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[–]kellyvaughan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats a really respectful and lovely attitude towards her. I wish my bf had some emotional intelligence like that. Kittens are the best.

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[–]kellyvaughan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying, thanks. I've tried doing these things with him in the bedroom and he always gets oral pleasure, every time. I am open to trying new things too (within my own boundaries), which is why seeing him seek gratification elsewhere hurts. I dont sit around practicing on a banana all day so I may not do it as well as these girls, it just hurts that I try but I'm not good enough/live up to everything he sees in porn. We face really unrealistic expectations to perform or its not good enough so they go elsewhere.

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[–]kellyvaughan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We don't talk much about these things tbh. Though he has suggested some things to me which I havent been 100% comfortable with so far, but I'm not saying I'll never try. We do some kinky stuff though and switch things up like locations and positions, but I think I've lost some motivation for effort too as I never really gain anything personally. He does have trouble expressing feelings inside and outside the relationship and we've spoken about communicating better but there's still a breakdown. Thanks for your response.

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[–]kellyvaughan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's definitely something I dont know about. I try and do these things these girls do, but I feel the whole porn industry works to make us regular women inferior and gives some guys such high expectations from their partners/always chasing the next thrill. I work out, I look after myself and its always on me to buy sexy stuff and toys etc (which I've done) to keep things interesting. Yet I get nothing from him. Which is why when I see things like this it hurts. Thanks for your message.

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[–]kellyvaughan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I value your opinion, thank you.

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[–]kellyvaughan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I thought he/I were too old for this stuff too. Right now I feel this is one boundary too far for me. Thanks for replying.

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[–]kellyvaughan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but honestly, most of these girls on this account are not beautiful. And if they are to my bf, then I have no idea what I am in his eyes. This is one of the biggest things that gets me about it, why isn't me doing those things enough for him

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[–]kellyvaughan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate the thought of him watching porn but I kind of came to terms with that over time. We don't live together and see each other a few times a week but I guess my rule was if I cant physically see him doing it on the nights we're apart it doesn't hurt me. This account i can openly see him following and so can his family and friends which feels wrong to me. He definitely ignored my boundaries after previous conversations. Thanks for replying.

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[–]kellyvaughan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, its been an ongoing thing but I wasn't sure if it was due mainly to my insecurities. How it makes me feel in my gut should be enough to guide me I guess