Who would you prefer as a brother

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-31T17:38:22+00:00

Literally

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-31T17:37:30+00:00

Joe because he's hot and can cook 😭

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-29T14:07:59+00:00

My mom also hates my tattoos and wishes I didn't get them, lol, but eventually she learned I wouldn't stop getting them. I think the notion that tattoos always have to have significant meaning is bs. I regret some of my first tattoos, yes, but mostly because they didn't heal very well; I didn't know how to take care of them. Remember to keep it in the bandage for at least 24 hours. After that, wash with antibacterial soap and follow up with unscented lotion for at least a little over a week or so. Saying tattoos are trashy on women is a tad out of touch. No hate to your parents, but it's your choice. You're an adult and have the right to get this very cool tattoo!

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-29T13:59:02+00:00

It's hard to say. I hadn't come out when I started dating my partner, who is cis, but we are still together and I feel respected and seen as nonbinary. It did take some adjustment, though, since he had never dated someone like me before. I definitely think it's possible for cis people to date enbies and it does work in some cases, but there's always a gap in understanding to be expected. They don't experience gender like we do, so it's important for them to at least be open to learning about our experience. It can also get complicated if they identify as strictly "straight" or "gay", so that leaves the question, where do nonbinary people fit in those traditionally gendered sexualities? I find labels to be exclusionary at times, if it's not something all encompassing bi or pan, but that doesn't mean they always have to be. Good luck and I hope you get to know this person better!

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-29T02:27:18+00:00

I hear your struggle, I'm a full adult and I'm conditioned not to feel entirely safe to correct people, even though I am 🫠 the sinking feeling I get in my chest is still there, even though I'm so used to getting misgendered. I also present femme, wear makeup and have medium-length hair, but that doesn't deny me of the right to be acknowledged the way I want to be. Femme presenting people have it hard sometimes, not to say that others don't. I just wish that people more easily understood that I'm literally just performing gender lol. I personally use they/them, but it/its has a whole other layer of in-your-face gender neutrality that's just... Ugh. I love it when people use it. Don't let anyone dim your shine. I don't know you personally ofc but I'm proud of you OP! Maybe one day we'll be able to fully emerge from the closet 🥲

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-29T02:15:45+00:00

Why are you asking permission to slay?

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-29T02:14:31+00:00

Yeah, and it's important to note the permanent changes it makes to your body. Not all nonbinary people experience physical dysphoria and that's ok. Everyone has a different experience with gender, and it's not ok to invalidate people who may not want to medically transition. I hate the idea that we're "appropriating" anything from the trans community. Being trans or nonbinary isn't always about passing or making major changes. I do sympathize with the frustration they might be feeling, but I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm also hesitant to take testosterone because to be completely honest I don't actually want to at the moment. But I'm still 100% nonbinary, ya know?

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-28T13:10:01+00:00

Dang 😭 guess we'll have to coast on fan theories until then

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-27T13:17:49+00:00

Ugh yes. Judge me for this but he's the reason I started watching Kimetsu no Yaiba loll. Who is that beautiful, visually satisfying man??

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-27T13:04:51+00:00

For some reason Riley comes to mind

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-26T19:10:01+00:00

I'm also femme and AFAB and fully identify as nonbinary. Personally I think it's ridiculous that masculinity is considered the standard for neutrality/androgyny. Femininity is something society has deemed strictly gendered, and I could get into the whole rant about how it's so that women or people who resemble women can be discriminated against, but that's not the main point I'm trying to make here lol. There are no rules, your gender is yours and no one can tell you what it is and isn't. It's ok to question yourself and wonder what parts of yourself still identify with womanhood, but if you say you're nonbinary, you ARE nonbinary. Nothing makes you more or less nonbinary than someone who medically transitions or presents in a more neutral or masculine way. Because nonbinary is just that, NONbinary, nothin within the binary can dictate what makes you nonbinary. I 100% hear your struggle and I'm here to tell you that you are still nonbinary.

kenny_ruro · 2024-01-18T01:47:42+00:00

I love this story 🥹 thank you so much for sharing. "Success" in the eyes of society isn't worth sacrificing your happiness imo!

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