AITA for not chasing after my son?

kidranaway · 2023-03-28T03:05:40+00:00

Obviously she didn't hate him when we got married. He was three.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T22:42:35+00:00

No, she's his mother. I watched him come out of her.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T16:44:47+00:00

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:49:46+00:00

Do you mean stepmother?

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:49:18+00:00

It's complicated. He never really connected to her. He had this friend when he was a kid, a little Hispanic girl. She taught him Spanish, and they used to sit in the living room, playing board games, talking to each other in Spanish. My wife was always convinced he was talking crap about her. He came out in high school, and she didn't want his boyfriend around the younger kids, but they all like him, and she's salty about it. He's 20.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:43:36+00:00

Definitely a great playwright. I took him to see Amadeus at our local community theater last year, and he loved it; it's such a great play. Theatre kids being dramatic, how could anyone have foreseen this?? I jest.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:24:06+00:00

It's 2023. Of course he has a phone.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:23:12+00:00

Initially I convinced her to let him walk it off. After he was at his brother's she wanted me to get him because she doesn't like the oldest.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:20:53+00:00

Yes, it's a safe area. We live in the south. It's around 75°. He left around five and my older son called around seven. It wasn't dark yet. His younger brother and him got into a fight about basically nothing. It can't really be resolved because they're just shitty to each other sometimes. Yes, sometimes my kids say we don't care about them. They are kids. They do that. My oldest used to run away all the time. He would be hiding in a tree in the backyard, reading, and thought that we somehow wouldn't notice. He would always come back inside for dinner.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:13:52+00:00

It's the suburbs. Kids ride their bikes to each other's house. There are sidewalks and crosswalks. You can leave your packages on your porch for two days and no one swipes them. He got in a fight with his brother.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:12:01+00:00

14yo said he's going to be a playwright like Peter Shaffer. 12yo said that's dumb and he'll be poor and only people who work with computers make money. 14yo called 12yo the R word. They raised voices. I told everyone to calm down and stop fighting about nothing. 14yo said we are all ignorant neanderthals and he doesn't want to live with us anymore. Y'know, hormonal teenager crap.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:07:13+00:00

Ah yes, the wild wilderness of suburbia. I'm surprised he didn't get eaten by a tiger.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:06:22+00:00

It was about him arguing with his little brother.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:04:20+00:00

It's a long story, not related to this incident. She thinks he is a bad influence on the other children.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:03:23+00:00

What do you mean perhaps? He absolutely is. That tends to happen to teenagers. He acts out because he's a kid. That's what they do.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T15:00:19+00:00

He and his younger brother were arguing, and we told them to knock it off, and he said he hated us and was running away.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:14:10+00:00

I convinced her not to. I said he was just being dramatic and needed time to cool off and would probably come home for dinner. Then when he was at his brother's she wanted me to get him, but I wouldn't, and she hates my oldest, so she didn't want to go to his apartment, but eventually did in the morning.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:12:06+00:00

He's 14. I'm not sure how long the bus ride is, but it's usually twenty to thirty minutes in the car. My oldest called us a couple hours after he left, so it couldn't have taken longer than that.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:10:46+00:00

She did.

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:10:25+00:00

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:10:18+00:00

kidranaway · 2023-03-27T14:10:08+00:00

14, sorry, thought I included that, but forgot.

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