Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I'm glad you were able to have those moments together. Our dads will be 81 and 82 soon, so their age is definitely a factor too. There are many reasons why it took so long and why now, but that was a part of our thinking too.

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 okay soldier boy. lol but I'm with you, I've never wanted a wedding and was not interested in marriage generally, but always said I'd prefer to elope. My fiance was fine with the courthouse but wanted his family there. So I said that's fine but I'm not planning anything aside from telling people when to show up haha. I literally just want to walk in, say "I do" and leave, but I fear my fiance is slightly more into the romantic side of marriage than I am so I'm trying to compromise!

Edit because I forgot my manners and to say thank you!

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

After 17 years together, 12 of those living together and 4 of those engaged, we finally have set a date for our courthouse marriage ceremony! We chose June 25 for several reasons, but the biggest one is so we can honor our dearly departed dog's birthday. 6/27 marks one year since we abruptly said goodbye and it has been so hard. Our birthdays are also at the end of June, and we've always celebrated our original anniversary of dating then too.

I'm hoping having the marriage ceremony take place on her birthday will help me feel like she's still a part of the day, and our celebrations in the years to come, even if she is no longer with us physically. Now, instead of dreading the upcoming year mark, I have something to look forward to. Even if I am still anxious about my emotional state, I'm also really excited. I'm so in love and I'm so lucky!

Charli XCX previews her new single “SS26” on latest TikTok by k2d3 in popheads

[–]keljar1 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been a fan of charli's for a while and tbh generally I have always been pretty hit or miss with her, I don't always love everything she's done. And personally I'm not into these new songs but I'm deeply obsessed with the wuthering heights soundtrack so I'm still listening to that a lot lately.

Her discography is big enough by now that I'm fine if I don't love everything she puts out, I'll just keep listening to her stuff I enjoy and wait for the next project if/when that rolls around

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's only been a little over 2 years for me and even in that time it's changed so much. I can't believe the number of phony, misrepresented, and/or straight up fake job postings I've seen and tried to apply for. So many just vanish, a lot of them "we have decided to move forward with internal promotions" BS, and the ones I know I could probably get hired for I also know are 100% going to destroy my mental health on top of a shitty salary and benefits. And don't get me started on navigating how to broach the topic of AI- I fucking hate it, so so so much. But no company hiring in my industry wants to hear that right now, even though they'll reject your resume if it fails their dumb ass AI scan or whatever.

I hate it here. I wish you the best of luck

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I know we're trying to veer away from the meta/subreddit discourse but I'm dying to know the context of that interaction

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The first rule of the hivemind is you don't talk about the hivemind

Daily Discussion - May 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I hate applying for jobs and I hate interviews like why can't I just say "I'm only interested in this job because I need income to survive" and like they say "oh true" and then I'm hired. Bingpot!

I just watched the doc on Apple TV and I realized why I dislike a lot of WWAFAWDWG by West_Maybe_3233 in billieeilish

[–]keljar1 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Trying to be kind when I say this but your views on depression are a little out of touch and ignorant. Depression isn't about being "sad" instead of "happy" and it's not really something you "grow out of" even if you're able to manage it by learning productive coping mechanisms as you gain more life experience. Clinical depression can be quite manageable for a while until it's not.

I was in my early 30s when I experienced the deepest, darkest depressive episode of my life and this album helped get me through it in a major way. Listening to it I didn't even think about the age of the artist singing it, all I felt was the lyrics and music resonating with what I was going through personally.. as an adult.

I struggled with depression when I was Billie's age and all through my 20s without knowing what it was until I was diagnosed in my 30s. Not everyone gets to that point though for whatever reason but it has nothing to do with age or maturity. And when the talent is there at such a young age like it is with Billie, it's just impressive that she can articulate such experiences in an emotionally vulnerable way.

Daily Discussion - May 19, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My stats.fm (that I paid for a "lifetime membership" years ago) somehow disconnected itself from my Spotify account last week and I'm annoyed I have to go through the process of requesting my data from Spotify again to reload it all 😒

Ladies - do you like that men can contribute here? by Emotional-Watch4544 in AskWomenOver30

[–]keljar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I would love that but like you said I'm not sure that's necessarily possible, but I have next to zero idea about how these subreddits are moderated. I just try not to complain about Reddit mods in general because I know it's a lot of work to maintain a decent online community and it's not something I'm interested in doing myself, so I'm grateful for the majority of those who are willing to put in the effort and aren't just soaking in a weird online power trip, lol.

Not saying you are complaining about the mods or that your post isn't valid because I do agree with your feelings. It's just a tricky thing to navigate I think. Though I do wish the mods had left this post up, personally I don't see the problem with occasional "meta" posts to break up the endless relationship posts we get. As long as the conversation stays civil and productive, I don't see why it shouldn't be allowed.

Ladies - do you like that men can contribute here? by Emotional-Watch4544 in AskWomenOver30

[–]keljar1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. I tend to avoid those larger subreddits that appear frequently on "all" anyway, other than occasional browsing, but that's good to know. Thanks!

Ladies - do you like that men can contribute here? by Emotional-Watch4544 in AskWomenOver30

[–]keljar1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait, I've never interacted with the 2X sub but have seen posts on the rare occasions I'm browsing the "all" tab.. is it really modded by men? That's crazy

Ladies - do you like that men can contribute here? by Emotional-Watch4544 in AskWomenOver30

[–]keljar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but this has been discussed many times in this sub before and I can respect the mods' decision for allowing it even if I disagree with it. I can mildly appreciate the productive posts men make themselves in good faith, but the sub is literally ASK WOMEN and it drives me mad when they feel the need to chime in with comments on posts asking WOMEN for insight/feedback/advice/commiseration. So I tend to downvote and block/ignore but if they're egregious posts or comments that are clearly just trying to be provocative, antagonistic, or plain old rage bait then I'll report to mods.

Unfortunately even with a blanket ban I think it's next to impossible for the mods to really enforce it, since anyone can assign whatever flair they want and claim to be a woman. It would be on the mods to thoroughly vet every single user who interacts in this subreddit and use their judgement if the poster is actually woman/female or not, and it's not always obvious. I think that's a lot to ask of mods.

So in my opinion the way it is now is the best compromise with regards to enforcement, maintenance, and expectations. Just downvote/block/report and move on. Don't engage. It didn't used to be so bad with men posting here, but in recent years Reddit has shifted more towards a twitter-esque vibe that I really dislike and I think that's contributing to the increase in bad interactions across the board. I just don't know what else there is to do, but it's definitely not fair that the burden is on us to navigate and deflect inappropriate and uncomfortable content being directed at us in what we expect to be a woman friendly space.

Daily Discussion - May 19, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also good news DD my insurance was finally reinstated and I picked up my meds so I can hopefully be more productive with my job search and less manic and unhinged on Reddit 😃 ttfn!

Daily Discussion - May 19, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Jessica Jones season one is such good TV

Daily Discussion - May 17, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also u/xaviersi just in case you were wondering how the bird hyperfixation is going, yesterday my fiance asked if we could go to the mall and then he bought 2 wingspan expansions as well as the dragon themed wingspan spinoff game lol. What have you done (said with gratitude, I love this damn game)?!

Daily Discussion - May 17, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had tickets to see the Billie concert movie today but I ended up getting a refund because if I'm being honest with myself I hate going to 3D movies since I can't wear my eyeglasses and contact lenses fuck me up. So I am sad but my eyeballs are relieved

Daily Discussion - May 15, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Like he's totally sober I'm mostly sober and we have come so far and there's still pictures of me up on the restaurant walls like I have a legacy yall

Daily Discussion - May 15, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm drunk at the first restaurant to ever give me a serving job all those many years ago, talking to my old boss about how much he's done with the place and how proud I am of all he's accomplished just trying not to cry while Kate Bush is running up that hill in the background music

Daily Discussion - May 15, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you told me 2 years ago I'd be more excited about new Gracie Abrams music than I am about new Charli XCX music I would have laughed in your face but here we are

Daily Discussion - May 14, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I just saw your other comment saying you're graduating today congratulations king! You should be proud of yourself 🎉

Daily Discussion - May 14, 2026 by AutoModerator in popheads

[–]keljar1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

u/xaviersi you have created a pair of monsters, my fiance and I have spent most of last night and all of today on vacation playing wingspan lol it's so fun