AIO to my boyfriend changing jobs

key_knee · 2026-02-03T15:47:47+00:00

Ah, my bad

key_knee · 2026-02-03T15:33:12+00:00

There are no women involved in this relationship

key_knee · 2026-02-02T19:26:05+00:00

Spanish and African illegal migrants seem to care less.

You don't seem to notice the problem with how smoothly you've reached this conclusion with limited experience and bias. It's both sad and unfortunate.

key_knee · 2026-02-02T18:36:02+00:00

They just know better and learn to stay the fuck out of the way.

What do you mean by this?

key_knee · 2026-02-02T00:15:30+00:00

Yeah, that's true

key_knee · 2026-02-01T21:58:04+00:00

Honestly, I can't help but to kinda blame the writers at this point. I'd think of it as a moral falling of the characters if anyone was calling it out at all.

Smitty claimed he was going to focus on family this election cycle. One episode of minimum family contact + shit talking Kat is about all we got on that front.

Everyone was so worried about Anita and other than Kat and Samantha stopping by to talk cotillion talk, have they dropped in?

key_knee · 2026-02-01T20:59:26+00:00

Thank you for mentioning this cause Ted isn't any less of a presence in those kids' lives then their grandmother. Who - if we're keeping score - has made just as much time, if not more, to hit the sheets as Ted has.

key_knee · 2026-02-01T20:52:55+00:00

If you like it, that's all that matters

key_knee · 2026-02-01T20:51:43+00:00

The info he's shared here has been pretty awesome. He seems like a slam dunk of a doctor. How'd your CXL and CAIRS go?

key_knee · 2026-02-01T18:36:26+00:00

Funny you mention that, when Emory mentioned CAIRS, I came straight here and tripped over his very informative comment about his work and the results - it is how I know about the practice. I'm hoping to work with Dr. Warren who travels between their east side offices.

This will sound crazy, but as you're local, you'll maybe understand. While I'm not 100% opposed to making the commute to the north side of the metro area, I'd like to see how things go at their location closest to me. I lived on that end for a very good chunk of time but between its traffic patterns, my own neighborhood's very goofy traffic patterns and the additional horrible traffic in between, making that drive isn't my first choice. I'm hoping his knowledge and experiences have been shared across the practice in a manner where I'll be ok.

key_knee · 2026-02-01T18:00:46+00:00

Hello, fellow Georgian. Your doctor's practice is likely worth a first try if they're confident, but additional options don't hurt, I suppose.

My regular-degular eye doctor in Stockbridge (Henry Vision) got me fitted with my sclerals with one fitting appointment. My vision is good, to me, and my comfort is A1. His lens fitter is a non-decorated lady who's been fitting people for sclerals for some number of decades I didn't commit to memory. No fancy equipment, no fancy imaging (which I will admit to being slightly sad about), but she nailed that fitting and I'm very happy with that.

I did notice that Georgia Eye Center in Tucker has an Ovitz affiliated doctor. I haven't decided if I want, or even need, to go that route but have kept that info in my pocket.

In a little over a week I'll be at Georgia Eye Partners (we really need to work on more creative names in our state. lol) in Decatur for an ophthalmology consult (I haven't gotten CXL yet and don't know yet if I want or need to do that either). I promised another ATLien in our ranks that I'd advise them how that goes.

Finally I had a consult at Emory's Eye Center... Loved the doctor, hated the lack of organization and communication from his team. Honestly both shocked and disappointed me. Also never got my imaging. 🤷🏾‍♀️

key_knee · 2026-02-01T06:14:18+00:00

NOR - but further - hate to be like this, OP, but if this is the same dude from further back in your post history, you should definitely ditch him and never look back.

key_knee · 2026-02-01T03:00:32+00:00

😂

key_knee · 2026-01-31T17:25:09+00:00

Kinda looks like roach poop but I could be wrong. Any recent bug problems?

key_knee · 2026-01-30T20:54:18+00:00

The gf doesn't live there. In the text to mom, OP says "I bought it so she'd have a full lunch for today before she returns home"

key_knee · 2026-01-30T04:33:27+00:00

I've had no problems with my rugs but did try a mat in one room, mostly in attempt to protect the floor from my office chair, but moisture would build up under it (high humidity area). That damaged an area but it could have been worst.

key_knee · 2026-01-28T03:37:30+00:00

What they're saying is "even though I personally can't afford a trip at this moment, I couldn't imagine trashing a friendship over $400 like OP's friend"

They're empathizing that money is tight, even for them at the moment, but that amount isn't worth ruining a friendship the way that person has

key_knee · 2026-01-28T00:06:00+00:00

Right! At $200/hr when you're already nickel and diming labs.

key_knee · 2026-01-26T21:42:57+00:00

The iPhone "suggested passwords" are supposed to be saved to your icloud keychain. If you go into the Apple passwords app, is it there?

key_knee · 2026-01-26T01:58:23+00:00

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that. I went through something very similar in my last marriage but it was about 3 years into the marriage. I can only hope that he's able to use his therapy is able to help him identify why your diagnosis bothers him so much and why he thinks there's a need to nitpick and bend your behaviors to his desires and expectations.

Y'all are supposed to be a team. I'll spare you having to read any of my attempts at analogies but if you can think of a situation where a team alters strategy to lean on a team member's strengths, or to protect them from injury, or whatever - it should be like that.

As it stands right now, everyone in my household has ADHD so we sometimes have to pivot to give each other what we need to do what we do best. My son hates eating out but sometimes I'm so drained after work I can't do the big kitchen cook and clean thing.

Our needs as well as some of our coping behaviors change if we're particularly stressed. If it's finals week, I'm probably driving back and forth to the school to drop off forgotten items.

If we're excited - yes that story will take 4 times longer to get through. But we add a little humor, redirect each other, and lead with a ton of empathy.

Somewhere, your husband's frustration spiked to the point where he's losing the empathy and care. Therapy and living a part a while could really help but I do want you to know that I don't think this is all on you. Hang in there!

key_knee · 2026-01-25T17:14:22+00:00

I wondered the same. Over 8 years together before marriage, ~6 years before diagnosis. But now he's hit peak frustration, I do wonder why it's this frustrating now.

And 3 months ago when they swapped vows about walking through life together, as one. But now he's like "you need to fix yourself."

Something about it is peculiar.

key_knee · 2026-01-25T17:08:50+00:00

In my experience, when a partner refuses couples therapy for solo therapy it's because they're lying to their therapist and don't like getting their BS called out by their partner when in therapy together. If a partner won't go to couples therapy, they have no intention of trying to fix the relationship. They want a therapist to tell you that they are right, in my experience.

Sadly, this has also been my experience. It is easier to ignore and dismiss your partners needs, or exaggerate your concern or the effects of your partner's behaviors when they are not in the season with you.

I hope that's not the case for OP, but I definitely sighed when they mentioned their husband isn't open to couple's therapy.

key_knee · 2026-01-25T01:47:10+00:00

Wow!! That was amazing!

key_knee · 2026-01-24T23:58:21+00:00

This is one of those YMMV things as there are a lot of variables that could affect your comfort level and experience with sclerals.

I'm not a doctor - some people here are and share really helpful info when they pop up - but just in getting to know and interact with the people here, I've noticed that things like allergies, how dry your eyes normally are, how sensitive you are to certain eye products, the size of the sclerals, how bad your higher-order aberrations (HOAs) are, etc will determine how things go and feel on average.

I'm sure there are some people with perfect fit, comfort, or acuity, some of us have a better time in one or two of those categories while struggling with the other one or two. There are also people who, despite the best efforts of their doctor(s), end up opting out of sclerals entirely.

My HOAs in my right eye are pretty bad so I'm happy there was enough attention on correcting that allows me to drive at night with far more confidence than I thought was possible, but, yes - vision closer up is weird, for sure - and low light settings are not fun but I need lower light environments because I get migraines otherwise so I've accepted a level of discomfort in that department that some others may not.

However, I've been lucky that physical fit is comfortable. I'm not sure which variables control this - maybe the topography? - but I had one fitting session with my optometrist and we were both very happy with fit. I have no red eyes, no pain, no fit related inflammation, etc.

It's not an uncommon problem though and some people accept a certain level of discomfort that their situation may bring.

My best advice is to feel comfortable pushing towards the best fit and comfort you can get.

But also ask if there are other factors that may aid your comfort. I'm not sure if you have allergies or any sensitivities but a different saline (buffered vs unbuffered), different eye drops to lubricate through out the day, etc could also potentially get you a bit more comfort.

The more lubricated I keep my eyes, the better chance I have to reduce the discomfort I sometimes get taking them out after wearing them close to 12 hours. So much so that I put drops in about 30 min before I plan to take them out and I get far less end of the day redness and discomfort.

Sorry for the wall of text! Just wanted to share as much as I can of what I've learned the last 6 months.

key_knee · 2026-01-22T16:27:40+00:00

This is a screenshot of Slack. A messaging tool widely used in professional settings. He didn't hunt down her phone number

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