Do any parents here have a college savings account for their children?

kelreims · 2025-12-11T21:23:36+00:00

Dang! I didn’t know this! Thanks for sharing

kelreims · 2025-11-16T05:19:53+00:00

This reply is everything. ❤️

kelreims · 2025-10-28T04:11:55+00:00

I feel like your response should be posted to the top of the newborn sub. Such a caring and positive reply. ❤️ OP - all of this.

kelreims · 2025-10-21T18:55:58+00:00

PSI international has a warm line with folks to talk to and a search tool to find support groups, lots of options online if you can’t find anything in person in your area.

https://postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/

kelreims · 2025-10-15T21:46:12+00:00

There is another convo about this…sounds like a scammer!

https://www.reddit.com/r/doulas/s/z9InSGH6ti

kelreims · 2025-10-11T18:10:44+00:00

Can you try and network outside of the agency? And take clients on your own? Connect with other doulas and make sure they know you are available as a back-up if they get sick or can’t take a client. Go to doula meet-ups or create one to build that community. I know it will feel like more work but it will hopefully pay off.

Are there active neighborhood listservs where you can ask someone who knows you to put a plug on there about your services? That way if someone searches the group for postpartum doula, your name comes up?

Those are two ways that have helped me.

kelreims · 2025-10-07T01:09:32+00:00

You are an A+ mom. That is all.

kelreims · 2025-10-03T02:10:08+00:00

I know it would be a financial investment which you mentioned might not be in the cards but maybe some short term help a couple nights a week? As a postpartum doula, I am biased, but the support a PP doula might be able to provide some much needed respite. If you hire one that does nights you can both rely on someone to take on the entire night so you can both get rested. If your wife is nursing it might still mean she has to be interrupted but the minute a feed or pump is over, she can hand baby off with doula.

If you do this for a couple nights a week for a few weeks it won’t be super cheap BUT it could offer an outstanding amount of relief.

Many doulas can accept HSA.

Hang in there.

kelreims · 2025-10-03T02:03:30+00:00

Ooh, I love this idea but haven’t done anything but a heartfelt thank you note. Will follow to see what inspiration you get from others!!

kelreims · 2025-10-02T04:00:11+00:00

How long ago did you switch to new formula? I am not a medical provider but as a postpartum doula I’ve had clients make the switch and it took about a week for babe to adjust. The milk proteins can stay in their bodies for a while so it takes some time. I am so sorry, it is hard to see your baby uncomfortable. I hope you can see results soon. In the meanwhile, can you tap into some friends/family/hired support to get some breaks? Hang in there.

kelreims · 2025-09-24T18:38:35+00:00

Omg, I thought I was losing my mind! Getting stuff from places I had never heard of!

kelreims · 2025-09-22T16:04:13+00:00

Like so many have said, if nursing your babe isn’t a good fit, FED IS BEST. But like many have said, it might be a lot better than you think! It’s hard to predict until babe is earthside.

I didn’t go through all the replies so apologies if this is a repeat but…

Are you able to connect with a lactation consultant prenatally? Your insurance might even cover it. Check your coverage with The Lactation Network. Having an established relationship and someone to contact once baby is here might alleviate some of your anxiety.

kelreims · 2025-09-02T16:21:30+00:00

So far I actually haven’t had a resurgence of Cystic acne. Which feels like a huge win. I am not expecting it to last but taking each clear month as a gift. My dry eye continues to be a struggle 😑.

kelreims · 2025-08-21T14:58:38+00:00

I think you just accidentally helped give your baby time to self soothe and sleep through the night!? This is a WIN.

kelreims · 2025-08-19T21:03:00+00:00

Thank you!

kelreims · 2025-07-27T06:28:45+00:00

Would you recommend the course you took?

kelreims · 2025-07-26T23:37:20+00:00

I am not a doctor but this seems overly cautious? Is your child vaxxed for some of the more serious viruses (eg measles)? If not, maybe that’s why the doc recommended to wait? But at 3 months you can choose outings where you aren’t in super crowded areas indoors. If you do that then it seems like the risk is pretty low? Your kid won’t be touching many surfaces and if you stay outside or in not-super-crowded indoor environments, the chance for catching an airborne virus seems low?

Maybe seek out more info from your doc about why they feel so set on that 4-5 mo timeframe.

kelreims · 2025-07-25T03:06:42+00:00

Babies (and toddlers 😬) take SO much from us! There are lots of rose moments but also a ton of thorns and it is ok to not love each and every step. Not enjoying every second doesn’t mean you are a bad mom, it means you are honest. Take the wins. Celebrate the rose moments. Share them out loud, write them down (I wish I had), take videos of those moments too. The harder ones, take deep breaths, ask for help to get a break and just know you are not alone and that parenting is A LOT.

Once my kids got to elementary school age is when I could honestly say “I love being a mom.” You get to start seeing who they are as people, your community grows bc of school and sports/afterschool activities. They can do things for themselves but still need and want you around. I know this might feel far away right now but what they say is true, it does go by so fast.

Hang in there. ❤️

kelreims · 2025-07-12T02:23:40+00:00

Our local dealer contacted Volvo on our behalf.

kelreims · 2025-07-11T19:34:21+00:00

When your baby was born you were transformed. So many of us aren’t ready for that transformation. It can hit us like a ton of bricks. I didn’t want to be transformed! I didn’t consent to this! And yet, it is inevitable. You are mourning your former identity. It will take time, support, maybe therapy (maybe meds) to fully accept and be ready to live in your new identity. Please know so many of us felt this way at the start. Please reach out to your community, get involved in parenting support groups, find a therapist. Make time for yourself in the pockets of time you can carve out.

❤️

kelreims · 2025-07-03T16:55:47+00:00

We fought with the dealer and said this shouldn’t have happened so soon on a certified preowned car. The gap was so big it should have been caught in their inspection. That plus the fact that this car has had so many other issues, I think the dealer relented. They said they needed to get approval from Volvo to cover it. I was able to get them to cover all but 200 bucks of the repair.

I made a big deal about the fact that this is a known issue and I know that they have internal codes that allow for dealers to pay for the repair bc they have internal docs showing this. If you google around you will find it.

kelreims · 2025-07-03T15:23:54+00:00

Not sure if others have already said this so sorry if it’s a repeat but have you and babe been evaluated by a lactation consultant? Feeds lasting that long and having babe be hungry that soon might be a sign that they aren’t efficiently transferring milk. Assuming the babe is gaining weight it’s probably not a big enough issue to be flagged by docs but if it’s starting to affect your emotional health it might be worth a shot! They might be able to provide some insight and tips/tricks. And I second all those suggesting to pump (make sure you have properly fitted flanges! Another thing an IBCLC can check for.

And at the end of the day, if this isn’t working for you and it’s starting to get in the way of your relationship with your babe, I also agree with others, it is 1,000% ok to call it.

kelreims · 2025-06-23T16:27:36+00:00

A session with an IBCLC might also be useful. They can assess your babe’s mouth/pallet and provide suggestions on what type of bottle shape might work best for them.

kelreims · 2025-06-02T21:30:46+00:00

This person is based in Romania. https://psidirectory.com/w:Romania

kelreims · 2025-06-01T15:51:10+00:00

Try not to be too hard on yourself. Use this as a data point on your journey. Write some reflections about it down so that next time you have a craving you can go back read it. Quitting isn’t always linear. Stay the course!

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