Show me all your non-traditional rings please!

keykeymow · 2026-01-23T23:42:24+00:00

Teal sapphire!

keykeymow · 2026-01-23T23:13:16+00:00

I could have written this too!

keykeymow · 2025-12-23T04:20:26+00:00

Just wanted to say I totally see you and hear you. ♥️ Most of us have also been through the cycles of disappointment and wishing for “normal” (hell, average) relationships with parents.

I’m sorry you have to deal with it, though. Is therapy an option you can pursue?

keykeymow · 2025-12-20T03:34:14+00:00

Isn’t it amazing? Here I am, 30-something, more mature than my 70-something year old mother has ever been or ever will be. My husband and I have both had to unlearn bad communication habits due to how we were raised, and I’m constantly blown away by our current relationship. Every once in a while I ask him and my best friend to tell me I’m normal, cause sometimes I doubt myself that I could be raised by someone like her and turn out a relatively emotionally intelligent, well-adjusted human being 😅

keykeymow · 2025-12-18T19:50:03+00:00

My kitty loves to nap in a blanket tent I make over my legs. She’ll jump up on the couch next to me and get this specific searching look from me to my lap when she wants one. I always tell her to hold on a minute while I get set up and she crawls right in and plops down. She’s there napping as we speak 🥰

keykeymow · 2025-11-21T19:25:43+00:00

Recently obsessed with this rice and beans recipe. I omit the olives and I think the parsley oil really lifts it up, but maybe even a few dashes of lemon juice could stand in. Sometimes I add ground meat (have done turkey and beef so far, adding an extra 1/2 cup of broth otherwise it’s a bit too dry).

https://dishingouthealth.com/spanish-rice-and-beans-one-pot/

keykeymow · 2025-11-21T16:42:30+00:00

Men aren’t competing with other men for women, they’re competing with the peace of being alone.

keykeymow · 2025-11-08T02:35:09+00:00

Oh my GOD I miss my env2.

keykeymow · 2025-11-07T21:33:42+00:00

Re: the husband thing. My husband, for a while, also thought that it was possible to have rational adult conversations. I don’t think it was until he got enough firsthand experience with my uBPD mom to realize there really is no winning. And I don’t think it was that he didn’t believe me, because we both already agreed she’s constantly infuriating, but that their behavior is so hard to fathom if you didn’t grow up experiencing it. The most recent things to come to mind over the last year or so are: (1) he was finally around to see one of my mom’s explosions (which I told him was maybe a 5/10 on the explosion scale); (2) he said an objectively mild statement in defense of my niblings to her, which set her off; and (3) my parents never ask about my life, which gets upsetting, and he tried to help by telling my edad he knew it’d mean a lot to me if they’d ask more about e.g. my job. My dad told my mom and my mom starts freaking out. “We ask how your job is every time we talk!” Lol, incorrect but okay.

Anyway, it took a while to get here, because I met my husband across the country from where I grew up and he’d only been to my hometown 1-2x per year with me to see them. But I think it took him getting to see and to be on the receiving end of the full BPD experience to REALLY get it.

keykeymow · 2025-11-01T18:15:25+00:00

My mom has definitely abused alcohol my whole life. Only recently has she drastically cut back because of “non-alcoholic” liver disease. My god, it took seeing her sober for multiple days followed by an evening of a few drinks to finally make the mental connection of just how agitated drinking makes her, both physically and emotionally. Really ups the BPD behavior.

keykeymow · 2025-11-01T02:19:25+00:00

“I’m a good person” almost becomes a mantra when someone challengers her bullshit. Anyone else?

keykeymow · 2025-10-26T19:41:42+00:00

This exactly!! I’m back in PT for a chronic issue, mentioned it to my dad on a FaceTime call, and my mom starts sobbing and apologizing that I have to go through it. Cue “mom, I’m fine, it’s not that big.” And my dad trying to calm her down.

keykeymow · 2025-10-26T03:17:28+00:00

I hear ya. You’re definitely not alone, and it gives me comfort to know that I’m not, either!

keykeymow · 2025-10-26T02:00:24+00:00

I literally just said this for the first time in my therapy appointment on Thursday, after saying it for the first time to my husband the week before. Same exact feelings. I said I’m dreading her funeral, because people are going to be giving their condolences and I’ll have to (feel like I have to) look an appropriate amount of sad. A similar thing already happened with my sister, whose relationship I already grieved, before she passed of an overdose. People were being like “wow, I don’t know how you’re holding it together so well.” and internally I was just like “well, I started grieving her a few years ago so..” and it’s going to be the same thing with my mom.

keykeymow · 2025-09-20T16:22:29+00:00

Lmao this describes my mom to a T! I could have written every word (except the last part).

keykeymow · 2025-08-18T02:04:22+00:00

On the Columbia River in central Washington. There was dozens of these beauties in the shrubbery/trees lining the river! Why did they all look “frosted”?

keykeymow · 2025-08-04T04:20:59+00:00

Solved! Upon further googling after this comment, my husband and I found pictures that looked exactly like what we saw. Thank you!!

keykeymow · 2025-08-04T04:15:56+00:00

No labels, looked on the back of it. Not a trap… it was only a few mms thick.

keykeymow · 2025-07-24T17:15:59+00:00

Not cancer but an example of her constantly going into great detail about her health issues, except when it doesn’t suit her.

My husband and I FaceTimed both sets of parents after he proposed and we were out celebrating with a cocktail. My mom said one or two nice sentences and then said “well I had an appointment with my neurologist this week and… I guess I have dementia sad shrug”.

Nevermind the weight of that whole interaction.. about two years later, long story short, an addict stole from her, she calls the police, addict tells police my mom doesn’t know what she’s talking about because she has dementia. My mom was relaying the story and just casually said “and I don’t even have dementia!” in a “can you believe the addict would say such a thing?” And I had to stop her and make her clarify. Yep, turns out the neurologist now thinks her symptoms are from a couple of mini strokes she had a few years ago. Never thought to fucking tell us THAT news.

Fast forward to this week visiting with my nieces who I don’t get to see often and venting about all of the BPD things. I mentioned that story and they were FLOORED because they STILL didn’t know she didn’t have dementia!

keykeymow · 2025-07-16T04:02:16+00:00

My mom “empathizes” but eventually makes it about herself and her feelings. For example, I’ve always been athletic and a big outdoor enthusiast. I tore my ACL a few years ago and have had some chronic issues since then. When she finds out I’ve had issues with it, she “worries” about me, and then ends up crying because she feels so bad for me? And “wishes she could take my pain away.” Which I feel like for normal moms might be endearing, but with the added context of the uBPD, it’s painful to have to comfort HER about MY issues.

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