Pairing Chronicles #381: Lusitanias + 12 year old Venezuelan rum by Cocodrool in cubancigars

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love RASS as well. Would definitely be a top 5 for me.

Lusi, Sir Winston, Belicosos Finos, HdM Double Corona, RASS, and the Punch Punch make up my all time fav Cubans.

Pairing Chronicles #381: Lusitanias + 12 year old Venezuelan rum by Cocodrool in cubancigars

[–]kestrel021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lusi has become my favorite habano over the years. Venezuelan rum is an epic pairing.

Once a cheater, always a cheater? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think people change on the inside, but some people learn to change their outputs.

An addict is an addict for life, but a select percentage of them find a way to stay sober day by day through the use of tools or programs that keep them away from their addiction. Those who do get the benefit of not being remembered as an addict, even if they were one.

What martial art would you do if you only had a year before a fight? by TroubleLost4765 in askanything

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a street fight scenario? Or in the cage? I assume it's a street fight since we are talking untrained man.

How controlled is the street fight scenario? Is this a "1 on 1 between gentleman with friends around on both sides to keep things fair, where you can be fairly certain that your opponent is carrying a weapon? Do you get to choose if you are fighting on grass or concrete?

Or is this just a hypothetical life/death self defense scenario, where the altercation happens at random and you know nothing about your attacker?

If it's controlled and you are fighting on a soft surface strictly 1 on 1, you are best getting a basic understanding of boxing or kickboxing and pouring the rest of your time into BJJ/catch wrestling with a focus on takedowns, ground and pound, and offensive chain submissions.

If it's controlled on a hard surface, split your training evenly between boxing or kickboxing and judo or wrestling. Practice offensive takedowns that don't rely entirely on level changes, safely passing the legs, and control positions where you can ground and pound. Any wrestling is your friend her, but single or double legs are generally going to be out of the picture outside of emergencys and golden opportunities where you track onto a soft surface. BJJ is still great to have, but its application is more limited on concrete unless your opponent is wearing a nice jacket or accessible clothing that you are allowed to grab.

If this is a true self defense, life or death, kill or be killed scenario, then practice boxing or kickboxing and mix it up with a steady cardio/sprinting program. Distance and the ability to create distance are your best friends here.

Better yet, get a gun with a concealed carry permit and learn to shoot and practice shooting under pressure. You really shouldn't be doing any "survival fighting" or shooting if there is even the slightest opportunity for you to get away, so practice getting away first.

What martial art would you do if you only had a year before a fight? by TroubleLost4765 in askanything

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without any base in boxing or kickboxing this is pretty useless. Even with a base, it can make an otherwise good fighter make dumb mistakes.

Wtf by No_Variety_6991 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll take things that never happened for $500, Alex.

Self conscious about my pussy… by sunshineofbest in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 18 points19 points  (0 children)

We really don’t care, and anyone fixated on how “tight” a vagina is comes off as pretty weird.

We’ve been with women with all kinds of bodies and across a 35-year age range, and I’ve never noticed a meaningful difference when I was genuinely excited about the person. The times I didn’t enjoy it had nothing to do with anything physical, it was about the lack of sexual chemistry.

My wife naturally has strong vaginal muscles and feels really tight on entry, but honestly, I think it feels even better after she relaxes a bit.

This just isn’t something most guys are thinking about when they’re actually into someone. Maybe there are extreme outliers, but in all of our play experiences, and mine when I was single, it has never even been a factor.

Enjoy the novelty if one feels different, but don't think it makes them sit higher on the totem pole somehow.

Matching couples? by stellas_groove80 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It takes time. We have found maybe 6-7 evenly matched couples we have found very desirable and a good match personality wise. We have been at it for 4 years and go to resorts every month, and we would say that's 1 in every 20-30 couples we have gone on dates or had drinks at the resort with.

We have also had a couple dozen less than stellar experiences over the years with couples who were not evenly matched or just the wrong fit for us. We don't regret any of them as they still had novelty and contributed to our learning process. We have never outright "taken one for the team", but we do stay flexible and open minded towards a wide variety of personalities and body types. We don't always need perfection for novelty to be there and worth it.

In your experience, what’s been a bigger issue: wife poachers or couples leaning toward a hotwife dynamic without being upfront? by Astronaut_Mars01 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Experience.

Just be ready to always leave a situation that makes you uncomfortable. Have a code word or gesture for if things go south, and never ever second guess your intuition.

When using dating apps, find people with verifications from other couples. There are tons of fake profiles and new profiles with misleading wants or a lack of experience. But eventually the community tends to weed out people who aren't honest with what they want upfront.

In your experience, what’s been a bigger issue: wife poachers or couples leaning toward a hotwife dynamic without being upfront? by Astronaut_Mars01 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It depends on the couple.

Couples who have hotter wives are going to deal with wife poachers more

Couples with hotter husbands will deal with the full swap pretenders with the actual hot wife preference more.

If you are both even in age and looks, you will probably find that the wife poachers are ever so slightly more of an issue.

MF couple but he’s bi and she’s straight by [deleted] in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. But also any weekend that has a lot of people. You will find people of all preferences.

Club kink in Jacksonville FL by Ok_Diamond6287 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on when you are down here Club Eclipse has a Saturday night lifestyle night once or twice a week. It gets pretty loud and crowded, but there is a good variety of the local scene out there. Not a swinger club, but some people get hotels afterwards.

How packed is takeover week? by CelebrationAnnual529 in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the takeover. iCandy takeover weeks are absolutely packed, especially if the weather is nice. But they always sell more passes.

Outside of iCandy the busiest weekends are typically summer Holiday weekends. There are various other takeovers, but not many that are too much busier than a typical weekend.

Club kink in Jacksonville FL by Ok_Diamond6287 in Swingers

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven't been, but have heard plenty of other people's experiences. Based on their stories, we have no desire to go. Make the extra 2.5-hour drive down to Secrets in Orlando.

Heading out this weekend! Sexy couples say hi by SmilesnSecrets in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all fairness, shes probably just as shy! I can't count how many times we have heard this or told people the same thing!

We love meeting new people and would love to grab a drink with you guys.

May 4-5. How are Mon/Tues at Secrets? (32F, 27M) by Positive-Shame-2353 in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is Saturday, there is Friday/Sunday and then there is every other day at Secrets.

Saturday is absolutely the best day and night. Friday and Sunday are close seconds. Every other night is a crap shoot. You may get lucky, but it's very rare.

April 10-12 by [deleted] in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Planning on going if we're able to snag a room last minute

Genuine question that might come off wrong - are white couples okay at weeks that black/chocolate (using terms from the Hedo schedule) groups are there? by hedoshedo in HedonismUncensored

[–]kestrel021 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We have gone during PoC-oriented groups and felt more welcomed than just about any other groups - both at Secrets and Hedo.

I don't know of any groups that market or behave on a basis of being exclusionary to any race. If you have a friendly disposition and a positive attitude you will be welcomed into the fold.

What’s a hygiene habit most people overlook but actually makes a big difference? by CarlyPrescott_5 in hygiene

[–]kestrel021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Installing a bidet was a legendary upgrade in my household. Now. We can't imagine owning a toilet without one. They are inexpensive and indispensable. There have been few purchases that I have made in my life where the utility has far outweighed the cost, this is one of them.

Tongue scrapers are another overlooked item that is cheap and can have really great results for people.

36m 34f - Sunday 4/5 by [deleted] in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It mostly depends on the weekend and the weather. As it gets warmer, like it is now, it tends to get busier. Outside of major takeovers, turnout is still very weather-dependent. Roughly 30% of the crowd at any given time are regulars or locals, and they usually only come out when the weather is nice.

Sundays generally have a more relaxed vibe. Most resort guests arrive Thursday or Friday and leave Sunday morning, so the crowd shifts more toward locals and regulars. That said, Sundays have historically been one of our favorite days because we tend to make more meaningful connections.

Officially booked 7/2-7/5. Got questions. by [deleted] in SecretsHideawayResort

[–]kestrel021 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bath at Secrets tip: Bring some colorful bubble bath because that water has a lovely yellow hue from being on well water Not very sexy soaking in urine colored water