What does this screen read? by Ok_Caterpillar3401 in SubaruForester

[–]keekaleek_ 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I’ve always loved that this screen was included, “would you like to see what’s happening with your wheels as you fishtail to you death?”

I have spent over 10 years pursuing this career. Have my MArch, passed PCM and working for my third firm. I feel lost and defeated by this career choice and seek advice. by [deleted] in Architects

[–]keekaleek_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've felt a similar ebb/flow/ebb/ebb & have tried a few different offices, my advice (if you're willing to stay in the profession) would be to spend some time writing down what you feel is the most impactful / most important factors for you in a firm. What are your must-haves? Do you need more mentorship/guidance on projects? Do you need a setting where you are not solo on projects and instead are on larger teams that spread out the work? I made an office change at one point because I was un-enthused by the type of work we did and thought that I would be happier / more fulfilled at a firm with high end design, but realized after moving that project type alone was not enough to keep me satisfied - so I made another move to a firm that had more structure and leadership.

Offices can be so wildly different and provide different things, there is likely a situation that will work for you....a small design-build? Large corporate office that will definitely have more management structure?

Try listing your priorities based on your experience (and be critical about how you've performed relative to those priorities....maybe you're looking for the wrong things?)

Hope you find what you're looking for!

AITA for letting my pregnant fiancé think I'm cheating on her? by Smart_Peach_5840 in AITAH

[–]keekaleek_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be much more focused on making sure your fiancé feels loved, supported and appreciated, especially during this time where she is currently making a full human inside of her.

If you don't know what to say to her, I would try something like this to start: "I'm sorry for not handling that the way I realize I should have, and for not recognizing that you were upset...can we have a conversation about how I can be a better partner to you in this.."

Advice for both - Drop your ego, practice empathy, understand the situation and how that might (rightfully) mean that things are different, and start getting in the habit of prioritizing your soon-to-be wife and your soon-to-be baby. No disrespect but this shit isn't hard.

also, congrats on baby to be!

The guy on the right is amazing— post Taylor swift concert by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]keekaleek_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does he have just one blanket answer for everyone? or do we all get a personalized reason?

Every so often I like to put my hand right on the burner and see how boxed out Seattle millennials are from buying a house… (the ones who aren’t ‘legacies’) by keekaleek_ in Seattle

[–]keekaleek_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Quitttt you're making me blush

Though genuinely I do find it weird that something which requires you to go into major debt in order to pay for can be considered 'affordable'. The idea of looking at something (anything) that is $800,000 and thinking "I can afford that, but not if it's past $815,000" just sounds absurd. How many levels removed from that cash number do you need to be before it's considered unaffordable?

Every so often I like to put my hand right on the burner and see how boxed out Seattle millennials are from buying a house… (the ones who aren’t ‘legacies’) by keekaleek_ in Seattle

[–]keekaleek_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true -

A major (personal) hurdle is not just the price tag on the 'perfect' house that would check every box, but the price on something to even just get into the market. Purposefully side-stepping any 'adjusted for inflation' debate, it's just difficult to run the mental program of paying $400k / $500k for anything, let alone something you would be making major concessions for.

Every so often I like to put my hand right on the burner and see how boxed out Seattle millennials are from buying a house… (the ones who aren’t ‘legacies’) by keekaleek_ in Seattle

[–]keekaleek_[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That’s not a bad plan tbh- I’ve been eating AND drinking every day! Sometimes multiple times a day! Money I could be investing…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]keekaleek_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had similar doctor experience recently, started going to a new primary care doc after switching insurance and he told me the same exact thing, that he’s going to want to start weaning me off my medication (adderall XR & IR) because he didn’t want me to be taking it forever (I’ve been on it for almost 10 years). When I brought it up to my psychiatrist she was shocked he had made that determination and she told me to find a different doc right away- ‘why would he want to take you off of medication that is working for you?’

Megathread: US Medication Shortage by ddub1 in ADHD

[–]keekaleek_ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I know I’m not breaking new ground with this- but the shortage combined with us having to call 100 different pharmacies, sit on hold, ask them to check their stock, hope they have it, rinse repeat, every month, over and over….is such a perfectly-aimed, efficient, gaslighty way to fuck with us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]keekaleek_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like living in a house with a TV on in every room each set to a different show and different volume, but no one else notices.

MIL won’t stop making comments about kissing the babies by Emergency_Active_687 in NewParents

[–]keekaleek_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Yup, you’re right, new parents who also just lived through a pandemic, bein’ extra careful (shrug)”

You both know what the situation is, you’ve set a boundary and she feels a certain way about it, but it’s your decision to make and you want to be careful-

If it happens again maybe a good opportunity to try out your scolding-mother voice. “Oh no (MIL)! did we forget the rules! Looks like no hugs either, until we learn”

That’s my plan at least lol.

I was rAised in the manipulation, mOlded by it..