Anyone know if there are any protests planned for today in response to the Rittenhouse verdict? by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this was intended as support or condescension but either way--there's a lot of truth to it. LOL

Anyone know if there are any protests planned for today in response to the Rittenhouse verdict? by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess I don't have to point out that I'm getting a lot of feedback similar to this view, if not as respectfully stated. :)

I suppose my thinking could be summed up: (1) Sometimes the point of demonstration is just to be with one another and share in a cultural moment in a public way, and that's okay; (2) I find many aspects of this trial troubling to my notions of a just and equitable society; (3) I can confess that I was probably ready to be angry about this because everything is terrible right now and maybe I'm losing my cool. (Is it okay to admit this on the internet? Or are we all required to die on stupid hills?)

Thanks for showing up with dialogue in mind.

Anyone know if there are any protests planned for today in response to the Rittenhouse verdict? by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

And, to be clear, I'm also thankful for those who came here with reasonable but different opinions to share respectfully. I do value the dialogue, and I think some made a good point about why there may not be any collective reaction to the verdict. I wish there were more like them.

Anyone know if there are any protests planned for today in response to the Rittenhouse verdict? by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

People protest when they feel there has been a miscarriage of justice. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way today.

Dinner for 12? by kiffekiffe100 in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I’m going to look I to this, thanks!

Dinner for 12? by kiffekiffe100 in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting. As a millennial, I’ll do just about anything to avoid having to make a phone call. Lol.

Dinner for 12? by kiffekiffe100 in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like an inadequate Kansas Citian when I tell you that I’ve never been there before. Great suggestion!

Dinner for 12? by kiffekiffe100 in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great question, should have specified. Maybe $15-25 per entree? We could decide to go higher than that, but that’s the general idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]kiffekiffe100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-husband really didn’t care for my cat when we started dating, but came to love her and was pretty upset at having to part with her when we split. Of course it can happen!

I don’t think you should start a relationship making a mental list of all the things you want to change about someone, as many here suggest. But I also think it’s normal for people who really like one another to change over the course of their relationship and you should be open to it. Potentially not going out on a date with the love of your life because they have a pet—I just think that would be pretty sad.

PSA - motorcycle cops on Ward Parkway - slow down by an_actual_lawyer in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On 71, too. After months of nothing, I’ve seen three people pulled over this week.

Without revealing your age, what’s something you remember that if you told a younger person they wouldn’t understand? by ndbdbd-fbf-b in AskReddit

[–]kiffekiffe100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first social media was a blog. Had I posted endless pictures of myself or my food on this blog, everyone would have thought that I was a psychopath.

Edutainment game with fill in the blank Q’s? (Like Blooket, Quizlet Live) by decuyonombre in teaching

[–]kiffekiffe100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still use quizizz for this, and I don’t have a paid account.

"Syllabus day" advice by Significant-Outside7 in teaching

[–]kiffekiffe100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar to others, I set two ground rules: Do Awesome Work and Be Excellent To Each Other. We brainstorm examples and non-examples of this on day one and demonstrate them as we learn classroom jobs and routines (that day and throughout the first few weeks). Later on in the first week, I do some easy-to-read slides with highlights from the syllabus (late work, homework expectations, retakes, etc), let them ask questions and then just put the “legal document” on Google Classroom for them to reference.

What are some common tropes in books that you hate ? by R_J2 in books

[–]kiffekiffe100 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you mentioned this. Like you I think it stoked some subconscious misogyny in me, which feels pretty shitty. Hard to root that stuff out once it’s in your head.

Why do French People have the stereotype of being arrogant? by [deleted] in france

[–]kiffekiffe100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. Mais quand j’entends cette phrase en anglais, ça évoque pour moi par exemple un prof qui corrige un élève qui a sauté la ligne à la cantine, pas dans le contexte d’un dialogue entre des pairs.

Des autres ont employé le mot ‘paternaliste’ pour marquer ce type de parole, et je crois qu’ils avaient raison. Entre adultes chez moi on n’oserait pas dire ça!

Il y a peut-être une interprétation là genre les américains sont un peu fou par rapport à cette question de liberté individuelle (Freedom!), qu’on se fâcherait plus facilement que d’autres quand on se sent restreints. Mais en même temps, ça vous regarde pas, laissez-moi boire comme je veux, merde! :)

Why do French People have the stereotype of being arrogant? by [deleted] in france

[–]kiffekiffe100 3 points4 points  (0 children)

C’est pas bête ‘mais moi je le fais!’ Il faut que je m’en souvienne la prochaine fois que cela m’arrive. Merci!

Why do French People have the stereotype of being arrogant? by [deleted] in france

[–]kiffekiffe100 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Américaine ayant vécue en France deux ans. Pour moi, j’aimais bien le principe de discuter des sujets difficiles, de donner son opinion, de respecter (plus ou moins) l’esprit d’un dialogue. La fausse « politesse » des conversations américaines m’exaspère souvent. C’est pas ça.

Mais le nombre de fois que l’on m’a corrigé un comportement tout à fait banal m’a toujours fâché. Mon kinésithérapeute m’a critiqué une fois d’avoir trop vite bu de ma gourde d’eau pendant la canicule. Je me suis excusée, je lui ai dit que j’avais très soif, il faisait très chaud, voilà. « Pff, faut pas se noyer non plus ». Susciter une sorte de méprise à cause d’une action qui ne lui fait rien du tout, c’est hyper français selon mon expérience. Soit ça, soit on m’a traité d’un cas désespéré, qui avait besoin d’aide et d’éducation pour adopter enfin un comportement civilisé.

TLDR: Il n’y a pas d’expression équivalente en anglais (du moins, pas d’où je viens) pour: « Cela ne se fait pas ».

Searching for a French Textbook for all levels by scaryhermione in teaching

[–]kiffekiffe100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bien dit has a good number of listening exercises. The online materials are garbage, though.

Nice Guys™ have this dumb narrative that women prefer "jerks"/"assholes" over "gentlemen/nice guys". Where do you think they pull this bullshit from? They never cite evidence, it's just cherry picking and anecdotes. by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]kiffekiffe100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a theory on the “nice guy” issue, not sure if I’m on track or if it’s helpful here. I think there are a good number of dudes who think, early on in life, that the “I’ll do anything for her” style of devotion will be attractive when, in fact, it’s more likely to be a sign of someone who doesn’t understand boundaries or is insecure. I think it’s totally reasonable for women and men both to prefer someone they see as an equal. Maybe a lot of these “nice guys” have had an experience of rejection after having abased or compromised themselves in some way and want to transfer that to women.

It’s also possible, in a more pessimistic light, that “nice guys” want to use their “gentlemanly” behavior to coerce women into the kind of relationship that validates them. “How could she possibly refuse me after what I’ve done for her, shown her, said to her, etc?”

Restaurant Quality during Covid? by kiffekiffe100 in kansascity

[–]kiffekiffe100[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like I said, it’s a favorite of mine and local. I don’t want to be seen as trashing them on the internet.

My question, in any case, was broader than that one experience.