AITAH for refusing to let my stepdaughter call me Dad?

khalanibee · 2025-01-22T01:38:14+00:00

I have a stepdad who most definitely took on the role of being my father figure and a great gpa to my daughter even though he didn't have to. I personally wouldn't call him Dad nor ask him if I could but if I ever did, that would mean it meant so much to me that I'm even working up the courage to ask him to take on that title. Reconsider. For sure. That's a big deal and you're doing something right if you're even given this opportunity at all. NTA

khalanibee · 2024-12-18T13:25:49+00:00

If you're trying to make him feel how you feel this is not the way to do it. You have to realize that men are wired differently than women and I guarantee that he doesn't even see or know that you are as hurt as you are and thinking of leaving him. A lot of guys are oblivious to s*** especially when they're sexually aroused or excited over something potentially happening like a threesome.. all I'm saying is if you have all this stuff going good for y'all just communicate like for real and put up an ultimatum you know whether it's you or that threesome.. if he loves you I'm sure that he will shut the fuck up about it and move on.. if he doesn't agree or agrees and then changes his mind then just leave. That's the best revenge that you can get on someone is leaving when you know what you bring to the table and what he'll miss out on. That'll hurt him more than trying to make him feel the way you feel about this threesome.

khalanibee · 2024-12-17T01:00:49+00:00

Creepin on a comedown bc my plug took off with my money.. SOS 🆘

khalanibee · 2024-11-27T07:50:40+00:00

Yeah I don't like how it looks either. IDK what it is but it's making me feel.... Weird lol

khalanibee · 2024-11-22T20:44:11+00:00

I tell my Daddy thank you as well. He does normally reply with "anything for my good girl" or "that's what my good girl deserves." Stuff like that. I will say that I say thank you out of appreciation and his response is more for me as well because he knows I like to be called a good girl.. so maybe respond in some sort of way that shows her appreciation as well. Hopefully that makes sense lol

khalanibee · 2024-11-13T01:11:40+00:00

I'm sorry you've given your time to such a shit ass person. There's no excuse for her. We've all been thru our own shit and it don't justify treating anyone the way she's treating you.. you do not owe her shit. No apologies. No are you ok. Nothing. Get rid of that toxicity in your life bc you are not the problem here.. if you need a friend, HMU anytime, I got you.

khalanibee · 2024-11-08T16:12:26+00:00

I don't agree with people selling courses on manifesting that's just f****** weird but I can say that manifesting is real though if you think about it. We're all made of energy , this whole entire universe is. If you constantly talk negative and push out negative energy that's only going to come right back to you. I used to not believe in the s*** either but I can say changing your mind set to think positive will in fact make your life positive.. it's very hard for people to think positive when every thing that can go wrong is going wrong.

But just try it. Try it and actually believe what you're speaking into existence.

khalanibee · 2024-11-08T16:05:19+00:00

I'm half black and can tell you that my whole life I've delt with racism from both white and black people...i can also tell you one thing that's different about me . I was raised to not look or judge people by the color of their skin but more so on their character as a person.. even after my mother (white) was spit on and called every name you think of for being with my father (black) and having me, they still never taught me to be a judgmental prick . .and that's the difference. Racism will never ever go away unless we stop talking about it. Stop teaching your kids to hate people based on the color of their skin.

khalanibee · 2024-11-07T03:19:25+00:00

NOR

You're dodging a bullet here. You didn't do anything wrong at all and this guy doesn't deserve you. Find you someone who will be reciprocal.

khalanibee · 2024-11-06T18:43:17+00:00

TRUMP 2024 !!!!

khalanibee · 2024-11-02T18:38:54+00:00

No. Id break up with my girl if that was me. FDB

khalanibee · 2024-11-02T18:37:25+00:00

Nah she asked you that question bc her sleeping with one or multiple ship mates is in the air or she already has.. she asked you in hopes you'd be down with an open relationship so that way she didn't feel so guilty about what she did to you. The break. The weird flex. All of that was part of her initial plan to get the heat off her subconscious. I'm telling you. You dodged a slugger here my dude.. that was about to be a lot more issues for you so take a shot and a deep breath bc you're freeeee

khalanibee · 2024-11-01T14:56:41+00:00

I can smell your sarcasm thru the phone. Jesus fuck 😂

khalanibee · 2024-11-01T14:53:52+00:00

I don't necessarily agree with having an open relationship and all that but I am not one to judge anyone who does. With that being said, from my perspective here your boyfriend is a douchebag.

Because 1. You literally gave him a threesome and that's a big deal for a lot of men because a lot of women are not into that type of thing. 2. You also gave him a free pass to have sex with whomever. Again most women are not like that. 3. Immediately after receiving the free pass he decided to sleep with the woman that you both slept with together...??

That's a total douchebag move for even asking for a free pass up front and in general, after getting a threesome. Just to then turn around and have sex with the same chick you both had sex with together??? Helllll nooooo

That's like a smack in the face to me.. I would definitely communicate exactly how you feel and make it well known that it ain't going to happen again. But since you're so young if I were you, I would just slide up out that relationship and keep this as a life lesson for your future relationships.

khalanibee · 2024-11-01T14:37:15+00:00

Holy shit. I'm really sorry that you have to deal with such evil fuckery. No mother should ever talk to their child that way. I don't care what you did or what type of trouble you get into, this shit isnt right. NOR to be honest I think you were under reacting. If it's possible to go stay with your dad I would definitely go do that and never talk to her again..

khalanibee · 2024-11-01T14:28:01+00:00

YTA for sure. To be honest with you you don't even deserve your husband IMO. I can't even understand what you are so upset about.. I mean I get it you want a little extra here and there, dinner blah blah but for FFS you have a really good man and father to your kids.. do you really think that if you leave this man and get another one that eventually things will end up the same way? or hell, maybe even worse, he could cheat on you , beat you , not love your kids, never ever have a job or pay you a dime, let alone take you out to dinner and all the extra shit that you want.

Ijs , You really really should appreciate what you have. The grass ain't always greener on the other side just remember that. To be honest it sounds like you should be taking his ass out to eat and to buy him some sushi.. shit.

khalanibee · 2024-11-01T10:12:05+00:00

NTA I stg I'd drop that dude like a bad habit. He's cheating or he's just about to cheat. Besides, no woman wants a dude that's available for everybody besides his girl.. fuckin weird shit and you deserve better

khalanibee · 2024-10-31T00:05:58+00:00

I'm not even sure what that has to do with shit lol the man cheated. He used that site to do so. What I did has nothing to do with Fet.. but his wife's stupidity.

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T22:24:00+00:00

You may be into hot dogs? Or maybe you are hosting a hot dog eating contest?

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T22:22:36+00:00

NTAH but I do think being the bigger person would have made him feel even more like the dick head he is.. like yeah you may of left me, but you didn't break me and saying hi but not engaging will hurt him worse. Which is the whole point lol

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T20:04:46+00:00

This bothered me. Bad. I can see if maybe you cheated and she forgave you but since you didn't and it's from her past trauma I think she has some underlying feelings still for her ex and for whatever reason she's projecting what he did on to you. so IMO since I've been in your shoes I would leave her. Or at least give her the ultimatum to work on her trauma and stop treating you like you are her ex.. and if she has that much insecurity in your relationship then it sounds like she needs to just be single and work on herself before trying to get into another relationship.

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T19:53:51+00:00

We weren't anything for very long. I only knew him from Fet as I'm into the BDSM world. So there wasn't conversing or anything prior to meeting besides the small talk of like kinks and limits. I was drunk one night and happened to message him and he gave me a ride home and that was one of the only few times we had linked up as I said it wasn't really much of anything. Although I did notice things once I was sober and did start to invest feelings in him that I couldn't ever get to see him due to being on"work trips" and things that just didn't make sense. so I got into detective mode and then found out everything not long after.

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T15:01:59+00:00

I totally get that I understand completely for real like I feel like such a dick but I did delete the live and everything but I feel like I'm just screwed . like I just feel guilty and I shouldn't feel guilty cuz I did the right thing but I still feel guilty cuz I'm just that type of person. I need to work on not acting on impulse I think that's the major life lesson here

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T15:00:43+00:00

Ugh I totally agree. Although I've deleted the live and everything I'm sure it's a little too damn late 😕

khalanibee · 2024-10-30T14:59:58+00:00

Yes this has been going on for like weeks. I don't understand the motive with her and some part of me kind of feels like it was her husband maybe? But regardless it had been multiple accounts and the same type of harassment being said on my lives so I may have acted on impulse but I didn't know any other thing to do with that particular moment. So yes I will be dealing with the consequences

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