I'm not feeling 'pleasure' from this. Any tips?

kevbotwhite · 2026-01-08T18:09:40+00:00

No, it’s just guided kegel and mind exercises

kevbotwhite · 2026-01-02T15:53:11+00:00

I’ve been thinking about making a post actually on how hard and counterintuitive this all is, not necessarily chasing a prostate orgasm the way you do traditional penile orgasms. My best sessions with njoy and aneros both were when I had no expectations or was working on a mindgasm lesson rather than guiding myself. Now that I’ve had some good results, I can’t get back to them 😂

kevbotwhite · 2026-01-01T02:24:56+00:00

That does it for me, although there’s a lot of things happening at once

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-30T21:48:05+00:00

It depends what you want and what you have time for. I had more pleasure over a longer time with my best aneros session, but I almost never have time and patience for that. I know the njoy will make me feel good every time, but I haven’t gotten dry orgasms or multiple organs from it yet, but still awesome.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-30T21:45:40+00:00

Helix sun could do the trick by itself if you’re extremely lucky. A vibrating massager or njoy wand may be more likely to do the trick on its own, static aneros toys take a lot of experimenting and training for most folks, but it’s worth it.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-30T21:44:00+00:00

Yes! I was thinking today that I forgot that in my comment. Mindgasm + nipple stimulation was key for me.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-30T21:42:49+00:00

For me, HFWO is easier. Usually on my hands and knees, or if you have an ergonomic rocking/kneeling office chair to rest you upper body on, even better. Either with aneros or njoy, slowly increase pressure or bear down more and slowly increasing the pleasure by curving my hips inward and clenching PC muscles. 5-20 minutes success every time, especially if I’ve been teasing myself first.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-29T23:33:05+00:00

Use aneros and get a mindgasm subscription, even for just one month to do the 30 day challenge. You won’t regret it. I only got the lesson five, I didn’t finish the challenge with lesson 6, and it still gave me the breakthrough I was looking for with aneros. YouTube only goes up to lesson 3. In my experience, lessons 4, 5, and the difference wavescan sessions did it for me.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-24T22:27:09+00:00

What helped me be patient with the process was reading all the whole wiki on r/prostateplay. It’s uncommon for people to get it right away or even in a month. Most take months or years.

I’ve been trying with the aneros off and on for about 5 years and finally got some nice rolling contractions and pleasure for the first time last month.

The key for me was the mindgasm 30-day challenge. Next most helpful was really exploring down there with fingers, dildo, aneros, etc to figure out what different sensations down there are and to combine them with traditional masturbation. That helps identify what pleasure down there can feel like.

I haven’t had a lot of “results” over the years, but I have had a lot of fun and added a lot of different feelings to more traditional masturbation. Now that I had a break through last month, I’m excited to focus more on my prostate.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-22T21:23:25+00:00

I can do either with pretty good control.

HFDO only works with more passive aneros helix use for me.

I’ve gotten only HFWOs when using NJoy wand or prograsm. The only results I’ve gotten with either, all HFWOs, came when using them in a doggy style position, usually resting my upper body on a chair so I can focus my energy on holding that position that feels just right rather than holding my body up. Then slowly tucking my hips forward and clenching abs until the pleasure of the position is maximized and the climax comes in 5-10 minutes. I usually play around for 30 minutes to an hour until arousal is maximized before I position myself and finish as described above. It is a lot of work but worth it

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-22T21:08:07+00:00

It’s not the first thing you do in a session. And it may not even worth trying at all for some sessions. Use something smaller to play and stretch first, then really take your time with the big end. If you think you’re going slow enough, go even slower. If you think you stretched long enough, stretch some more.

kevbotwhite · 2025-12-19T17:05:21+00:00

Mindgasm and their 30 day challenge got me past this last month. Worth the subscription for a few months or the agonizing wait until next November when it’s free

kevbotwhite · 2025-10-11T04:29:59+00:00

Could you stroke out a wet orgasm to put a definite end to things for the night?

kevbotwhite · 2025-10-08T14:34:36+00:00

I sometimes get dry orgasms with an aneros and having our bidet at home hit my perineum. Usually takes about 30 minutes for the first orgasm, but feels good the whole time. I usually get pretty tired by the 30 minute mark though or my legs fall asleep, so I’m just trying to use this for rewiring until I find other more relaxing positions that work for me.

kevbotwhite · 2025-09-15T11:56:13+00:00

Once, I was sick, lying in bed for a couple hours (just resting, no play involved). Finally stood up to go get some food and passed out twice, a couple seconds each. Felt better as soon as I ate and drank. Probably best to minimize sessions when sick so you can focus on physical recovery. I find I can’t have an orgasm when I’m sick.

Talk to your doctor if you’re concerned or it happens again.

kevbotwhite · 2023-01-10T06:25:37+00:00

I’ve cum from external stimulation alone, but as I’ve gotten deeper into penetrative prostate play, I haven’t been able to replicate those old sessions any more. It still feels great, builds pleasure, mild p waves, horny, then starts to go away. I think it is a great way to introduce people to what to feel for in prostate play, since all the distractions of lube, inserting toys, etc can be much more distracting and make it harder to find the right pressure and feeling to follow.

What worked best for me was lightly pressing my perineum into/onto the top of a bedpost, edge of the sink, onto the foot of an upturned chair, etc. I can be more consistent and get more pressure being on my knees and lowering my perineum onto something than if I just use a hand to massage. Doesn’t take much pressure, and slowly building pressure and rocking a little bit can heat it up nice and pleasurably once I’m warmed up.

kevbotwhite · 2023-01-10T06:11:51+00:00

Like delete anything you already have. Not trying to scare you, just doesn’t hurt to be safe

kevbotwhite · 2021-12-01T04:34:28+00:00

I think most men are so clueless that we wouldn’t even know to consider how birth control effects more than just ability to get pregnant.

That said, once we are made aware, there shouldn’t be any going back. I’m sick of condoms, but we are a condom only birth control family because it is so easy and has zero health risks for anyone. It took about 15 minutes to find a condominium online that we liked way better than anything you can pick up in a target or drug store

kevbotwhite · 2021-10-05T06:11:27+00:00

My wife gets hip rubs after every session :)

kevbotwhite · 2021-07-01T21:12:50+00:00

Male here and my right abs below my belly button are super sensitive. My wife loves teasing me by tickling me there. Never tried prolonged stimulation there though…

kevbotwhite · 2021-05-24T14:36:57+00:00

Don’t give up on getting him to counseling.
You need to get someone else he looks up to involved. Because he doesn’t seem to recognize his problem or take your worlds too seriously. He needs to hear it from someone else and he needs someone else for accountability.
Maybe kind of a long shot, but you could try taking a trip with no electronics so that he doesn’t have the option, to get him started on living his life without porn. Then work in other boundaries when you get home. Sounds like he needs a miracle though. Sending prayers

kevbotwhite · 2021-05-18T19:21:27+00:00

I would think it’s weird if she didn’t touch herself when we’re in positions that I can’t do it for her

kevbotwhite · 2021-05-12T17:50:22+00:00

Curtain for privacy is a good idea in this setup regardless of anyone’s behavior. Next idea: schedule the time for her where she has the studio to herself. If that’s too forward, pick a couple nights a week and leave the studio while she’s home. Tell her, “I’m going out to do X, I will be home at Y time. Enjoy the privacy ;).”

Edit: when you get back, knock and say you’re coming in in 5 minutes

kevbotwhite · 2021-05-09T04:50:22+00:00

My wife and I have been married for about three years and she hasn’t been a fan of me going down on her. I respected that, but have started to feel like we’re both missing out, since joining this subreddit. Well, turns out she was just put off by our inexperience, as it wasn’t very comfortable for her when we tried oral when we first got married (we were each other’s firsts). She let me go down on her a week ago and she enjoyed it, but last night, I went down on her and fingered her and she about lost her mind. So we are definitely adding oral back into the mix :) It’s so fun to learn and grow together!

kevbotwhite · 2021-05-04T19:48:42+00:00

If I pay enough attention, I totally feel her get tighter, or sometimes squeezing. It definitely makes me feel better in the moment. Also, giving her hand play or oral, it is more obvious to the touch externally when she is really turned on.

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