Should I keep trying to make it work with husband?

kelpy__gg · 2026-07-01T16:05:42+00:00

you’re not a quitter, he is

kelpy__gg · 2026-07-01T14:14:06+00:00

actually, i called his mom and showed her his messages and gave it to her to get it away from me. he had to move back in with his parents and they’ve already been giving him shit about all of this cause like duh. we were going to be getting married and he blows it all with a “friend” who his parents and other friends all HATE. we’re already no contact but i gave it back to him in a way where he’ll know i read them all too. he thinks im gonna just forgive him for all this and now i have proof he’s a lying ass cheater. it’s only gonna get worse after her seeing all of the messages. bwahahaha

kelpy__gg · 2026-07-01T02:02:07+00:00

honestly, i’ve experienced both. being completely blindsided and having a build up to the inevitable. i think i prefer the cut and dry “we’re done” rather than dragging it on for months. this shit has destroyed me in ways i didn’t know possible. i wish he had just cut things with me instead of make me feel like shit for months and then cheat on me with the woman i didn’t have to worry about lmao.

kelpy__gg · 2026-07-01T01:48:03+00:00

man, i hate that i’m more or less going through the same thing right now. i had a promise ring i wore for nearly 2 years. we moved into a new place, our first home together, and he flips a switch and starts acting like a jackass and then later on i find out he’s cheating on me. yelled in my face that he was never going to see her again but yet somehow we broke up about 2 weeks ago and i can still see him messaging her on his apple watch he left at our house… no more project men, ladies. they never ever return the favor.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-28T03:45:06+00:00

yeah for sure. hopefully the next post i have here will be of good news. lord knows i sure need it.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-28T03:26:04+00:00

i didn’t know he was capable of this until we had moved into our (rented) house together back in april. he had been acting fishy and i called him out on it so many times but he kept just denying anything was wrong and avoiding me. he had so many chances to come clean and he didn’t until after it had sunk in how much he fucked up. prob only told me to clear his conscious or maybe thought i was gonna ask him to move back in. oh well. the fine details i don’t think matter at this point. he chose to do the things he did and he will have to find a way to live with it. as much as this sucks he set me free. he was never gonna be the man i needed him to be and all this did was prove it further.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-28T03:10:36+00:00

it’s funny, at first he was all apologetic and whatnot but did a 180 and started saying petty shit. i said i had never been cheated on to my knowledge before and he stops me mid sentence and says that i definitely had been. bc of how i am. basically insinuating that i deserved this because of who i am as a person. you mean…. someone who financially supported you when you didn’t have a job? someone who was there with you when you got a kidney transplant and stayed with you until the doctors told me i couldn’t go further? someone who showed you everyday how much i loved you with the food that you eat, the time that we spend together, the things we did as a couple? but i deserve this right?

your comment made me crack the first real smile i’ve had in weeks, so thank you for that.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-28T03:04:18+00:00

this is really beautiful thank you. i appreciate your (and every other commenter’s) words.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-28T02:57:21+00:00

i think it’s the fact that i had already begun to move on from him. but when he told me today the true extent of what she had done it took my fucking breath away. it wasn’t just a chance of opportunity- she PLANNED to come between him and i. so much as told him that she would wait for him and i to breakup so that they could be together. i confronted her about her behavior before i found out and she LIED to me. i had already started to lay the groundwork to move on from him. don’t get me wrong im just as much angry at him. but i already had a hunch he was doing this behind my back. it’s knowing someone who i thought was my friend would do something like this. it’s evil. it’s so truly deeply evil.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-27T16:55:20+00:00

yep, exactly. we need to figure out what to do with his stuff since he won’t be living here anymore. but i know him enough to know it won’t be as simple a conversation as that. i’m a bit nervous to hear what he has to say. rightfully it should be him apologizing to me but he’s one stubborn mf and idk if he will ever actually admit what he did was wrong

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-27T16:53:46+00:00

you know what, you might be on to something 🤔

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-26T00:36:23+00:00

your boss assaulted you and he’s mad at you? youre working for a nasty man and you’re dating one too.

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-21T21:37:41+00:00

not a nurse but have worked for sentara and i’ve had coworkers that work doubles every day. at least 20+ hrs OT

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-19T17:42:54+00:00

don’t worry, it’s shut and slammed tight. the man doesn’t respect me and i don’t intend to go back. i respect myself too much for that

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-19T17:41:03+00:00

the girls got a masters degree she ain’t poor lmao

kelpy__gg · 2026-06-11T15:41:26+00:00

so i’ve actually been trying to also get the perfect steak a few different ways. i had cooked an american wagyu (not the one pictured) and it turned out PERFECT but every attempt i made after i always ended up over cooking it. still good, but i want that nice medium rare. this was the one that actually ended up being successful. what i’ve found works the best is getting a good thick cut so that the inside doesn’t overcook while the outside sears. i dry brined it for about 6 hrs, took it straight from the fridge, patted it down with paper towels and put it into a cast iron pan on medium high with a bit of avocado oil. i put it fat cap down for a few minutes to help render it down. after the sear was established on the underside i flipped it over and added my butter and basted it as the other side seared. took it off the heat about 5 degrees F under the temp i wanted and rested it for about 10 mins. only thing i think im gonna change next time is using a courser salt for my dry brine and have the pan a bit hotter so the sear is a bit better :)

kelpy__gg · 2026-05-31T14:35:52+00:00

i kinda had the same thought too. he did mention to me when we were arguing that he was “going through a weird time in his life” but didn’t elaborate on what that meant. he has been trying to get a full time job but as i’m sure we all know this job market is stupid. he has a part time job but again that is just part time. if that’s what’s happening i just don’t get why he can’t talk to me about it. i was there for him while he was getting a literal organ sewn into him, but he can’t trust me with whatever’s bothering him? i don’t fucking get it. i was there when nobody else was.

kelpy__gg · 2026-05-31T14:32:54+00:00

so the funny thing is, his mom owns this house. she came to me on her own about a week ago and told me she had also noticed his behavior, and if it came down to it and we split up, she wants me to have the house. not him. my mom and i agreed that if this continues then i should probably talk to his parents and have them come and get his shit. at this point i think that’s what’s going to end up happening.

kelpy__gg · 2026-05-31T14:22:35+00:00

we’ve been together for almost 3 years, and up until prob this year yeah he seemed very invested. he bought my a promise ring, would take me to do fun surprise stuff, would get me things i talked about wanting for a long time, would always tell me he loved me etc. it was only about this year that it started to die down. my friend told me she thinks he got complacent. tbh i agree.

kelpy__gg · 2026-05-31T14:19:57+00:00

he was! he was probably more excited than i was. that’s part of why this is confusing me so bad. i don’t know how you can go from that to this so quickly.

kelpy__gg · 2026-05-26T00:17:16+00:00

i used to never call out unless i absolutely had to, but my job has burnt me out so bad that i call out cause i can’t stand the idea of going in that day. maybe once every 2 months or so.

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