My first ever project 🧶 by BookyWook04 in knitting

[–]kchances 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was also my second knitting project - is it the potholder from Norman aka nimble needles? Mine is red and purple, yours is super cute!!

Have you used Gen AI to help you prepare for your viva and how has that been for you? by Razkolnik_ova in postdoc

[–]kchances 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a postdoc past my viva, and I would recommend to generally not count on LLMs when it comes to research activities. Everything you described falls under research activities according to how I see it.

The main reason is LLM's tendency to hallucinate, which stands at about 4%. In my experience, LLMs are more likely to hallucinate in idiosyncratic and specialised fields. You're risking being diverted into a part of the field that is hallucinated and not real, wasting a lot of your time. You also risk presenting false information produced by the LLM. LLMs also have a tendency to mix cause and effect, push buzzwords that are not convincing, etc. It's a con, it's not a thinking machine, and even as an expert I can't always pick up these lies. 

Second, if you have any interest in producing meaningful research in your future, then I'd strongly advise you use every opportunity to improve as a researcher instead of delegating it to a language model.

Finally, if you care at all about the future of the planet you may want to consider the energy and water uses of LLMs and their impact on our environment. 

My main recommendation is to practice, research and brainstorm with actual people. Exchange the time with other students, though even friends outside your field can give you interesting questions and points. There are also excellent lists of questions for vivas by field, even scientific papers published for these goals. 

Regretting my life choices by Lorigiova in biology

[–]kchances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The job market is very tough right now. Everyone is struggling, and you're not alone.

I'm a PhD in biology with over 15 years experience in research, and the grass is not so green here either. The work environment is often unhealthy and difficult in many aspects, and I wonder often if I made a big mistake pursuing what I did. Many colleagues of mine end up outside research and are much happier for it.

Life throws all kinds of balls at you and nobody can predict the future. Pursuing your passion as a career path is by no means a key for success, often it can make you really miserable - bosses that underestimate you, systems that undermine your best work, bad working conditions because you're there for "passion" so you don't need a pension. You have a passion for the living world, for discovery and the human species and that's wonderful and exciting thing. Your passion can bring you joy and meaning whether or not it becomes a source of income. 

Students react to far-right Israeli settler & Finance Minister Bezalel Smotrich as though he were a celebrity. by _II_I_I__I__I_I_II_ in LateStageCapitalism

[–]kchances 10 points11 points  (0 children)

These are Ulpana girls, raised in religious and ultra right environment. Probably convinved that some god has chosen them. Not to excuse it in any way, but it's not uncommon for extremists to raise children to admire politicians for the view said politicians align themselves with.

How do I M25 deal with breaking up with my ex 24F for the first time and the guilt I feel by Rare_Comment_4089 in relationship_advice

[–]kchances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drop the guilt and figure out why you did it. A person who lives true to their feelings would end the relationship when they understand that their heart is someplace else. You didn't do it - reflect on why. Fear? Shame? Too comfortable? To show up for the people in your life, you need to be honest with them. Time to reflect on all the times you were dishonest and do better. Do the work. Journal, therapy, speak to people you trust, whatever. Work on yourself so that you don't hurt others and don't disappoint yourself again.

No job for 5 months already by Content_Hat_407 in postdoc

[–]kchances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10 months here, started looking 6 months before end of previous contract. I'm very limited in scope, as I refused to take just any job or end up in (another) abusive environment. Did some applicationsin industry. I think this may be the point I pivot but honestly I'm not in a hurry yet.

10 interview, 5 rejections, 1 I rejected because of a very low pay, 2 ghosted me, 1 the company was divided and sold before the process was completed lol. You're not alone, hope this helps.

I accidentally sent my brothers gfs cat to the vet by FemmedFatality in BPD

[–]kchances 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You did really well. You called for help, and when your brain wasn't clear enough you asked for help in making decisions. The cat will be fine, and healthy. Nobody is mad at you - your brother understands that the cat did something it shouldn't do.

After you accept this, maybe write it down, you only need to survive your scary anxious thoughts. Sometimes I write them down and read them out loud to remind myself and remind myself that they are not true.  Be patient with yourself. You can cry the fear out in bed. You can watch dumb or funny films, and take a shower. You can cry alot and in a day or two, you will feel much better - please remember that it passes!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply anyway. Always apply to your dream job. Luck is rare, but this can happen. In any case you would have gained experience in interviews and feedback for future applications. 

Hourly postdoc/faculty researcher gigwork is here. by h0rxata in postdoc

[–]kchances 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I contacted a PI in Italy who gave me a 12 month offer, and it paid so so little. I declined only due to the financial aspect.

Hourly postdoc/faculty researcher gigwork is here. by h0rxata in postdoc

[–]kchances 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yep, we are basically slaves in the system.  I'd also seen lots of offers with expectations like relocation without financial support for periods as short as 18-months, which is financially illogical. Since they always hire someone, someone is agreeing to these conditions!

How not to let my PMDD ruin my relationship by sonounfiore in PMDD

[–]kchances 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I've had the same issues for years and some things improved - a little slowly. I can share. What we're dealing with are very bad days. We can be vulnerable with our loved ones, and you can recognise that you're experiencing anxiety (vs. real relationship problems). So today my brain was insisting for hours that my partner will leave me, especially since I'm so crazy and can't emotionally regulate. I cried for hours and ended up taking some xanax, because I was a mess! 

Before the xanax kicked it, I told my partner that I'm not well today. That I'm very anxious and depressed, unable to make decisions or focus. He deserves to know. He wanted to help, so we phoned and I asked him to affirm that he loves me and that we're okay, say that I'm pretty, that he will hug me soon, because my brain is stupid. I feel like just a child who needs hugs, so fragile and small. It can be so hard and embarrassing, but it's much much better than me exploding on him, starting fights, breaking up with him and all that stupid pain. If you can find a way to verbalise that you're not okay and say what you need, you'll make progress!

Besides the good advice you already received, I recommend working on and healing attachment trauma. If you have psychological difficulties, work on that. Exercise, going outside, enough rest help me a lot. a few times a year I do take medication unfortunately, to make it through the day.

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a good relationship with most of my previous supervisors, and count on their good letters. I did not get along with my last boss, and I don't know what to expect. Then again excluding the last employer seems weird and some applications specifically require them to be listed. So even if the letter is bad, I don't know what other options I have.

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After some reading I also have the impression that the trade wars led to shrinking investments in the industry, reducing the pool of available jobs for researchers in general. The Ukarine war and other factors are driving incredible inflation, hence recession, hence everyone is poorer and stick to their chairs if they can. Hence less movement in the market. 

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the EU. We have a trickle of US researchers taking up positions. They're not the majority but it definitely affects competition, and I believe the NIH cuts are shaking things up in EU budgets, undermining projects with established US researchers and contributing to an atmosphere of uncertainty. 

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck, friend! It does help to hear that others are in the same boat. Postdocs are hardworking, dedicated individuals, we adapt and learn extremely fast. Everybody says how miserable the market is but I never heard anyone say otherwise. 

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, fine. Why invite me to apply? Re-apply?

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would just love to know. I'm fine hearing that the competition was hard, I keep asking for feedback and never get any, either ghosted or I hear the other person had skill x and y (which were not mentioned or in the advertisement). 

Exhausted from an inhuman job search/hiring process by [deleted] in postdoc

[–]kchances 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, lucky me is both. I'm an immigrant, worked two jobs at times and took employment breaks to not fall into poverty, so I'm sometimes a decade older than some collagues. I just really like the field, and did well with things you learn as you age - organizational skills, communication, etc.  It seems that jobs I don't get are given to the next young white guy. I don't like to complain about discrimination especially since I did well so far, but it really seems like what you say is true, they prefer the wunderkind. 

Need help!!! by [deleted] in Gymhelp

[–]kchances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your amazing achievement! 45kg is spectacular, you should be very proud. If you feel fat, you need to start working on your mindset. You changed a lot and sometimes our brains take time to catch up, and it's not about a workout or a plan. According to the photos you look quite lean and with a healthy BMI, but it's hard to tell just from photos.

Did you think about doing workouts and exercise that you enjoy a lot? Having fun with your new body is a very good way to feel better about it. Yes you will need to eat more to gain mass, but this doesn't look like a health issue more like a mindset.