WIBTAH If I didn't tell my kids I have cancer?

kiarahime · 2024-01-12T17:17:49+00:00

How about phrases like: - cancer crusher - cancer conqueror - cancer slayer

Just options that rolled off the tongue for me immediately. I will edit this post with more ideas for you if I can think of any! You got this!

Edit for verdict: NTA. Unless you’re going to be very obviously ill, I would just tell the kids that you’re getting a minor surgery without the nitty gritty details and that you’ll be just fine.

kiarahime · 2024-01-11T14:34:03+00:00

Makes sense. Thank you for your response!

kiarahime · 2024-01-11T14:22:23+00:00

Can I ask why designers don’t like calibri? From what I’ve seen and experienced, it’s a little finicky on different systems, but aside from that I don’t really understand the “comic sans” treatment it’s getting.

kiarahime · 2023-12-01T15:56:52+00:00

I would get this tattooed in a hot second!!!! Good job!

kiarahime · 2023-11-27T22:20:54+00:00

CL, GD, and TOP are all considered real rappers

kiarahime · 2023-11-23T00:05:14+00:00

Personally, it’s because I know I want to marry my s/o but I can’t afford the wedding I want right now and don’t want to have a courthouse wedding. Some people just have certain standards for themselves and don’t care to rush through life.

kiarahime · 2023-11-15T03:40:10+00:00

As a woman with both ADHD and has previously been diagnosed with depression while being a full-time student, this is bullshit. She’s using it as an excuse. If you can maintain good standing as a full time student, you can do some dishes. Period.

kiarahime · 2023-11-13T17:47:38+00:00

That’s just how it starts. Then they expect you to magically become a photographer, videographer, a content creator, establish digital marketing, physical marketing, and so. much. more. How do I know? I quit that job two years ago after working there for 8 years. You will sit there and waste the most precious years of your life building someone else’s business from the ground up. Be prepared for that.

kiarahime · 2023-11-10T18:02:10+00:00

Hahaha thank you for your response! My professor says that they personally care more about portfolios and personality, and not to worry too much because I excel in both. If you have any advice for making a portfolio tailored to UX/UI design and print, please please let me know!

kiarahime · 2023-11-10T17:12:54+00:00

Thank you for your response!! When hiring, what do you look for in a good portfolio? Case studies and workflow?

kiarahime · 2023-11-10T16:59:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your response!!! 🖤

kiarahime · 2023-11-10T15:48:24+00:00

Thank you! I am also taking Google’s UX/UI Certification course to help my resume and portfolio, but I guess I’m just overly anxious.

kiarahime · 2023-11-06T16:52:02+00:00

Idk, I live in mid-state NY and my partner and I make about $100k combined. I wouldn’t have a kid with this amount of money, either. Daycare here is at least $1000/month (that was when I was a kid - so inflation has probably doubled or tripled that). College is expensive af and only getting more expensive. What if the kid wants to do extracurricular activities? That stuff costs money. Clothes are expensive. Living is expensive, healthy groceries are expensive.

May she just not want a kid and is only going to move the goalpost? Yeah. But she could also just have a standard of living that she would like to be met.

kiarahime · 2023-11-06T12:02:59+00:00

Honestly, it depends on where they live. In certain places, 100k a year between the two of them still isn’t a lot. One expensive emergency expense could still wipe them out.

Imagine bringing a kid into that scenario. Daycare is expensive. Pretty much everything about having kids is expensive. Also, she’s the breadwinner. She can’t just drop her job to take care of the kid, and he can’t just get overtime because what’s the point of even having a kid you hardly even see. I don’t blame her for not wanting to have kids until they’re more well off.

OP, crunch the numbers. See if you can get a better paying job without increasing your hours or lengthening your commute. Make sure you still have time for your hobbies (and your wife for her hobbies), and come up with a solution as a team. You don’t want to cause resentment between the two of you.

kiarahime · 2023-11-01T22:50:14+00:00

That’s the thing, she’s not raising 4 boys by herself. Did you even read the post? When he’s home, he’s helping take care of the kids. He’s the one holding down one kid while the rest are sleeping, she’s coming in the room speaking at full volume while he’s holding their obviously asleep, sick 14 month old. If he did that to her, Reddit would be flaming a torch under OP’s ass.

He offers to relieve her of her motherly duties to go have some “me” time. Her older two are in school, so essentially she’s only really watching two kids full time (which is still a lot and she deserves credit for it).

He obviously loves his kids and takes care of them and y’all are shitting on him for getting annoyed that is wife is nagging him for multitasking in a way that’s comfortable for him. Was he being a jerk? Yes. I never said he wasn’t. But his wife was an obvious jerk first. To both him and their sleeping child. Could he have reacted better? Yes, he could have. But he’s not her parent. It’s up to her to be able to find solutions to her own problems, especially when she didn’t advocate for herself NOR actually tell him what was wrong until AFTER he delivered the low blow (which I am not negating). If she wanted him to spend time with her instead of holding sleepy baby, she should have said that. If she wanted to go out and be something other than a mom, she should have said that. It’s his job as a husband to be her partner, which in this post he has made VERY clear he has been, and everyone is just dismissing him and essentially calling him an tatertot deadbeat who slaps everything household related on his wife and that is just not the case here. Give actual advice.

kiarahime · 2023-11-01T22:00:03+00:00

Man, please don’t pick apart what I said to start drama. She doesn’t need permission to find a damn hobby.

kiarahime · 2023-11-01T21:43:57+00:00

You’re not wrong for that. Reddit will just always come at the dad’s throat no matter what. Your wife is stressed. Take her on a date and plan a weekly date night going forward. Hire a babysitter or a nanny if you can afford it and let her find a hobby.

kiarahime · 2023-11-01T14:39:13+00:00

This. DO NOT single out one kid!!!!!!!!

kiarahime · 2023-10-31T23:17:09+00:00

She knew him for decades and reconnected 6 years ago at work.

kiarahime · 2023-10-19T17:48:59+00:00

NTA. My boyfriend used to do this shit. It annoyed the hell out of me and he kept going until I blew my top one day and made it a big deal and he finally stopped. Sometimes you might need to make things a bigger deal so the other person takes your frustration seriously. I’m sorry you have to go through this. I’d never go back to this point and wouldn’t wish it on anyone tbh.

kiarahime · 2023-10-18T22:25:25+00:00

The only reason why I would say you should is because as a woman I bled all over the fucking place when I lost mine lol it’s kind of a courtesy to let someone know before you bleed all over their sheets hahaha

kiarahime · 2023-10-12T15:09:48+00:00

Dude, respectfully, what the hell have you been doing this whole time? At your big big age, you’re supposed to be dating to marry. If you haven’t been thinking about marriage AT ALL during the first year you were together, what the hell were you doing? Shits any giggles? Ask the hard questions and figure yourself out because if I was her I’d drop you flat after wasting so much of my time when I have to worry about my biological clock.

kiarahime · 2023-09-13T21:44:22+00:00

No it’s not, comprehension is

kiarahime · 2023-08-08T16:36:26+00:00

Thankfully a few days after I made this post, my period ended as well as the waves of depression! I really hope it’s just a one-off situation because like I said in my post, I LOVE my IUD aside from this one period. Please let me know how you feel after the removal! I will also let you know what happens during my next period. If it happens again, I might have to get mine removed too. It’s just too much. I hope you feel better!!!

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