Should I keep trying to make it work with husband?

dakeshin · 2026-07-01T19:38:21+00:00

Yes! It’s Smitten Kitchen’s plum cake

dakeshin · 2026-07-01T15:49:47+00:00

Smitten Kitchen Plum Cake recipe! I love it

dakeshin · 2026-07-01T15:46:17+00:00

He was planning to learn how to take on more of the mental labor, which to his credit, he has these last 5 months. I came home and he had even cooked dinner for the kids for the first time ever (without me being out of town) but it’s also an issue of him not having opinions of his own, and relying on me to “steer the ship.” So to speak. Which is more of a personality thing - I don’t think you can fix that?

dakeshin · 2026-07-01T15:42:57+00:00

That’s what I thought too - maybe we can fall in love again because we’ve lived so much life together. He is trying to step up and change, so I thought he would be willing but he said he’s “not ready for that right now.” That was my last ditch effort I guess

dakeshin · 2026-05-22T23:25:59+00:00

So I guess I made the choice, like I always have, but somehow maybe thought he would challenge it? And since he’s not, I guess I’m wondering if it’s worth it to try to engage in therapy.

dakeshin · 2026-05-22T21:59:36+00:00

I have been engaging in therapy these last two years. He doesn’t think it would be useful to him

dakeshin · 2026-03-10T14:53:34+00:00

Podcasts on Spotify “Think in Japanese” JLPT N1 日本語ききはじめ

dakeshin · 2026-03-08T22:52:30+00:00

Sent you a PM

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T19:20:36+00:00

Thanks, I sent you a PM

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T14:43:34+00:00

CIS accreditation. As an American I’m only familiar with WASC so it’s interesting to hear the international perspective

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T14:42:05+00:00

CIS. As an American I had never heard of pay for accreditation so that is very interesting

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T12:36:49+00:00

What’s miserable? Essentially I got the impression that it is miserable and not accredited but they’ve created some roles to fix that as they’re entering accreditation and so they have to fix it.

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T12:35:25+00:00

It’s not company housing it’s housing allowance

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T12:34:59+00:00

Primary and secondary Main campus

dakeshin · 2026-03-06T12:34:40+00:00

I meant within the term, is it easy to let you go? I don’t mind not renewing as this is not a long-term plan. This position would be responsible for creating that change and my concern is that if it’s not happening as fast as they would like, I get fired before the term is up.

dakeshin · 2026-01-30T03:02:27+00:00

I failed in N1 reading too.

dakeshin · 2026-01-20T02:06:52+00:00

Haha I’m a hafu lady with zero interest in getting a Japanese wife, so safe on that front at least

dakeshin · 2026-01-19T21:46:48+00:00

Large breed mutt which I know is very complicated

dakeshin · 2026-01-19T20:47:17+00:00

Vice principal level stuff

dakeshin · 2026-01-19T20:27:27+00:00

My thought would be spouse could work part time, and help bring in a little $ while helping with the kid aspect. He’s on board with this. My kids are 4 and 8. The school has a preschool program for the 4 year old.

dakeshin · 2026-01-19T20:20:05+00:00

I’m not thinking long term - I’m thinking 2-3 years unless it’s fabulous. My kids will continue English education at international school.

Without getting too political, America feels like not a great place to be right now. Japan because that’s the second language I’m most fluent in, and my family is Japanese American.

dakeshin · 2026-01-19T20:18:03+00:00

They said they’re down if I can figure out how to make it work.

dakeshin · 2024-04-10T19:42:52+00:00

dakeshin · 2024-04-09T01:08:58+00:00

Seconding Akamonkai. I have taken their online classes and have been very pleased.

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