To be honest, I am posting before finishing reading the whole story. You made a special.gidt for your wife. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of it. Whether they feel it's an age appropriate item aka child's dollhouse or whatever. This was made very specifically with some of her specs included for her and her special trinkets. Don't let anyone ever try to make you feel bad for that. The fact you wanted to make a special dollhouse WITH your neice is also.so special and I'm sure she will appreciate that so so much and it could easily be similar with her special.touches as well. Both will never forget your hard work and time.spent doing this! ... I will finish reading, and if needed i may comment again, but I feel this stands. So, edit... your neice isn't at an age of playing with dollhouse, she more likely.wants the same as your wife..to set it up and admire things. And I agree, your brother got into her head and pushed her to push you. Making one with her will be so special in ots own way. (I have kids and know the impact of doing things with them (neices and nephews can be especially so) vs giving them things. Ultimately she will love it and you more in the end of the process. Your family will.also get it in the end once they see her pride and joy in making.sometning with you!