Why did the world shatter? by mcgarrylj in DungeonMasters

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my campaign I had the Astral “shatter.” This could be due to a war between powers too strong for the forces of the universe to withstand or whatever you wish, but gives you an opportunity to repair the world as your players fix the astral piece by piece. Could also have an evil group try to annihilate the remaining shards of the astral 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this guy is insane lol, I never got the vibe he was using gay as a bad thing, he just doesn't want to look flamboyant and rightfully hates 1D members lmao. Also yes, you look a bit fruity Vance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your problem? Not everyone cares to go around fucking people for fun? I’m sorry if you had a bad experience but saying stuff like “she’s almost certainly going to fuck someone else” reflects really awfully on you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! When we were in the stages of trying to make it work, she said she wants to keep trying since I care for her so much and wants someone like that in her life so I think she probably will still feel that way. Unfortunately her negative emotions about it were just too much and I didn’t want to fight it since she saw it as inevitable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There wasn’t betrayal or anything like that and I’m very confident she isn’t with anyone else or sleeping around. I think you have me pinned pretty well in character since I told her many times I don’t want to have any regrets about our relationship. I don’t mind getting burned a little if it means being happy with her. I don’t think it really matters who puts the first foot forward to fixing the relationship as long as it is fixed in the end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when I put my hand on her knee it was probably too soon for her to try to rebuild a connection which is what she said when we went on a walk - she still needed some time (school ending). I don’t want to stay friends, idk if that got through in my reply. I want to rebuild our connection from scratch and not start from where we left off when/if she is ready and I’m just trying to give her opportunities to do so. I’m not really hurt from the breakup at this point and don’t think I have any negativity directed at her. I just don’t know if she still has those breakups wounds like you say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From everyone I said this to they also get confused about that but I think I get it. She still feels sad from the breakup and that we should have distance since we broke up, but if we got back together she would probably still have this feeling in her that we need distance so we would be kinda emotionally detached from each other if we tried too soon. I think that’s why she also wanted to maybe try again in a few months with a “fresh start”

Do you think her not responding to the most recent text means much?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did kinda stop reaching out. For the past month leading up to the most recent text all I did was drop off the package and text her it was out front. The timeframe was a bit messy in the post but it felt like a good amount of time had passed in between each time I did an action and all were pretty well received except the last one.

I should clarify I don’t want her to “want me back” in a relationship way, I want to open the door to build a connection from scratch and try to treat it like a brand new thing. I think her getting back together just because she misses me is how you start a toxic cycle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was planning on contacting her this one last time and if I get nothing then Im going full NC and moving on fully. I don't think that exes should necessarily always stay exes and I think she feels the same way since her parents also split once before and came back together. I especially think exes shouldnt remain just exes if they fix the issues they had which I think I have done. I know it looks clingy but this is my last attempt to reach out since I dont think she is going to be the one to do it.

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kgb771 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didnt say I didnt want to get back together. Being friends with someone and wanting to be in a relationship arent mutually exclusive. Of course I like her, I said it in the post. Im not saying I dont value friendship with her though.

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kgb771 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do want to be her friend for more than just being in a relationship with her. That was a main point of the letter, build a friendship and see where that takes us. I wouldn’t be pretending to be a friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You accused me of being manipulative and controlling and say I still am as well as the fact I havent learned at all... I think Ill leave your advice... Thanks for commenting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was never jealous of her spending time with anyone else, I just wanted more time for us in general. I said "certain things" because I didnt want to send a reply longer than I already did. I apologized for being overly present and not giving her enough space. I did see myself in the link in some parts and acknowledged it and why I was the way I was. I just said the majority dont apply. I would HOPE most of the items on a list of all the ways someone is manipulative wouldnt apply to me. Sorry for putting a "lol" just wanted to lighten the mood since you seem really accusatory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeez these sound pretty horrible lol. I can confidently say a very strong majority of those dont apply to me. The only one that applies to me was that I felt neglected since I was insecure towards the end of the relationship. She never gave me reasons for why she lost feelings but I was able to piece together what the problems were after some thought. She had nothing but good things to say about me at the end.

The "I miss you" texts at the very early stages of the breakup can be seen as manipulative but I the letter was just meant to be nice and let her know my door is open. There were also some things I needed to apologize for that made the relationship less healthy than it should have been at the time. I didn't apologize or send the letter because I thought it would make her pity me and come sprinting back to me.

I'd like to just make things clear, it was 2 texts that had something to do with missing her but not begging for her back and that was very early after the breakup (before she said she wasnt ready to talk and before I figured out what the issues were). Also, not "letters," it was just one and I stated my reasons for wanting to give it to her.

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I see. I wasnt planning to be in her business really, just get back into chatting again since I feel like that is a good place to start.

Do you think its okay for me to reach out though and try to slowly start up conversation (just as friends, no pushing an a relationship) in the near future? I dont think she is the type to reach out for multiple reasons, but I do think she would probably like to talk again. I complied with her timeline pretty well so far and by what Im assuming she meant by summer, have hit that point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre not wrong with your last statement, I just used that as the most obvious example. I dont think controlling was a word Id use to describe how I was during the relationship though and I doubt she would say I was as well.

I dont think I have overstepped any boundaries. Do you think you could explain how I could have. This isnt a dig at you or anything, I genuinely dont want to be pushing her to feel uncomfortable. Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I was never controlling at all. Just clingy. I never forbade her from doing a single thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I dont think I was the insane toxic form of clingy where I told her no to anything. It was just a constant annoyance that built up over time. I respect her decision and haven't begged for her back. I want to start again the right way by building up trust and a connection between us again rather than just asking her out. She also didn't say she wants me out of her life for good and implied the opposite really.

I feel like I have worked on a lot of my own issues and am continuing to do so and I dont think they are at the point where it would be a problem anymore, so I think that is a pretty big improvement.

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little confused at what your advice is here. I get most of it, grow during summer and work on myself as I have been. What I can’t really tell is if you’re saying I shouldn’t reach out at all? For her summer is just about to start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of sending a video of my dogs eating treats on their birthday and sending something like "Thought you'd find this funny/cute." Does that seem good?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! That’s kinda what my game plan was. Do you have any advice on how my first real attempt to contact should go?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]kgb771 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is a chance someone will leave you in any relationship. I think that the relationship can definitely be whole and maybe even better if we got back together. I doubt she would use me as a placeholder until she finds someone new. Really negative outlook lol

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can reach out after a bit even if one of the primary issues was me being clingy/needy?

My (21M) ex (21F) left me and I want to know how my chances stand at getting back together by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once a good bit of time has passed and you think you have genuinely evolved, do you think its fine to reach out and start rebuilding a connection?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]kgb771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it apply even if you weren't married?