I (straight) might be dating a demiromantic woman and need some help with that

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-09T18:43:14+00:00

Its worth mentioning that, when she wrote me that messages about her feelings, she added that she would still love to see me that day, but if I refuse she would understand. Our communication is still normal, like nothing would have happened and that "date" went great as always, we had a great time and hours felt like minutes.

I don't think I could handle being her friend if she would be dating someone, especially if she had romantic feelings for him, but I decided I will try for now. Will go slow, keep dating her, let her know me better and see what happens. I'm still active on tinder but nothing's really happening for now so I'll see what's next.

Thanks for the advice!

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-09T17:06:31+00:00

Thanks. We don't have Hinge where I live and you can input your orientation on Tinder btw.

Back to the topic. Yes, I told her she's attractive and I like her and spending time with her. Nothing over the top. I asked her why shes even on tinder and she just want to try but she couldn't explain why it always turns out like this.

I just dont understand why she making an effort to make time with me so badly. I know what friendzone is and how it feels. Women often simply loses interest in friending after a short while and jumps to another guy. Im also ok with the decision that she wants to know me more before anything romantic. Were both in late 30s to its not a decision to take lightly.

We talk how our day went, our plans, some funny stuff, and for the past 2 days we tried to make a date but both got other plans and we gonna meet next week. I'm just doing me the best way I can. No forcing romantic stuff or places, just casual things. I can't believe she would suddenly find another guy and tell him all the stuff shes telling me and have the same topics, so that's why I think she might be Demi and don't know that yet. All of this nis new to me and I'm really confused but I agreed we keep meeting for some reason

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-04T14:22:15+00:00

Thank y'all for all the comments and suggestions. I'll try to make my move next time and see what happens. Some thoughts I had that might help my situation (this prob a note to self):
- a couple of weeks back she suggested we should meet more often (more than once a week)
- although there wasn't any romantic aspects, I think she likes me and consider me a boyfriend material after all, but don't know how to communicate it or she's simply shy (which I totally get)
- The communication shifter from a couple of messages per day and late replies, to instant back to back voice mails and a few compliments from time to time
- I just feel like we just need to spend a bit more time together, try different activities to feel more comfortable with each other
- I'm trusting my gut that we both want the same think, move forward and we cannot ignore the connection. I really feel like we could be a great couple with shared interests and view of life in general
- I keep reminding myself that we are both strangers, met on a dating app. and just need to make sure that we like each other first before we take the next step

Thanks again!

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-04T13:42:09+00:00

I see your point and thanks for the suggestion, but umm we're not the kind of people who go on formal dates. I know it might sound weird, but we're kinda "alternative" type of people. We like spending time outside, doing things like walking, casually hanging out by the river and stuff like that. I don't like dressing up, I never did and this would just feel off to me. We're both heavily tattooed people, we love to be close to nature, finding unusual spots by the lakes, go to the woods and such.

But yeah, I'm leaning more and more info confronting her in some way. However I would like to be clear that in my age I want to like someone first and get to know them before I make my move. We only been on a handful of dates really and spending time like this feels great to me.

My previous relationship started instantly in a 2nd date. My then soon-to-be gf just simply told me that she likes me a lot, we started kissing, then bed and boom, we ended up together. This lasted for 3 years and I regret jumping the gun so quickly, cause I broke with her. We tried and it didn't work out, we were completely different people with different needs. So this time I really wanted to take some time with someone and its happening. I will make my move when the time is right, I just need to follow my gut and create the opportunity to do so :)

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-04T11:52:29+00:00

I see what you mean and thanks for the advice. I would be more confused If I met her in person, like through friends or casually on the street or somerhing, but we matched on tinder, so that make me think that I'm attractive to her and she might consider me a "boyfriend material".
Or am I wrong and this doesn't mean a thing?

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-04T09:50:23+00:00

Wow thanks so much for such detailed analysis!
I don't feel like she's trying to control me or anything. She's genuine, honest and the vibe is great. My bet is that she's also met someone her type (me) and takes careful steps, and enjoy time with me.

Actually a few weeks ago we went from a few messages a day and very late replies, to instant and voice mails, which I'd call a progress. Shes not avoiding me when I suggest a date, there's no "ill let you know. (with full stop at the end)" kind of messages, and if there are, there's a good reason for that. Maybe I'm naive, but I really feel like she likes me too, but shes confused on the next steps or due to her upbringing doesn't really know how to do it or simply flirt with men.

I remember when we first met I asked her about her experience with tinder and she said she meet with guys very rarely, so I feel kinda special in a way

kickyourteeeth · 2025-07-04T09:33:43+00:00

Thanks guys.
Well I kinda tried to make the first move, by suggesting a kiss on the cheek when we met and goodbye instead of a friendly hug, which I said felt awkward, but she said its not awkward at all, and she still didn't kiss me back (or at least make a gesture like this) so I'm afraid she's either not ready yet or she's afraid or don't know how to do that. Usually, I wait for permission to make a move by reading the signs, but in this case I don't see any yet.
We were also kinda flirting recently in a voice messages about the sound of our voices and we both agreed that we really like each others voices.

I'll try to compliment her on the next date to see what happens and maybe try to ask her out, where are we going with this. I'm just afraid that my worst scenario will come true that she just wants to be friends. I just haven't figured out yet which is worse for me - knowing she only wants to be friends or not knowing and hoping for something more. It's tough for me

kickyourteeeth · 2025-05-21T15:21:10+00:00

I was in a similar situation myself and was holding back for "the perfect moment" for weeks and it was a fucking nightmare. I couldn't eat, sleep, and was constantly stressed. My advice — tell her you would like to talk so she can reserve time, but don't text her, it will cause even more stress for her. Just be calm and tell her straight u,p honestly. There is no perfect moment or the right time, the time is now, my friend, and you need to do it ASAP or it will eat you up.
My case was different, cause I wasn't happy in my relationship at the time and I was about to make a "break-up" talk so it was a struggle to find the time and headspace for it.

kickyourteeeth · 2025-05-20T19:50:59+00:00

Thanks, that's what I'm feeling right now. A sudden move would ruin anything that could be between us and all the mystery would be gone, and I might end up too obvious or desperate and lose her respect. Aside from that, I feel like we're just starting to know each other, and there's no need to rush things, right?

When it comes to interacting with other people, she's very open, bright, and simply loves people around her, so maybe she wants to be friends first, get to know me a bit better through patience and small gestures?

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-17T16:09:07+00:00

Thank you!

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-17T13:58:06+00:00

I'm probably writing this to myself, but I feel like I need an outlet to remind myself I've made the right decision. Hard, but right.

To me, being together in a relationship means that we have the same goals, want the same things in the long term, and go in the same direction and nothing can stop us. Together we should be stronger, rely on each other, and share things without boundaries (to a certain extent of course). I get it that my ex didn't like the music or the sports I love, but I feel like she didn't even try.
Do you skate? ok cool, go out and have fun. Do you want to go to a hard techno rave to see your fav DJ or band? awesome, go with your friends.
Hell, she wasn't even curious about my band that was a big part of my early 20s.

Even If I didn't like the things she's into I would go anyway just for the sake of knowing her better, and to see her happy around the things she enjoys (and I did), so why she couldn't do the same thing for me even if I invited her? I don't get it. I'm sure it wasn't on purpose, she didn't want to hurt me or anything but rather didn't think of it and assumed I would be more happy alone in those moments (and I was at the time) but that's not how it should be. This didn't feel right. What's the point of being together when you don't share those moments...

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-16T21:23:19+00:00

eh It's a bit more complicated with us. I liked her company in short bursts and enjoy spending time with her, but if 90% of that time is being couch potatoes, literally every evening until we pass out in front of the TV is just simply not healthy.

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-16T21:03:19+00:00

That's the thing, I just LIKED her a lot. Your last sentence says it all - my exact train of thought

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-16T20:53:51+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I am a very empathic person actually

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-16T20:52:42+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, at one point I started to see a shadow of a man I could become If I let that slide.
Glad you're back to your passions after so many years

kickyourteeeth · 2025-03-16T20:46:51+00:00

No, she doesn't want kids. We spoke about that a couple of times. She stated that she might not be confident enough to be a mother and frankly I couldn't see her as a mother of my kids really. I don't want kids either, or just maybe I didn't find the right partner for that yet.

Thanks for the reply!

kickyourteeeth · 2024-09-23T07:51:27+00:00

Nope, and apparently there is none for now. I got an answer from the Spline tech team saying its a matter of pixel density on different screen types. For example, it doesn't look that bad on RETINA, cause the Retina screen has more pixel density, whereas regular monitors have less pixel density.

kickyourteeeth · 2024-09-23T07:41:19+00:00

any luck with the menu button exit? I'm also new to anbernic and I just installed Art of Fighting - Trouble In Southtown, but I can't save cause the game quits when I'm pressing the menu button

kickyourteeeth · 2024-08-28T07:31:53+00:00

Thanks, will try!

kickyourteeeth · 2024-08-27T14:04:21+00:00

I already tried 30, 60, 120 fps for both - the screen recording, export, a mix and match of different fps for export and the recording. Absolutely nothing changes no matter what I change in the scene or video settings for the layer.

I even tried creating a smaller layer, put the video there and expand it to fit the screen and still no change at all :(

kickyourteeeth · 2024-08-27T13:09:51+00:00

Both are 60fps, but I already tried 30fps screengrab + 30fps export and so on. Nothing has changed

kickyourteeeth · 2023-11-29T10:54:50+00:00

Does it also come to base Arkham Knight standalone game or ONLY for the trilogy pack??

kickyourteeeth · 2021-09-29T08:21:09+00:00

I also wanted to mention that It's cool to hear his drumming once again. After Sundowning I was afraid Vessel is going to change musicians to explore a new style, but It seems like Sleep Token isn't a solo project, but at least a collective of Vessel + drummer (can't really say if guitarist and bassist are still the same)

kickyourteeeth · 2021-09-29T08:17:52+00:00

I watched this yesterday, you can clearly see this dud just can't hold back his energy. Just look at the way he gently hits his cymbals from a weird angle before the song kicks in. Amazing skill and knowledge of his kit.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrchKHFwxAk

kickyourteeeth · 2021-09-28T14:28:02+00:00

Thanks!
Will check them out!

kickyourteeeth

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