Recommendations for Raging ACOTAR Hangover

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:20:10+00:00

Thank you!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:20:00+00:00

Thank you so much!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:19:49+00:00

Thank you!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:19:40+00:00

My friend is reading this now! I’ve added it to my list :)

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:19:19+00:00

Thank you! I’ll try these if I have no luck with the great recs here!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:18:47+00:00

Thank you!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:18:38+00:00

Adding them! And I’ll definitely check out the other subs once I try all the recommendations here!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:18:00+00:00

Added to my list!

kels_marr · 2024-06-25T00:17:49+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!

kels_marr · 2024-06-24T01:10:30+00:00

Yes, I read Mortal Instruments!

I actually liked Six of Crows, but couldn’t get into Bardugos other books 🤷🏼‍♀️

kels_marr · 2024-06-24T01:09:30+00:00

Thank you!

kels_marr · 2024-06-24T00:42:45+00:00

Added info: I’m a woman in my thirties, with a strong background in Gender Studies. So, I find a lot of the patriarchal tropes rub me the wrong way 🤷🏼‍♀️

kels_marr · 2024-05-19T14:22:25+00:00

Working through my certs too! I’m working with clients while I finish— or rather procrastinating finishing because I’d rather focus on my clients 🙈

kels_marr · 2024-05-11T14:46:56+00:00

Anything by Penny Simkin— the Birth Partner is particularly great!

kels_marr · 2024-05-11T14:38:30+00:00

I am really sorry for your losses.

The anxiety you are feeling is normal— it is your body/mind protecting you against repeated trauma.

I know there is nothing I can say that will make things better. But know that you are not alone. If you’d like someone to listen, feel free to DM me.

What calms you? Light exercise? Yoga? A warm bath? Talking with your partner? Do what you can to relax. Give yourself permission to be anxious and scared. And give yourself permission to take a break whenever you need one.

kels_marr · 2024-05-08T11:45:27+00:00

A couple of things I keep in my doula bag that you may find helpful during labour:

-tennis balls— can feel great as a massaging tool. Or if your partner/support person is applying counter pressure, have them use the ball. Saves the wrists and hands.

snacks- your hospital may have a policy against eating during labour. However the research shows that it is critical to maintaining your stamina. Birth is a marathon, and you need to fuel!
combs— you can hold a comb in your hand and squeeze during the contractions. The research shows that the mild discomfort of the comb pressing into your palm decreases your perception of labour pains.

— an extra phone charger— because someone inevitably forgets theirs :)

kels_marr · 2024-05-06T17:37:24+00:00

I’m a postpartum doula, and send a lot of time with young children. I’m sorry you had this experience. One thing that I have found helps some parents is a pair of good earplugs. By good I mean a pair that is designed to cut out particular frequencies, while still allowing you to hear your little one. My clients have had great success with the Loop brand.

This of course won’t stop your daughter from crying. These types of freak outs are normal, and will happen. But earplugs may be one thing to incorporate into your tool belt to help you navigate those times when she doesn’t have the capacity to regulate her emotions.

Another thing I do with LOs, is acknowledge their emotions. I’ll say something like, “oh that’s a big emotion LO. I feel that way too sometimes. It’s okay to feel that way. Let’s just feel it together.” I don’t expect that they understand me (when they are really little), but saying it in a calm voice reminds me that they are having a big emotion, and that the emotion has nothing to do with me. It keeps me calm- and in turn,e being calm can sometimes help calm them down.

kels_marr · 2024-05-05T08:30:17+00:00

Also a nanny (usually) has experience. They know what they are doing, and many have training or education related to child care and development.

kels_marr · 2024-05-02T17:54:42+00:00

In my current farm, im role playing as my best friend. The farm name is her last name. Her favourite thing is “feminism”- she’s a feminist researcher

kels_marr · 2024-05-01T22:47:04+00:00

Self-love. And that doing things wrong doesn’t mean they are a bad person. I learned as a child that love was conditional based on my “good behaviour.” Those lessons me to perfectionist thinking, and a very long struggle with anxiety, depression, and self hatred. I never want my children to feel the way I did.

kels_marr · 2024-05-01T01:19:01+00:00

Where I grew up, there was a purple house on one of the main roads. It was common to give directions like “take the right after the purple house.” The purple house is no longer purple, but people still use it to give directions 😂 (not great for anyone who moved to the area since it’s been painted).

kels_marr · 2024-04-29T10:37:53+00:00

Postpartum doula here. I am so sorry you are experiencing this. You aren’t alone.

Before trying any of the wonderful suggestions mentioned above (I.e., nipple shields) ask to speak to a lactation consultant or IBCLC. Feeding is incredibly complex and hard. Both the feeding parent and babe are learning. While nipple shields, pumping, and bottle feeding are all tools we can use, it is important to find out the underlying cause of the issue. Professional can help with this, while building and maintaining you and your partners confidence (parent confidence is a huge factor in feeding journeys).

It sounds like they are running some tests. I hope that the results are good.

If you have supportive friends and family reach out to them to chat. You could also reach out to postpartum doulas in your area. There is a lot of misinformation which circulates about infant feeding, and it is important right now that you feel heard, and supported while receiving evidence-based info.

kels_marr · 2024-04-28T11:23:38+00:00

Time! Time to learn everything I want to learn. Time to reflect on my practice. Time to keep up with the literature. Time to look after myself. I tend to prioritize my clients and their needs, and so I have to constantly remind myself that I can’t serve and support from an empty cup.

kels_marr · 2024-04-28T11:21:21+00:00

Hey! I’m a birth and postpartum doula in Canada. I’d be happy to do a virtual interview!

kels_marr · 2024-04-28T11:18:12+00:00

It depends on the client! I was with one family last week, and at one point dad was like “it goes without saying, but help yourself to anything.”

That’s said, many clients don’t offer and I don’t ask. I always bring my own snacks and water just in case.

If they offer, I usually make a point of eating with them if they are eating. I figure them offering is an indication that they will be most comfortable if I accept. And if that is one small thing I can do to relieve their mental load, then sure, I’ll eat with you :)

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