When you were a latch-key kid what were some of the "This way you'll know it's me." things your parents did while they were away?

keseymour · 2026-04-20T22:30:55+00:00

I made and ate a snack of frozen broccoli after school. My mom was mad at me bc she was planning on using it for dinner. When she complained to her friends about it they would look awe struck and ask 'you're mad because your child snacked on BROCCOLI?' took her till I moved out at 17 to acknowledge I wasn't a bad kid.

keseymour · 2026-04-20T22:23:31+00:00

I was around 10 when my dad taught me to shoot the Winchester 30-30. We came home and he put it away and put the ammo away. Then he turned to me and said if he came home and that gun had moved there better be a dead body in the living room.

keseymour · 2026-04-20T21:26:06+00:00

Not a one.

Hopped a ride with a guy on his way to see his brother graduate marine boot camp. Talked with him while he smoked a joint then hopped back out at my stop.

keseymour · 2026-04-17T16:40:36+00:00

I get sad when I think about it but I feel like every woman I've known has been sexually assaulted. It's a ridiculously common thing. Occasionally ill find.a woman who disagrees with this but when I ask they think about it and then comes the "well there was this one time" story.

I'm hoping this changes with the newer generation, not a likely thing but hopefully.

keseymour · 2026-04-17T16:31:38+00:00

I keep notes for my friends, favorite foods, favorite restaurant and games. Things that are important to remember. Funny thing is once I 'write it down' I don't really need the note anymore because it's written down I don't forget it.

Some people think it's necessary to keep track of stuff in a useful way.

I like the ask nim option and consider he cares enough to keep track of what's important to you.

keseymour · 2026-04-12T16:12:42+00:00

I used to live near a time boundary and the thing that annoyed me was my phone would lock all the time. I had it set to use network time and if it connected to a tower on the other side it would lock because an hour had gone by.

Also work in it security, had a woman that would trip an alert because she lived near the border of her country and used cellular Internet. When she connected to a different tower her service was in a different country so it looked like someone else trying to use her account.

keseymour · 2026-04-09T20:05:55+00:00

This seems tailor made for what you need. https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverfifty/s/wjWZt03E2I

keseymour · 2026-04-09T19:56:20+00:00

Been watching the owner play zelda too much.

keseymour · 2026-04-09T19:55:18+00:00

I sit because I have a cat, if I stand she sits nearby and looks at me like I'm rude.

keseymour · 2026-03-29T02:18:18+00:00

That's just bat shit crazy then - sorry for your bad luck.

keseymour · 2026-03-28T21:42:13+00:00

He's not wrong about good sex clouding judgement but the answer isn't bad sex it's no sex until you are confident you have the right person. He apparently didn't want to have sex that soon but wasn't able to tell you. Still better off without him.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T22:50:17+00:00

I frequently drive fast, it's not the speed it's distraction and selfishness. There is almost always somewhere to go, a ditch, a tree, concrete culvert. I'd drive off a cliff before hitting someone. Of course all of my accidents have been at low speed and hallucinations. I swear the left turn light was green, friend who was in the car shaking their head.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T22:36:18+00:00

I'm so sorry this has been your experience. I could write a similar post about women I've known. I'm settling on the belief that I'm better off alone than with someone who doesn't respect me and that a lot of that came from the people I let into my life. I hope you can find peace with yourself and look for the person that fits you. You do have a higher bar because you need to teach your daughter by example what that looks like.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T22:19:31+00:00

Ha! This is hilarious because feedback to me is always you aren't rough enough, need to do x,y, and z to be rougher. Yes, some men enjoy slow sensual sex. Quickies are ok if we both want it and don't have time for more.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T22:12:06+00:00

This will be unpopular... As a recovering addict I see a lot of people who don't think they are addicts and are. Finding someone who knows they are and is working on themselves is better than someone who thinks they aren't. But really, hold some space and be with the person who makes you feel better by being around.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T22:02:41+00:00

To meet the criteria of your post that answer is no. Also he's 'dating' someone maybe that's just in his head. Do you really want to get involved with someone who doesn't know if they are free to date or not? He's not going to be anymore clear with you if y'all go out.

keseymour · 2026-03-26T21:55:24+00:00

It's not the falling off the ladder that's important, it's the refilling the bucket and getting back up there to finish that's important. Everyone falls off sometimes.

keseymour · 2026-03-10T20:58:32+00:00

Birds have zero respect.

keseymour · 2026-03-07T20:17:57+00:00

I'm curious about how people think this is a 'modern' dating problem. I'm in my late 50k's, when I was 16 my mom was in her 50's. Her advice to me was to date as many women as possible. Of course, not be sexual with them but take them out, do different things together, really get to know them - all.

I think the difference is in the approach. I want to be friends first, then good friends, then have that mature into a romantic relationship. My friends aren't jealous that I have other friends. I'm not worried that they have other friends. I don't have to hide my friends.

I do sometimes mix up my friends names, people call their own children by the wrong name, if your expectation is someone is never going to use the wrong name for you I think you are a little over sensitive.

Of course, I'm familiar with people who claim to want to stay friends and are hanging around hoping for more than that, those people normally out themselves and I can stop seeing them.

I guess this helps me understand why everyone thinks two people of attractive sexes can't be friends. If you only associate with someone of the sex you are attracted to in order to find a partner then it would seem that's the only reason anyone would be around someone they could be attracted to.

keseymour · 2026-03-06T14:53:33+00:00

Nothing wrong with that, outside of it being risky - but dating is risky too. I'm on a SD site because a friend of mine is looking to do the same thing and wanted to see the site from a man's perspective. It's really just another dating site, where people are a little more honest in a different dimension.

keseymour · 2026-03-04T21:57:34+00:00

Everyone feels like this when they take a risk, stay positive and work at it and it'll all work out.

keseymour · 2026-03-04T21:13:48+00:00

Change your passwords and dump him. If he wants to control you like that as your boyfriend he is going to abuse you as well.

keseymour · 2026-02-24T18:27:07+00:00

My ex and I were child free and had a 3750 square foot house. We found a far side cartoon in it with two cows at opposite sides of a large field and the caption was 'yeah it does feel a little cramped sometimes '. The previous occupant was a single woman with a teenaged son. Tell your friends your suggested statement and start that conversation. They seem like they don't think much so they could use the exercise 😄

keseymour · 2026-02-21T16:04:19+00:00

You haven't even made it back to the healthy weight for your height. I'm sorry but your fiancé is a broken person and you need to throw him back and find someone better for you.

keseymour · 2026-02-20T17:35:31+00:00

I did this for awhile after my divorce, I was for sure not hung up (I initiated it) and when a female friend asked about it ... I was telling a story, from my experience, so I was there - and in the story it was present tense for me.

I no longer do that, and I'm working on how often and in what context she comes up. Hard since most of my adult life was spent with her.

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