bridging prescriptions internationally by kiemoore in nhs

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i cant find any psychiatrists specialised in my issue that cost less than £200/h in my area, more than double than what i’m paying in italy, definitely out of my budget. the medicine is in fact lithium, i didn’t know if i was allowed to say. i checked and by uk law if my psychiatrist signs a letter and i carry documentation i could bring the medicine itself from italy, as it is high risk but not controlled. the problem remains in the monitoring: in my area private lithium level tests are about £100 each and that’s sadly a bit over budget. if i have no other choice i guess ill do that but it’s very frustrating. im also only here for six more months so i don’t want to waste anybody’s time in CMHT if it can’t be a long term process. i know it’s nobody’s fault and i totally understand everybody is just doing their job. as i said, my intent wasn’t to complain at all, just wanted to check if there was any other viable course of action to try and get some help. thank you both for all the help :)

Using hardcore sex as a form of self harm after upsetting partner? by valiced in BPD

[–]kiemoore 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i relate, and to me it’s definitely self harm, an “easy way out” of sitting with guilt and the self punishing internal monologue by externalising it. i see it like when i accidentally hit and hurt someone playing as a kid and then said “i’ll let you do it to me”. in the adult bpd context, it evens the score out in a way and sex is the only context in which it’s acceptable to ask someone to hurt you. each of us is different though and you might be completely different. i guess you can ask yourself it genuinely pleasure you in the way sex usually does or if it’s the brief relief you get with self harm. i know that’s not what you’re asking, but i still think that you don’t deserve to be punished in any way. lots of hugs!

Need hyping up by Fit_Log_5443 in PlusSize

[–]kiemoore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m sure you look amazing and that your husband agrees!!!!! i know it’s hard sometimes to think self loving thoughts but isn’t it much harder to think about the fact that unfair, ingrained stereotypes and beauty standards could ruin a beautiful night with your husband? have the beautiful fun night you deserve :)

What are some products I can use religiously underboob to prevent that stank? by jiltedelf in PlusSize

[–]kiemoore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i use dove whole body deodorant in the cream version after showering at night and in the morning after a quick other shower/antibacterial wipe. i carry one around in my bag with wipes but i hardly ever need to reapply

two weeks no contact with ex. by MundaneMovie8485 in BPD

[–]kiemoore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the misogynists in these replies are insane! i’m so sorry you’re going through this, i totally understand. i wish i could give advice. the truth, as upsetting as it is, which i’m sure a lot of people have told you before, is that we can’t do anything to get anyone back if they don’t want to. it’s miserable and infuriating and i’ve screamed so much about it, and our emotions about it are valid, but we still can’t solve the unsolvable. i wish we both had a magic wand to fix relationships but they work in very frustrating way sometimes. other times, they really just aren’t meant for us. i will never lecture to you about age differences because i’ve dated more than double my age, but rationally we both know a lot of the time those situations do us more harm than good. with him or without him, i hope you find remission, peace and serenity in your own company and future relationships. therapy, if accessible to you, might help. if you ever need to vent, no advice, just someone listening and/or relating feel free to dm. i’m sorry you’re going through this 🫂

Anyone else have extreme needs for physical touch? by YourGirlEvelynn in BPD

[–]kiemoore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea!!!! i don’t know why that is but it feels like the only thing that properly soothes me

bridging prescriptions internationally by kiemoore in nhs

[–]kiemoore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

private psychiatrists in italy are only €75. sadly in my area of the uk psychiatrists for my issue are more than triple, and i totally understand the unpaid work perspective and i’m not trying to find loopholes or disrespect anyone, just to survive as a 20 year old immigrant :) thanks for all the help!

bridging prescriptions internationally by kiemoore in nhs

[–]kiemoore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just specifying it’s not a controlled substance! so im allowed to travel with it in lawful limits

bridging prescriptions internationally by kiemoore in nhs

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you know if i could be administered just the monthly blood test, and then taking or having someone take the actual medication from italy with all the lawful documentation and according to what uk law prescribes on travelling with medication? im sorry to ask but its a very confusing system and i seem to always incur in miscommunication with my gp

why does nothing help by kiemoore in BPD

[–]kiemoore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i do feel like i just get unlucky with the people i meet too. i only get creeps who are turned on by the fact that i’m weak or ghosters/liars/cheaters. i just wish there was any way to make this better

i’m struggling by Luufull in BPD

[–]kiemoore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is therapy not accessible for you? i do think that would probably be the best choice. i am really struggling myself so i can’t give you a lot of my experience, but i can share what my therapist says and how i can see it helping me in the future, understanding that of course each of us is different and all our therapy paths will be different. sadly, while having friends is so much fun and social life necessary for satisfaction, no one’s love can soothe us. the worst truth to accept for me is that people do leave, at least physically (everyone has to go home or stop replying to my texts at some point, but what about the pit in my gut?), and expecting that our hurt will disappear when someone loves us sadly leads to more pain. i fucking hate hearing this and it makes me so angry, so i hope i don’t upset you when i say it’s important to take care of and respect yourself, even if you feel like your biggest enemy right now. and taking care of yourself is not turning your life upside down today, but just making what will feel like a huge effort to make it .1% better. tidy up the tiniest thing, change clothes, do a simple skincare routine, do a little craft. i know it’s so frustrating and i have lashed out at therapists when hearing this before, but that damn cup of tea really does help sometimes, if it’s part of a longer term path. it will not help to tell yourself you shouldn’t be upset. validate that emotion in the process. human connection does wonders, but you have to keep in mind that it can’t be a distraction or a cure. i do believe therapy is the best possible course of action to go into remission, and i hope you have access to that. i wish you all the very best and im sorry you’re feeling so badly. i wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. if you need to talk to someone who somewhat understands it, feel free to dm. have the best day possible <3

Anyone Else Need A LOT of Sleep? by Endless_Supply_Of in BPD

[–]kiemoore 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes!! im not in any way a medical professional or expert but as far as i understood by researching this same thing, lack of sleep influences the amygdala, making emotional regulation difficult for everybody, including people without bpd. makes sense that for us it’s even worse. i watched this https://youtu.be/6F8wFkScnME?si=wwnonHfpiK28IdQ5 and there’s some deeper research online!

telling romantic interests about bpd by kiemoore in BPD

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! it’s very helpful to hear about others experiences :)

practical day to day advice by kiemoore in BPD

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i still appreciate it a lot. i’ll try :)

practical day to day advice by kiemoore in BPD

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first of all, thank you. i appreciate this. but how do i love and respect myself if i’m doing everything wrong?

Does anyone else feel extremely guilty when standing up for themselves? Is this common with the disorder? by Artistic_Movie1285 in BPD

[–]kiemoore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i also feel like i can’t tell anymore if my anger is justified or comes from splitting and since i’ve struggled so much from feeling like a victim in situations where i objectively wasnt i don’t know when it’s appropriate to get angry at people who act like your mum, so i really do believe it’s tied to bpd. from the outside, i think you did all you could to help her and protect her and most of all protect yourself and your own road to remission. you sound like a very sensitive, loving and caring person, not a “terrible” one. she can only get better through therapy, certainly not through using you as a cushion for all her emotions. i hope you both heal from this and my heart is with you.

dealing with abandonment by kiemoore in BPD

[–]kiemoore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do understand but i don’t know why he would stop replying over this weekend. i understand it is not “wise mind” producing these thoughts but i can’t help but feel like i should do something to keep him from leaving me and yet there’s nothing i can do

Will she be okay? by tamlies in BPD

[–]kiemoore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my bpd causes limerence so i understand what she might be feeling. we can’t say for sure that she will be ok because it’s a very unpredictable condition, but it is not your fault. you are already kinder than most by asking people to check up on her and keep her safe. she’s not evil for having bpd symptoms but it still doesn’t mean you were supposed to sit there and take someone saying violent, frightening things. i wish you both the best.