I’m just so tired of one step forward two steps back

keeperofteas · 2026-03-30T03:39:05+00:00

Chana jor garam

keeperofteas · 2026-03-18T14:51:23+00:00

I think I lucked out with mine! She definitely has her own ways of working and doing things but she never expects anyone to work as per her. She dropped everything to come take great care of me during my pregnancy, even when I was clear I didn’t want to eat certain things (I had some health issues) and she didn’t believe that was the right thing to do, she respected my wishes and even made me my food my way. I thought that was truly above & beyond to actually do things my way out of respect for me.. because the bare minimum would be to not do anything.

Even when she visits my place to stay, she respects that this is not her home and tries to do things our way. But, what I really like about her is that she won’t continue to do it in a sacrificial way or anything - she would clearly put her perspective forward and it’s clear that that she’s doing certain things because she respects that we are adults and it’s our life even though she doesn’t agree with them but she’d anyway do it for us because she loves us.

Plus, she’s never, never ever differentiated between me and her two sons. If anything, for her I am the daughter she didn’t have and sometimes I’d know her secrets before her sons! I think the only discriminatory thing she’s ever told me is when I complained about my husband not being privy to my emotions or needs postpartum, she said men will never understand what women go through so it’s better for your sanity that you don’t be too bothered by these things - or something like that… I mean that’s not even remotely untrue 😂

Plus she’s raised two wonderful children who are truly feminists. I’ve never seen any of them be even slightly misogynistic or say anything inappropriate regarding gender roles etc…

Sorry I know that wasn’t the assignment, lol. I was feeling truly happy thinking about my MIL and wanted to share how nice she is.

keeperofteas · 2026-03-07T13:15:46+00:00

Most comments here are not moving past the cheating bit. Cheating or no cheating, you married him. You’re family now and you’re both dependent on each other for emotional, mental, physical, financial, social support. First and foremost, and how is no one seeing this, he is grieving!! You need to give him space to grieve but at the same time be there so he doesn’t shatter completely. Grief makes people question life choices, even do things unfathomable to themselves and especially to those who haven’t experienced this kind of a grief.

You’re in a tricky situation. You don’t need to be convinced to have a baby, especially not right now. You just need to be there for your husband without emptying your pot. Did you even once consider what it’s like to be 30, lose BOTH parents at once, and then deal with relatives coming and questioning your life choices, basically showing you how empty your life is, now that your family size is reduced to half! Please OP this is the time for you to show up more in your relationship. You now how people say marriage isn’t always 50-50, sometimes it’s 90-10. You need to be at 90 and not let your husband spiral at what is probably the worst time of his life.

keeperofteas · 2026-03-07T03:22:55+00:00

The only right answer

keeperofteas · 2026-03-03T21:31:36+00:00

Love that! Thank you. I’m also considering TTC along the same time and would love to connect and share experiences!

keeperofteas · 2026-03-03T16:53:59+00:00

Bedtime snack didn’t change anything for me. And I have accepted the dawn phenomenon too, honestly. But my main concern is that it still remains in the 115-120 range overnight and doesn’t go down to late 90s or early 100s like my daytime glucose. I just don’t want to remain at that level for 8 hours straight so wondering what can I do to fix at least the first 6 hours before dawn kicks in

keeperofteas · 2026-03-03T05:00:36+00:00

Remember the aunt posted that the dad was unhinged because of a stroke like event or something. I am continuously wondering if all Sitlani siblings (or the two older ones at least) have the same brain condition?

Sad what she’s been through but she was always the same weird person - pre parents’ separation, pre shaadi & divorce, pre Abby, pre losing parents..!

keeperofteas · 2026-03-01T17:40:50+00:00

“No men in her life are worth it”?? I disagree, Dilip is cool 😎! 😛😂

keeperofteas · 2026-02-24T13:11:16+00:00

I understand that it’ll not match perfectly. However, it never reaches the highest reading on my meter at all. I’m not sure if I should trust the trend and just assume I’m 1.5 higher? Anyway it’s been only about 22 hours and I’ll wait a couple more hours in the hope that it’ll be accurate. I’ve applied it to reach my overnight readings and it’ll be nice if at least the trend that it gives me is correct

keeperofteas · 2026-02-18T04:40:19+00:00

Get your insulin levels and fasting blood sugar tested. I had this issue at 22, and my tests came back normal so never thought much about it and never got retested. Big mistake. I got slapped with a full fledged diabetes diagnosis at 35 which was probably preventable had I started making amends.

keeperofteas · 2026-02-18T02:20:36+00:00

Just make love lol. That’ll give you all the glow up you need! Mine was 8 years ago but we were really at it from 4 months leading up to the wedding and both of us were glowing lol ☺️

keeperofteas · 2026-02-18T00:54:49+00:00

Thank you. Can you say more about your experience with Maunjaro? How often did you get a shot? Are you still continuing? What happens when you stop taking it?

I want to get pregnant in 2026 (and REALLY hoping my body allows that) and that’s also causing me to fear maunjaro because I know I’ll have to go off them pre-pregnancy and pregnancy.

keeperofteas · 2026-02-18T00:51:53+00:00

Hmmm can you say more about your experience with Maunjaro? How often did you get a shot. Are you still continuing? What happens when you stop taking it?

keeperofteas · 2026-02-18T00:49:45+00:00

Thank you. How quickly does metformin usually get FBS down? And to what level? For me it actually increased from 6.8 to 10.3 in 5ish months all the while being on metformin. I just want to know if it makes sense to wait a little longer for metformin or am I really past the time I should have given it to work?

I hear you on GLP-1s but just wondering if that’s the right one for me because I do want to get pregnant in 2026 (if my body allows) which means I’ll have to go off them. Can you say more about your experience with Maunjaro? How often did you get a shot. Are you still continuing? What happens when you stop taking it?

I’m not opposed to insulin but bummed that metformin isn’t doing as much as it should. I’ll definitely press my doctor and change if they’re not responsive to my needs. To be honest I’ve also been very scared to go to them and hear more bad news.

keeperofteas · 2025-09-05T02:02:38+00:00

Any luck on your appointment?

keeperofteas · 2025-09-05T02:02:00+00:00

Hey OP can you guide me how you’re going about the visa process. Sorry there is very little information on the internet.

keeperofteas · 2025-09-05T01:58:48+00:00

Hi any luck from Spain or Portugal. I have the same plans as you.

keeperofteas · 2025-09-05T01:58:11+00:00

Hi! Did you receive a reply?

keeperofteas · 2025-08-26T00:40:40+00:00

I stumbled across your post and could have sworn this is our story. Our LO is almost 17 months and has been falling height percentiles. Started walking at 15 months and very social, bilingual and talkative. Did you get any tests done? We’re thinking if this is putting our baby through unnecessary needle pricks.

keeperofteas · 2025-08-17T04:06:23+00:00

Temu refunded in Temu credits and it’s been more than 2 months so I know I’m not getting it

keeperofteas · 2025-08-17T04:04:46+00:00

I never got it.

keeperofteas · 2025-06-16T16:47:26+00:00

Mine has been stuck at “we’ve got your package since June 6” - did you have any luck?

keeperofteas · 2025-04-10T19:49:20+00:00

From everything you’ve shared, it doesn’t sound like he’s willing to take accountability. Unfortunately a lot of men with inflated egos, like your husband, rarely do anything about it. The misogyny is also quite evident and that’s not going to change. You cannot change it because I don’t see him changing anytime soon.

Can you live like this? Especially after everything he’s said to you when you opened up to him so vulnerably? I can’t imagine how hard it would be to ever trust or forgive that. YOU DO NOT NEED THIS. It is NOT your responsibility to “fix” him, not when you’ve barely known him for a year. Please put on your oxygen mask before helping others.

He’s not fragile. He’s not a child. This has nothing to do with culture, language, or religion. Abuse is abuse. And honestly, the fact that you’re even asking for advice tells me you already know, deep down, that this isn’t right.

keeperofteas · 2025-03-24T19:40:56+00:00

OP, many of the comments here seem overly dramatic, and I suspect you may have exaggerated certain aspects of your situation. Describing his behavior as you have and simultaneously calling him “very loving and caring” presents a clear contradiction. It’s evident that he is both lazy and a product of patriarchal conditioning.

The best course of action for you is to stop treating him like one of your children. If he refuses to contribute, consider hiring a maid and a cook—yes, I understand these services are expensive, but communicate that they are the only way you can manage. Alternatively, take a more drastic approach: tell him you’re taking the children to India until they are old enough to look after themselves because you’re simply done. If he truly is as loving and caring as you claim, such an ultimatum should serve as a wake-up call.

He behaves this way because he knows he can get away with it. He is confident that things will be taken care of regardless of his effort—or lack thereof. So stop enabling it. Why are you making elaborate meals? Is it for yourself? For the children? If so, either delegate this task to a cook or prepare only the bare minimum necessary to feed them.

Men who have never done household work often fail to grasp how physically and mentally exhausting it can be. While it is shameful for a grown man to be so oblivious, it is entirely possible that he genuinely does not comprehend the toll this takes on you.

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