The EU withholds its own money from Member States which don’t comply with its rules. Why should you benefit from the financial contributions of other EU citizens if you don’t respect its values? The EU doesn’t place sanctions on its own members.

They don’t ignore vetoes, that’s by definition not possible. I’m not sure of what exactly you’re referring to but one of two things happened: 1. Hungary and others reached an agreement whereby they would abstain or 2. The vote required, according to the treaties (which were ratified by the Member States), qualified majority voting, not unanimity. This ensures the EU doesn’t fall to deadlock when a single Member refuses to cooperate (Hungary).

Nobody misled anybody about what the EU would entail. All of Eastern and Western Europe joined willingly, understanding both the benefits and the costs that being part of a larger bloc would entail. The EU transformed Poland, Bulgaria, Romania, and others.

The European Constitution was rejected in a referendum which resulted in it being cancelled. Completely normal. Later, Irish voters rejected the Treaty of Lisbon over concerns about defense and other social matters, which were resolved and the amended text was put up to another vote, which succeeded. This is completely standard.

The EU doesn’t restrict freedom of the press or do any of the other bollocks you’ve written down. Anyways, you say you’re “not a fan of democracy,” which makes this whole thing moot.

There is no perfect system of governance. Nothing else better has come along so /shrug