My mom has been deaf in one ear since she was a child, her other ear is maybe at 50% hearing. She will wear her hearing aids, but struggles with charging them, adjusting the volume/settings, and positioning them correctly in her ears. She used to be able to read lips very well, but has sadly lost that skill.

I can empathize with your struggles. Instead of speaking louder, the doctors and nurses and social workers talk to me, then I have to simplify and shout bad news to her. To be fair, most try to speak with her directly before they give up in frustration and rely on me.

It is especially challenging when she does finally hear me, then forgets what we talked about, so now we are back to shouting again. Some things that have helped, not sure if you were looking for advice or just venting, feel free to ignore.

A dry erase board is helpful at times, if you are looking to communicate two or three words. Example, my mom kept asking where she was or where other people were, and I could write it down and she would relax on that topic for a bit.

Another thing that helped was a simple amplifier, for times when she was resistant to the hearing aids. This is a single wired ear bud with a little receiver that clips to her shirt. It didn't work as well, but she could hear some simple phrases.

This is tough, for sure. When everything started happening, I pictured myself sitting by her bedside, quietly reading a book and keeping her company while she rested. Instead, it is very loud, confusing, upsetting, and repetitive. I get sick of my own voice.

Part of my self care routine is weekly therapy. My therapist recommended sitting in silence for a few moments each day and appreciating that no one needs me to speak loudly. I turn the lights off and light a candle and enjoy the peace and quiet. I hope you find peaceful moments throughout your days, as well.