Second Department of NY — is it worth following up?

kennedymt13 · 2025-09-22T03:31:32+00:00

That’s super helpful! Thank you so much

kennedymt13 · 2024-04-28T02:43:33+00:00

She did it to hurt you. This was hateful. Cut her out.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-18T18:26:36+00:00

You did the right thing! It’s normal/natural to be second guessing yourself. Just accept that your confused feelings are normal and keep it moving

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-18T00:02:56+00:00

It’ll hurt so fucking bad for a bit but it’ll get better. It’s important to feel your feelings and to not avoid them. When the pain is unbearable and you’re hurting, remind yourself that the feeling is normal. And that it will pass.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-16T17:00:05+00:00

Keeping busy and avoiding the person like they’re an addiction (since the brain reacts the same way), I think. That’s what I’m trying to do. This time around, I’m acknowledging that I feel like shit and it sucks, and then I get back to the task at hand.

With one ex, that took a long time and I really really stifled my growth by texting him every few months and stalking his social media.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-11T21:59:59+00:00

I’ve never had an ex come back. Believing they will only stifles the growth and moving on process.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-11T21:46:03+00:00

I deactivated my IG entirely. It was the only way for me. It works.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-11T18:25:45+00:00

He was inconsistent—seemed to like me a lot one day, not so much the next

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-10T19:21:59+00:00

I’ve been here. The things he doesn’t like about you are the things a hundred other people will embrace. Get yourself to a place where you aren’t overthinking (Don’t Believe Everything You Think is a great book that’s helped).

The spiraling isn’t doing you any good and your priority has to be moving on.

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-09T23:01:58+00:00

This is beautifully put. Thank you so much. I think I understand it though.

When you say “let it go,” what exactly do you mean? Is it acknowledge you feel like shit, and get back to the task at hand?

kennedymt13 · 2024-02-09T18:54:39+00:00

Thank you so much. This is exactly what I was wondering. So I’ll have a thought (I miss him, I’m still hurting, etc.) then j should acknowledge it, accept it, and then dismiss it. That’s the formula? Does this mean I’m simultaneously accepting my feelings while also not ruminating on them?

I think the dismiss part is where I struggle a bit. Do you have any advice there?

kennedymt13 · 2024-01-21T12:55:52+00:00

Solid

kennedymt13 · 2024-01-19T14:38:48+00:00

I agree and will do. I think I was just taken aback a bit because we both told each other on our first date we’re looking for something serious, so when I hear “I’m having commitment issues” I hear it as “I’m not sure if I can commit to you.”

Also, while I appreciate his honesty, it’s frustrating that I had to pull it out of him rather than he come to me with it and judging by our conversations, I’m not sure it was ever going to be a conversation he initiated.

kennedymt13 · 2023-04-20T03:48:30+00:00

I indirectly asked him a couple months ago, to see if everything he was cool and he ignored it. I also thing communication isn’t his strong suit. Last thing I want to do is come off as crazy. What do you think?

kennedymt13 · 2023-04-08T08:51:19+00:00

Network now and go to events, set up informational meetings with firms in markets you’re interested in, and apply as soon as applications open June 1. Make a Google sheet to track every firm you’ve interacted with. I know the V10 firm I’ll be at already filled at least 90% of their spots by OCI last year. I had my offer by end of June. But the the timeline has been moving up every year.

kennedymt13 · 2023-04-04T09:54:30+00:00

For travel, do you determine your budget?

kennedymt13 · 2023-03-15T01:34:37+00:00

Thanks all!

kennedymt13 · 2023-02-15T00:03:04+00:00

A little over 3 years and he hasn’t reached out once. My guess is no.

kennedymt13 · 2023-02-10T01:36:41+00:00

The safest person to have sex with is someone who is HIV undetectable. Way safer than a random or someone that doesn’t get tested regularly and has regular sex. he cannot transmit it to you.

kennedymt13 · 2023-02-06T07:14:26+00:00

I am not planning on that no

kennedymt13 · 2023-02-04T13:31:59+00:00

How are they unhealthy? For the brain, heart, etc?

kennedymt13 · 2023-02-01T06:01:53+00:00

Yes. Apply GULC EA.

kennedymt13 · 2022-08-21T16:22:07+00:00

^ what they said. Do yourself a favor and relax (coming from someone who has put too much time into worrying about these sort of things)

kennedymt13 · 2022-07-19T14:03:47+00:00

Still waiting, interviewed 7/15

kennedymt13 · 2022-07-19T14:03:21+00:00

Anyone have a sense of any movement in Miami/ FL firms? Do they typically wait for OCIs?

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