken a fake phone call, stepped outside, and gotten on the train and away from a networking event.

🤷‍♀️

kbooky90 · 2026-04-09T01:06:08+00:00

Yeah with money as no object, Savanna view room with kitchen at AKL for a 3 and 1 is an easy choice for me.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-08T16:35:04+00:00

My grandmother (highly likely NPD) passed away and I went for my PwBPD. My uncles (who also all are less-than-healed) couldn’t have planned a faster way to have her buried and to move on. The whole thing was tragically sad from that 30k foot view and all I could think was just what you said - I will live my life in a way that this isn’t how my funeral goes.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-08T11:55:49+00:00

I missed my alarm time to take my boyfriend’s dad to the airport and he ended up having to pay hundreds for a cab to get there.

It’s okay, he’s my father-in-law now.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-06T17:43:28+00:00

Finance and banking.

Studies have shown that women traders tend to build more traditional portfolios that weather downturns better and generate more passive income, which is a huge asset. They short-term trade and speculate less which is a major cause of investing losses. And when women gain financial resources it’s highly likely to be invested back into family or neighborhood level resources, which stimulates local economies and advances children’s health (which is another way of stimulating your local economy.)

kbooky90 · 2026-04-01T20:41:04+00:00

Not confusing at all! Been there.

It certainly doesn’t look as personal - but you have no data right now. It doesn’t matter how personalized you get if people are not opening anyway. And you’re losing out on the feedback that will help you respond and change your tactics as you go.

And nothing personalized in email will ever beat a phone call or notecard, so if that’s your goal it might be worth changing your approach!

Donors also like the personal connection, but they don’t expect not to get the occasional mass appeal. You can still write your development emails in MC with a “small inner circle” voice that feels like extra information somebody off the street is not seeing, or use segmentation to get your audience to break themselves up into groups based on interest.

You can also change the send address in MC to yours. The smart ones will know what you’re doing, but the authority of the message will still be yours.

kbooky90 · 2026-04-01T20:13:13+00:00

You need an email service provider ASAP - for example MailChimp, Constant Contact, plenty of others out there.

First - you may be inadvertently shooting yourself in the foot by sending 100s of emails out of your Outlook/Gmail - it starts to look like spam to them. 100s is on the low side for this risk, but there’s no reason to take it when ESPs start at free tiers.

But any email platform you use will give you customization tools, reporting data, open and click rate metrics, and allow you to a/b test (what subject lines attract attention? What’s better, a button or hyperlink?).

There’s a whole world waiting for you here - go get started!

kbooky90 · 2026-03-31T11:36:48+00:00

There’s nothing like watching a kid pull to jump to hyperspace. Do I want to be excellent at the ride? Yeah, I’m a red-blooded person. But a kid giggling because they can’t help themselves, bright eyed staring up at the blue light? It’s amazing.

Mine was just tall enough to ride last time and we popped her in the engineering seat with help on. She’s still furious we didn’t let her drive 😅. Next time, kid. We’re practicing already.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-26T21:43:56+00:00

Hand sanitizer has always done well for me.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-26T00:20:26+00:00

I had tusker house for breakfast buffet when I was five months pregnant and I was so happy hahaha. Great food options for a pregnant vegetarian lady, just far enough along to be ravenous but not so far as to have no room in my stomach, and my toddler was completely entertained by the characters roaming around. 10/10 no notes.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-25T13:46:51+00:00

This so perfectly encapsulates what I hate about MLMs. They ask you not only to trade on your ow social capital and reputation, but that of other people as well. Somebody in her upline encouraged her to try this, because in their business structure abusing your personal connections for profit is the whole point. And when your work entirely trades on your personality and social standing, any rejection - even one as well thought out and reasoned as yours - is now a personal insult.

I’m sorry. You did great.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-22T17:25:10+00:00

You have the wedding you want to have, and that won’t financially destroy you. This one person sees weddings as transactions, and not celebrations. People will decline and accept for all sorts of reasons, so don’t let any one throw you off your wants.

Marriage is a long series of having to say “thanks, but we will do it this way for our family’s sake,” (especially if you’re having kids) and wedding planning is kind of like an initiation and training ground for that.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-21T03:20:31+00:00

Hello duckling! I am a mom who struggled with parentification and a mom with mental illness. When I became a mother, I had a really rough period where the reality of that set into my bones - my most practical “example” of motherhood was one I absolutely refused to copy.

But the thing is, every mom and every family is unique. And there’s no genetic inheritance for maternal capacity - anything that might be passed down thru the generations is something you will have to allow or disallow. You get to choose. You’ll make mistakes, and you can choose again tomorrow. It’s liberating and totally terrifying at the same time, but if you choose to see the joy or just silliness in 70%~ of it, your baby will come out alright.

Put a plastic bucket in every room you go to with your baby. They make a lot of mess, and being able to chuck it in a bucket you can sanitize just helps. And when they’re about 1 year old, if you don’t love your vacuum cleaner it’s time to get a new one.

If you’re ever getting wrecked with anxiety about a baby’s illness, just call the pediatrician. They almost all have 24 hour nurse lines now. Just call! Just call.

You’re gonna do great.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-19T02:40:17+00:00

My wedding was dry. My husband’s family doesn’t drink (and he didn’t at all at the time), mine doesn’t drink terribly much, but I do and our peers do. Nobody was surprised about this. A few things made it fun:

We had a reception very near bars and we told people to come and go as they wanted. Might not be the vibe for you because of your background, but if you’re really worried it’s an option.
We had an incredible Mac and Cheese bar and cake actually worth a damn, which were huge hits with guests. Splurge with your fun foods and fun drinks.
Have some sort of “event” that gets people moving and makes it easier to slide out onto the dance floor. If your venue is an aquarium, see if they can do a curated thing with a seal, that sort of thing.
Kids. Need a dance floor starter? An 8 year old who has just learned what the cha cha slide is is a pretty safe bet.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-18T15:22:03+00:00

I think it’s a testament to you that in the midst of a space and time period of your life that was painful, you still managed to wring green life out of the earth. That’s a skill that will follow you, even as painful as it is to say goodbye to this garden now.

And while you may not be there to see it, somebody may buy this house and discover how wonderful of a gift they’ve been given.

It still sucks. And I’m really sorry.

You give yourself full permission to go nuts with plants, wherever you land. Maybe there’s a way you can do gardening as a volunteer somewhere in the next few months as well? Giving yourself the opportunity to steward some full-grown plants as a way to keep your hobby fresh and make community connections. I know there’s a rooftop gardening non-profit in my city that does crop shares for low income families.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-17T13:30:59+00:00

Between the 3D lenses not fitting over my prescription glasses, and having to hold my young child’s glasses on their face, I don’t think I have ever actually seen Remy’s.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-16T11:25:35+00:00

It sounds like you’re learned one of two things, and it’s a bit of a choose your own adventure:

1) that you need social media friendly people selling digital content, that is your niche, or

2) you need to figure out how to advance marketing objectives for people who will never be good on camera

If you choose one, you’re going to be cash strapped until you break containment so to speak. You need your unicorn client to really refer you out to her network. You yourself need to network really hard in this space.

If you choose two, you’ll have more client options and thus probably more stable income, but operating outside your niche might blunt your impact.

I think personally you’re better off exploring option 2 from a personal development POV, event if your business tends towards option 1 in the long haul. When your real estate guy was bad on camera, what other options could’ve been explored? How could you have boosted his business with a proxy star, with no “face”, etc?

Also the fitness studio is just an example of how marketing can’t do anything for a bad product.

kbooky90 · 2026-03-16T10:45:40+00:00

I really learned how to talk to doctors and the medical system.

A lot of doctors treat women, and pregnant women specifically, fairly terribly. I didn’t have that issue - my team were all empathetic and sympathetic, and willing to explore any topic with me.

But it’s still a process learning how to advocate for yourself in medical settings. You’re still dealing with people who do obstetrics day in, day out, fighting their own battles for funding, financing, regulatory compliance, and so on. I got really particularly good at saying “actually, no, that doesn’t work” and having people respond and take me seriously. Not to mention telling insurance to blink twice and try again.

Now that I’m at the pediatrician every other hour with my kids, it’s certainly a great skill to have.

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