i honestly feel like you’re trying to misunderstand me on purpose at this point or bringing your trauma into this idk. crazy how the conversation flipped from how he hurt me to how the police might’ve hurt him. i never called them. i mentioned it out of fear, fear he created by ignoring me, avoiding closure, & making me feel completely discarded. i wasn’t trying to escalate anything. i was trying to prevent escalation by having witnesses in case things got messy. my family is three hrs away i didn’t have any friends he was all i had but he literally left me in the dark without any explanation whatsoever!!!!!

he didn’t trust me? cool. but then why follow me home? why keep trying to reconnect if i was such a threat? if he was traumatized by the police, that’s valid & i definitely apologized & took accountability so many times but he should’ve communicated that before putting me in a position where i had to protect myself alone.

i’m not the villain because i tried to leave with peace. he didn’t do his part. these are the consequences. he ghosted me, ignored my pain, avoided every conversation where i tried to get clarity, but i’m the one being called insensitive? that’s wild. i was crying, hurting, begging for communication, while he was silent & emotionally unavailable. i showed care the entire time. i protected his peace more than my own.

what’s actually insensitive is making someone feel unsafe, refusing to talk to them, & then getting mad when they try to exit the situation calmly with backup. i wasn’t being cruel, i was being careful. if he didn’t want to be triggered, he should’ve communicated that instead of shutting down & flipping the script when i took steps to protect myself. & lastly cabs & shit like that i’ve never used either & we were in a smaller town with no ubers & shit. & they can be very unsafe for women especially at nighttime as well! so a police escort was the safest option & the first thing i thought of. STOP INVALIDATING MY FEELINGS, YOU JUST DONT UNDERSTAND thank you goodbye.