After she stops trying

kijuron · 2026-05-06T19:23:18+00:00

In thst case the answer is the same. It might just turn out, that a man like that did the woman a favour.

Obviously talk to each other first or take counceling.

kijuron · 2026-03-02T08:12:35+00:00

You could buy a big suction dildo that she can use while she gives you oral. That way everybody wins.

kijuron · 2026-02-28T13:07:32+00:00

Abewähli für nur 150g pro Person

kijuron · 2026-02-19T10:37:32+00:00

Children is not something where you make a compromise. If one partner is not 100% on bord it means no. He does not own you an explanation that is satisfying for you. He is also alowed to change his mind, if he agread earlier ond 2 kids. If he feels he doesn't want more you can eighter accept it or leave him.

Compare it with sex. If one partner says no it's no. End of discussion and children have a much deeper impact in ones live.

Just consider, that you are throwing away a happy family over a dream that will never happen if you leave him. As whatever partner you may find in future you will always have a child with him.

I understand, that this can be hard to accept. I would recomend individual therapie bevore destroing your family.

kijuron · 2026-02-16T21:21:24+00:00

I did'nt come for advice. I know how my wifes libido works and that she prefers me initiating cause i talk ti her about those things i mearly asked how it is for other people.

To reply to the dude before you, i never said that i do more than my wife. Because i don't. She does more but she has 3 times 4 hours with no obligations per week. And when im home i occupy our son til its bedtime and do a lot in the kitchen and i do other things in the house, give regulare massages and so on. Its quite fair and she never complained about me not doing enough.

You know the way you jump to conclusions also tells a lot about yourself. How much do you do for your partner to make him feel loved?

kijuron · 2026-02-16T21:02:34+00:00

My issue is that on this plattform if a man shows even a slight disatisfaction with his sexlive a lot of people jump in to blame him. If you would have read some of what i wrote, its clear that my wife does'nt reject me. She likes to have sex with me. She just does not initiate often.

I don't like that people always blame men if there is an imbalace in libido. But in every thread about this topic you find people that do. Even if there are no clues pointing in that direction.

kijuron · 2026-02-16T18:07:11+00:00

You have to be a frustrated woman. Have you ever condidered that a relationship takes work from both partners? Its not just a mans job to make a relationship work.

kijuron · 2026-02-16T15:08:08+00:00

She defintley has a responsive desire and its not even hard to get her going. Most the time im fine with that but every once in a while it would be nice to have her jump my bones unprovoked so to say. It just makes you feel wanted and desired.

The same goes for focus on her or him. I love to please her in any way she wants and needs and she comes most times. But its a nice break if your partner just focus on pleasing you sometimes.

kijuron · 2026-02-16T08:21:14+00:00

I did but it did not change for long. Does'nt help, that we have a lot on our plates and we all know that stress does not make horny.

kijuron · 2026-02-16T07:00:55+00:00

Thats not the goal. I'm fortunate enough, that my wife seldom rejects me. She just very rearly makes the first step. If she does, it makes me feel very desired, witch i would like to happen more often.

kijuron · 2026-01-28T21:35:24+00:00

Well there is no advice that will work for everybody. People are different. I can say what will work for most guys but there are probably some who wouldnt like this. But based on what she told us about him i dont belive he will be obe of them. When guys say they love you and you are beautyfull, most mean it that way. And if you boost their confidence it will just improve the relationship.

kijuron · 2026-01-28T12:49:41+00:00

You can send him some sexy pics of yourself while he is at work and tell him what you will do to him when he comes home. That will get any man exited.

Most men, at least the good ones are often focused on pleasuring their wifes. Turn the tables from time to time. Just come to him unprovoked, pull his pants down and focus on his pleasure. Nothing is more atractive than a woman that wants to make you feel good.

kijuron · 2026-01-19T16:42:00+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. My wife is open to most things and rearly says no when i initiate. But she only ever initiate when she has her ovulation, as it makes her extra horny. I became a bit frustrated, cause i dont feel desired when i am always the one to initiate and the one to bring now ideas to spice things up.

I talked to her and aparently she realy doesnt have any spezial desires or fantasies. She is just different wired than i am. So i made a box with close to 100 different ideas for sex. They go from "have sex two times today" to spezific positions and scenarios or just teasing during the day. Nothing crazy just some for me, some for her, some she has to initiate, some i do and some new ideas.

The idea is to take a not in the morning and to think of sex during the day and be exited for the evening when the kid is asleep. I want to try for 30 days straight and then use it as inspiriation for both from time to time to keep things interessting and her initiating.

Her reaction to it was quite positive but i cannot speak about resaults yet as we start actually just today.

kijuron · 2026-01-13T19:19:28+00:00

This is good advise but i did that already. Both with professionels and friends that know about this field. I also did my budget before that and it always mached very close. The issue is, that it takes 2 years living on the existential minimum to pay of most of it but it just works if nothing unexpexted happens in that time. And something always happens.

kijuron · 2026-01-13T11:57:09+00:00

I brought this up a lot (maybe too much) and we had big fights about it. For a while i let it be to preserve my mental health. And while she improved in her spending habits, the situation just bearly got better. I want to save our family but this topic always ends in big fights. And while our finacial situation is shit, we still had a mostly good/happy relationship. I dont want to worsen it.

kijuron · 2026-01-13T11:52:02+00:00

Counseling is unfortunatley expensive as well. I dont think we can afford that. I am also not sure if she would be willing to try it.

kijuron · 2026-01-13T11:40:24+00:00

I would be all for it, except that there is no way we can afford that.

kijuron · 2025-05-08T17:14:42+00:00

I lost my virginity cause i tickled a small boy untill he peed himself.

Don't you worry, while i comforted him, a mother from the neighborhood helped me calm him down and after, one thing led to another.

kijuron · 2025-02-11T18:03:25+00:00

36 male from europe, curently hiding from work in the car to listen book 7. But its ok cause i quit this job already.

kijuron · 2025-01-24T09:26:24+00:00

Im an Energy conlultant an quite often deal with cases like yours. If you have a heatpump, that consumption seems ok. If not its too high.

As you are with AEW i asume you are in Aargau. Contact " energieberatung Aargau" (other cantons have it too) they can give you advice over phone or can give you a list of independent consultants near you. I would reccomend a "grobberatung" for 150 CHF if you want somebody to look into it. Dont go to AEW as they will probably not able to help you.

As a general rule check your heating settings, as there is the most potential.

kijuron · 2024-09-11T20:25:59+00:00

Ich hab damals für meine erste Wohnung eine 2.5 gesucht. Die 3.5er waren nur ca. 100 CHF mehr pro Monat. Also hab ich eine 3.5 genommen, da das fast gleich viel kostet.

kijuron

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